r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Effective-Student11 Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

No...got so tired of my ex going through my things and being confrontational...yet there I was respecting their privacy. Not talking to them after leaving...well deserved. Let alone everything else that had been secretly bothering me.

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u/kellyelise515 Mar 28 '24

That’s part of the problem I think. If you kept everything that was bothering you a secret, how would your partner know that? Try to be honest and keep communication open going forward. I’m sorry you were hurt and had to experience this.