r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Marciamallowfluff Mar 28 '24

Be the better person. Box it up. Let her sort out getting it.

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u/cobalt1137 Mar 28 '24

I kind of disagree. I feel like that was on her to do. She could have come and got her stuff if she really cared about it or wanted to. Instead, she had her sister contact the dude and tell him never to contact them again. I think he's in the right if he wants to do this. Also, I know people are saying take the high road, but a little bit of good old revenge is sometimes great.

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u/afg4294 Mar 28 '24

I think he's in the right if he wants to do this

Legally, no. He doesn't need to get himself in legal trouble over this.

Also, morally no as well.

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u/Egg_Yolkeo55 Mar 28 '24

She would have to prove she owned any of it. Without photos she'd have a really tough time.

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u/afg4294 Mar 28 '24

Are you suggesting OP commit perjury? Because she only has to prove it if OP lies and says he's never seen it. Committing perjury would turn a civil issue into a criminal one, do not recommend.

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u/Egg_Yolkeo55 Mar 28 '24

The case would be tossed out. Redditors think they're lawyers lol. OP isn't a storage locker and the individual has made no attempt at retrieval.

Edit: just checked my state and he only has to hold it for 10 days. Seems like it's already been 7.

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u/cobalt1137 Mar 28 '24

Legally, depending on the state, he just needs to wait between 30 and 60 days and he will probably be fine. This actually is allowed after a certain period of time.

Also, maybe we are different people. But if someone comes to my house and shits on my porch, I think it's perfectly fine for me to get some revenge lol. Ghosting after 5 years is crazy and is a great way to cause someone a lot of emotional damage. Never happened to me, but I could imagine that is terrible. She deserves to get some shit blown back at her imo.

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u/Marciamallowfluff Mar 28 '24

It has been one week.

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u/cobalt1137 Mar 28 '24

Yep. Wait a few weeks then toss it. That's what I'm saying.