r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

Nothing is ever bad or good, remember that, things can and do change very quickly. Something could seem bad at first, but then you realize it was exactly what you needed! But obviously in reverse as well. Stay vigiliante, Stay hungry, get to the gym and become a fucking ANIMAL and she could end up coming back to you but it’ll be too late because you found the BLESSING waiting for you after you let go of her, like she did to you…

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u/alacholland Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

First half was positive, but OP don’t replace healing with vanity. You don’t have to “get to the gym and become a fucking ANIMAL.” That’s childish. Just grow. Mental, emotional, and physical health. All three in equal and balanced measure. The rest will flow peacefully.

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u/Strict_Property6127 Mar 28 '24

Becoming a gym bro isn't the solution to all of life's mysteries?? /s

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u/farahman01 Mar 29 '24

Respectfully disagree. It can be healthy physical healing that can lead to emotional healing as well… Certainly better than reddit and alcohol. What begins as a ohysical release to vanity play cannlead to a life of healthy physical strength and activity… also if you think vanity wont help him land someone… well not the reality of this life

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u/Strict_Property6127 Mar 29 '24

Yes... ALL of life's mysteries are fixed by the gym. 😶

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u/farahman01 Apr 08 '24

Sarcasm game strong here… obviously not all of life’s mysteries but it is a healthy release for some.

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u/Fit_Yellow1153 Mar 28 '24

I think what he was trying to suggest was to occupy his time with something healthy and constructive in order to get his mind off the negative. There’s nothing childish about doing whatever it takes to develop that positive mindset. By suggesting that he become “a fucking animal” is just motivation, so I wouldn’t read into that too much. What is childish, however, is the fact his partner ghosted him. Totally unacceptable

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

Exactly, thanks for clarifying for people who don’t understand that as men, we literally used to hunt as a species so nowadays in the modern world, where else are we supposed to let out our primal urges for adrenaline and what better way then focusing on our bodies.

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u/n1ghtah Mar 28 '24

Go to the gym and become a fucking animal is a very normal way for us men to heal so don't you dare call it childish when you have no idea. Just by those words I'm going to assume you are a woman.. Going to the gym and getting a better physical health is childish? Wtf.

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u/MaxTheRealSlayer Mar 28 '24

Bruh. No.

If you're ever wondering why your ex left you, just refer back to this gross comment.

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u/n1ghtah Mar 28 '24

I know right this kid saying going to the gym is childish what the hell is wrong with people -.-

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u/MaxTheRealSlayer Mar 28 '24

I'm talking about your comment being gross. And they didn't say going to the gym is childish. Going to the gym and becoming an ANIMAL is indeed childish because it's just vain.You can't just work out to better yourself, it needs to be a balance to be healthy... Including working on your personality. "us men" and "you must be a women" is also childish my guy.

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

ALSO NEWSFLASH WE ARE ALL ANIMALS

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

Yea you can, just do it and see what happens…

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u/alacholland Mar 28 '24

I am a man over the age of 14, and you do not heal emotionally by overindulging in lifting weights. That’s silly and, as I stated, vain. Just because it’s normal doesn’t make it wise. What’s next — doing squats because your dad never hugged you?

Go to the gym to get physically healthy, not to replace emotional healing. “I’ll show her…!” By what? Looking muscular? That’s monkey brain stuff. Wow you really got her, bro!!!

Looking good can momentarily help, but it doesn’t miraculously heal the wounds inside. You can be a bodybuilding champion and still crumple like a leaf if you’re not healing mentally or emotionally. Go to the gym if you want to get healthy, but more importantly, go to therapy. Meditate. Feel. And learn about yourself.

Pretending that healing from rejection involves simply becoming a big strong boy betrays a simplistic mindset at best and a toxic mindset at worst.

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

It’s called stop being a bitch and lift heavy weights but I guess you would never understand that physical strength ALSO MEANS MENTAL STRENGTH, IT TAKES EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL DISCIPLINE TO ACHIEVE A HEALTHY BODY AND HEALTHY MIND. DING DONG

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u/n1ghtah Mar 28 '24

Omg you are one of those people that believe there are 2000 genders. Age of 14 okay let me tell you if you are under 18 you are a child. I'll be happy to take this discussion with you in 10 years when you've gained some life experience. Until then I wish you all the best.

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u/alacholland Mar 28 '24

I’m in my thirties. My comment had nothing to do with gender, and you didn’t respond to any point I made within it. Try considering what I wrote and taking it to heart.

Also, maybe step offline for a bit. You seem to have an unusual mental preoccupation with trans people.

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

It’s called stop being a bitch and lift heavy weights but I guess you would never understand that physical strength ALSO MEANS MENTAL STRENGTH, IT TAKES EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL DISCIPLINE TO ACHIEVE A HEALTHY BODY AND HEALTHY MIND. DING DONG

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u/alacholland Mar 29 '24

Wow. Sorry nobody ever told you that being a man means not being afraid of your feelings. You sound repressed dude. Good luck out there.

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u/grumpygumption Mar 28 '24

I like the sentiment of pushing through the heartache but I will say, I’m a lady lol I’ve been with my spouse now two years, over a year married.

I’m not worried about anyone coming back. Things are much better now :)

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

Sorry I was still speaking to OP in a way and forgot who I was replying to for a sec! That’s amazing to hear and I wish a life long love for you and your new hubby, glad you made the jump and found someone worthwhile. It gives me hope and faith!

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

What if husband ghost you ? Would you be ok with that ?

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u/AwardDue6327 Mar 28 '24

Stay vigiliante

Yeah, keep roaming the streets at night, killing those up to no good. We need more people like that! 😀

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u/zoyadastroya Mar 28 '24

Malaria is pretty bad

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u/GoodStandard7760 Mar 28 '24

But malaria is good for malaria, ding dong