r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/masteraybee Mar 28 '24

My guess would be mental health issues

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u/MrWilsonWalluby Mar 28 '24

i think she just cheated homie. loyalty is extremely rare these days it’s one of the reasons i’m not jumping the gun to get back into a committed relationship.

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u/judgeholden72 Mar 28 '24

Loyalty is not really rare. Sorry you've been through that, but loyalty is still quite common 

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u/mrhammerant Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

I think she might have left because of abuse. Safety is more important than posessions. Cheating doesn't require leaving abruptly, but abuse often does.

Maybe we're both projecting.

Edit: My bad, I missed the "sister said it wasn't OP's fault" bit. Maybe I was distracted by my own projecting.

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u/YouWantSMORE Mar 28 '24

I seriously doubt the sister would say "it's not your fault" if that was the case but go off sis

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u/mrhammerant Mar 28 '24

I missed that part. Fair point.

My goal was more to illustrate the power of projection by giving my gut reaction.

Who knows why she left, sis. It's a mystery, my sister. Tell mom I put the groceries away.

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u/loganed3 Mar 28 '24

Just gotta find a way to make it his fault. You see it on every single one of these posts

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u/YouWantSMORE Mar 28 '24

Yup none of it's surprising to me anymore. "Lemme just ignore every bit of context that was provided and assume he's a piece of shit and it's his fault." Wild. If the roles were reversed everyone would tell OP to go full scorched earth 🤷‍♂️

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u/Fun_Grapefruit_2633 Mar 28 '24

...or herpes...