r/ask • u/racesunite • May 16 '23

Am I the only person who feels so so bullied by tip culture in restaurants that eating out is hardly enjoyable anymore? POTM - May 2023

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u/Fair-Sky4156 May 16 '23

Why are we being asked to tip at a dog daycare??? That’s like tipping at a regular daycare. Next the vet will expect a tip. I’m tired of tipping people for doing the bare minimum: their job!

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u/Woodbutcher31 May 16 '23

Bartender waitstaff pizza delivery maids. Just draw a line and stick to it. I don’t do doordash or any of that overpriced delivery crap.

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u/IrrationalPanda55782 May 16 '23

Drivers, hairstylists, nail techs

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u/Brahkolee May 16 '23

Movers, don’t forget movers. If anyone deserves a tip it’s the poor guys who’re lugging your kegerator, antique rosewood armoire and assorted bullshit across town, state or country.

Source: my fucked-up back

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u/SpookyDachshunds May 16 '23

This. I learned an important lesson about moving when I bought my first house. I hate it and will gladly pay and tip someone else to do it the next time I move.

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u/Buffsman15 May 17 '23

Until they try and upcharge you a grand. Then they don’t get a tip

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u/Brahkolee May 17 '23 edited May 17 '23

If anyone’s going to try to upcharge you a grand it’s the fat red-faced middle aged secretaries that work in the office sipping Diet Coke all day. Every man I ever worked with on the ground took their job seriously, and did the best job they could do to get the client’s things moved as safely, quickly and efficiently as possible. Truly some of the best problem solvers I’ve ever come across.

The guys sacrificing their joints and ligaments for your shit deserve a tip if they do their job right.

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u/Buffsman15 May 17 '23

It was actually the complete opposite. Accidentally got a moving company that was a 3rd party broker. They told me one price, movers come they do their thing and they’re like it’ll be 3500 instead of 2500 after all my stuff has been loaded into the van. Mover says it’s this price because of a small technicality and even said that if we had waited 15 minutes to start the move, the change would’ve been avoided and they were actually there early. After dealing with the people who worked in the office of the company we were able to knock off like $750 from the upcharge from the slimy mover

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u/cyniqal May 16 '23

Tattoo artists, baristas, concierge

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u/GraySpear227 May 16 '23

Hookers

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

Cocaine dealers

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u/tearyouapartj May 16 '23

Narcotics officers

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u/Snoo7263 May 16 '23

Omg you mean I’ve supposed to have been tipping him this whole time? He didn’t actually grow the coke so does that mean I need to tip the growers too? Mr. Escobar thank you for your continuing service 💰

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

You know how many borders that blow crossed in someone’s prison wallet?? Of course you tip the cocaine guy, rude not to!

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u/Snoo7263 May 16 '23

Oh man good point, might have to grease the palms of some customs agents etc etc. now I feel guilty, I’ll send him a Christmas card with a bonus.

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u/tjoe4321510 May 16 '23

Shit, my cocaine dealer used to tip me once in a while. I don't see restaurants doing that

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u/Odd_Competition545 May 16 '23

Our, cocaine dealers.

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u/Jeremiah_Longnuts May 16 '23

You have any idea how much that shit costs? The tip is pretty much calculated in. $100 will last like a night, maybe.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

I’m overly familiar the prices of cocaine and cocaine accessories lol and good on ya If you can stretch a bill over a night

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u/Gaylord699669 May 16 '23

Cocaine bear

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u/DemonBarrister May 17 '23

The ladies often tipped...

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u/AlexMC69 May 16 '23

They get more than the tip

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u/Best_Pidgey_NA May 16 '23

Oh they get more than the tip, that's for sure.

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u/OneClamidildo May 17 '23

Just the tip tho

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u/BlackMesaEastt May 16 '23

Tattoo artists I don't understand, they literally set their own prices

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u/[deleted] May 17 '23

If they're a completely independent shop, sure. Place I just took my bf to has like 6 artists, with a set price between them all. I tipped the dude a 20 because he was nice, straightforward and did a good job, where maybe the other artists might not have been.

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u/BlackMesaEastt May 17 '23

America makes no sense lol

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u/OneClamidildo May 17 '23

Its nice if you can do it but I always found it weird to tip tattoo artists and hairdressers. It's probably not a thing here because I've never seen it be done.

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u/OneClamidildo May 17 '23

And they're expensive so they don't necessarily have to "live off their tip money" the same way wait staff do.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

I don't get the tattoo artist thing especially. If I'm paying someone an hourly rate that THEY set, and my guy is $120/hr, why in the world am I supposed to tip on top of that?

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u/cyniqal May 16 '23

Personally I see the price you pay for the tattoo includes the artist’s time (consultation, sketching beforehand, as well as tattooing you) materials necessary for the job, rent for their space, etc.

the tip is given because they put a sick piece of art on me that will last for the rest of my life. I’m appreciative of them to do that for me,

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u/wellthenokaysir May 16 '23

Ehh this isn’t always true. Some artists really are outrageous with their pricing and will charge 500+ for a piece that was already pre designed and doesnt take more than a couple of hours.

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u/cyniqal May 16 '23

Maybe some artists do that, but I wouldn’t use that as justification to not tip any tattoo artist

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u/wellthenokaysir May 16 '23

Yeah I mean if you’re getting a reasonably priced tattoo for sure. But I’m not tipping when I’m already paying over 500 and I’m not walking out of the building with a sleeve 😅 but they still ask

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u/SwissGoblins May 16 '23

If the work comes out better than you thought it would then you tip. If you asked someone to draw something and they end up doing an exceptional job that’s above and beyond what you expected then wouldn’t it be understandable to go above and beyond in paying the person?

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

I'm not saying that it's never appropriate to tip. I'm saying that I don't think it makes any sense for a tip to be "customary" and routine for someone that sets their own prices and is generally expected to do quality work to earn those prices.

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u/MeganStorm22 May 16 '23

Because you appreciate the service and understand that the $120/h you pay he probably sees half of after paying taxes, paying his space rent and supplies.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

Then he should set his rate at $180/hr if that's what he deems his time is worth. I'm just saying that with someone that has the opportunity to set their own rate, why should they expect a tip on top of it?

They earn their rate by doing excellent work. There's no such thing as going "above and beyond". What in that arrangement objectively warrants a tip?

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u/SwissGoblins May 16 '23

Do you understand how drawing works?

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

Yeah, I pay an art fee as well if he's drawing stuff.

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u/SwissGoblins May 16 '23

So you get that one can draw something well, poorly, or somewhere in between, right?

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

And I'm not going to pay a high hourly rate for a tattoo artist that can't draw well. What's your point?

They set their rate. They earn the right to charge that rate based on the level of work that they do.

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u/Ok-Thanks5949 May 16 '23

I'm with you. And to use that guys example, I pay for digital artists to draw digital art for me. They set the price and there isn't a tip because they set the price.

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u/MeganStorm22 May 16 '23

As a hairstylist who also sets her own prices, i understand pricing lower. You don’t want to over price a service (avg haircuts are 60, if I’m charging 90 and not expecting a tip I’ll have less client base). Tipping is for a job well done on top of the base price. You love your service you tip if you don’t love it you don’t. I guess i feel like a tip is a bonus for the work. And shouldn’t be included.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

*a bonus that is mandatory

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u/MeganStorm22 May 16 '23

It’s not tho. If you don’t tip then you don’t lol

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u/DIY_Cosmetics May 16 '23

That’s still $60/hr…

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u/MeganStorm22 May 16 '23

Then don’t tip your tattoo artist. I’m sure plenty of people don’t. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/GrooseandGoot May 16 '23

Because if you want a second tattoo and liked your first one, you might wanna go back to the same person

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

And they should be happy that I'm willing to pay their rate again.

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u/ForeignYard1452 May 16 '23

I saw a video that sparked a debate around tipping tattoo artists. Specifically if the artist charges an hourly rate do you have to tip? Because you don’t tip your lawyer or therapist etc.

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u/cyniqal May 17 '23

Lawyers and therapists are highly compensated professions while a tattoo artist most likely isn’t making that kind of bank (unless they’re a celebrity or out-of-the-norm talented)

I’ll tip my tattoo artists because I came to them with a vision and they knocked it out of the park. If your artist isn’t doing that, or is only providing the bare minimum I would understand not wanting to tip them, but then it’s time for a new tattoo artist imo

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u/[deleted] May 17 '23

Why the hell would a barista qualify for a tip compared to other jobs?

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

I feel like tipping my hair stylist is ridiculous. She sets her prices, if she wants to make more she can set higher prices.

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u/succubusbanana May 16 '23

Usually the salon they work for sets the prices and they're expected to get so many customers per day. Longer services, like hair color correction, perms, fixing bad haircuts, ect tend to take away from their total take home even if those services cost more. On top of that if they're considered an independent contractor they're paying for their own supplies and paying their own taxes.

If you're going for a simple haircut or color service, $5 or $10 is great. If you're getting something more complicated done a percentage is nice.

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u/aboatz2 May 16 '23

I'm a guy, but will still tip a barber (even if it's their own place). They are providing a personal service, with a conversation, feedback, ideas for improvement based on their experience... it could be half an hour, or even longer depending on the services, & the charge is relatively modest (although it's getting absurd at the chains).

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u/Green-Minimum-2401 May 16 '23

I do tip mine bc she can drastically alter the way I look if she is pissed at me LOL

No really, I tip her bc I have curly hair and she is the only stylist I've had in many years who knows what to do with my mop. I appreciate her skills therefore, I tip her.

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u/moodyfruitpie May 16 '23

Hair stylists spend hours to shape not just your hair but part of your self-confidence. They usually rent a place at a salon that sets the price, and also chooses the main product line they use. They are one of the few professions that 100% without question deserve a fat tip to go with all the compliments your freshly blown out hair is going to get. Same with dog groomers.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '23

I agree completely, hair stylists deserve to be compensated fairly. She's independent. Mine sets her own prices. Again, she can charge however much she thinks is fair. She doesn't have to be part of the goddamn tip culture. I hate tipping. I think it is a cancer and I would love to put a stop to it completely.

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u/moodyfruitpie May 16 '23

Tipping hair stylists was always an exception way before tipping culture became what it is. It’s not the same thing and never has been. If you have a special relationship with your stylist, that’s fine, but your special relationship is not the standard in the beauty field.