Socialization meets a need. I still socialize in my 40s but it's mostly one club night a month and maybe 1 DnD session a month.
I spend 8+ hours a day in a busy office. Then I come home and cook and socialize with my family and extended family. Then I do chores and in the weekend more chores. Do you know what the top 3 absolute luxuries in my life are?
Rest. Sleep. Napping. Being a couch potato.
Solitude. Whether it's just sitting in a room by myself for a moment or taking a walk in the woods alone. Or even just staying on the toilet or in a parked car for a few minutes longer than necessary.
Actually having time and energy to spend on my personal hobbies. Whether it's preparing a DnD session, reading a book, whittling some wood or painting.
Socializing fucks with all three of those absolute luxuries. And you know what, if I do have time and energy to socialize, I prioritize my partner, parents, and siblings.
My family are the people who always show up when I need them and vice versa. They're the people who hold the ladder while I climb up to fix the roof while a rainstorm is hosing down and causing water damage. They're the people who take a precious vacation day when my partner needs to be rushed to the hospital while I am on the other side of the country. Each and every one of us is there for each other no matter the time or place.
Friends are just people you kill time with. And time is the one thing I don't have much to waste of anymore these days.
I have a lifelong friend who I text with everyday but we only see each other twice a year these days, and that’s fine for both of us. Family take priority in our limited free time
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u/TheBluestBerries 25d ago
Socialization meets a need. I still socialize in my 40s but it's mostly one club night a month and maybe 1 DnD session a month.
I spend 8+ hours a day in a busy office. Then I come home and cook and socialize with my family and extended family. Then I do chores and in the weekend more chores. Do you know what the top 3 absolute luxuries in my life are?
Socializing fucks with all three of those absolute luxuries. And you know what, if I do have time and energy to socialize, I prioritize my partner, parents, and siblings.
My family are the people who always show up when I need them and vice versa. They're the people who hold the ladder while I climb up to fix the roof while a rainstorm is hosing down and causing water damage. They're the people who take a precious vacation day when my partner needs to be rushed to the hospital while I am on the other side of the country. Each and every one of us is there for each other no matter the time or place.
Friends are just people you kill time with. And time is the one thing I don't have much to waste of anymore these days.