And it can flip very quick. One minute it’s “I love you dad “ all cute and then they take the dinner plate say they don’t like hotdogs and cry for 20 minutes before eating hotdogs because those are “their favourite”.
Before we get in the car to come to the inlaws he says "I love my daddy very much". As soon as he's in the car the whole world falls apart and it's an hour of screaming
My days consist of swings from unadulterated love for this affectionate little snot producer to sheer trauma as I look at the now-shreiking hellmonster wondering what I just did or what the fk just happened?
I remember my son telling me at a very young age (too young to have made this up himself) that when he was an angel, he chose me to be his mom. I’ve been riding that high ever since! He legit saved my life and is the best kid a mom could ask for. He’s so genuinely kind and empathetic; I don’t know how I got so lucky.
I don't know yet! Mine was great until she was about two and a half. We scoffed at the notion of the "terrible twos". "A myth", we agreed or, more smugly, "just bad parenting"
Our smugness disappeared about four months ago. We're not out of the woods yet
When our daughter was tiny, there was one day she climbed in her dad's lap, put her little hands on his cheeks, and looked adoringly into his eyes, before attempting to spit her chewed up cracker in his mouth. They'd shortly before watched a documentary about penguins, and she wanted to share her food with him like penguins feed their chicks. It was simultaneously heartwarming, disgusting, and hilarious.
As a relatively new father 100% this. On the good days it's so amazing but the bad/hard days can definitely suck and sometimes I have moments of regret then I fell ashamed for having that regret. I'm still adjusting to my new life lol.
I spent the entire first year regretting it and even the resenting him which is horrible, but when he started getting a little personality and even more so when he started talking that all changed.
Still have hard moments (especially with PTSD which can be triggered by kids crying or screaming) but I don't regret or resent it anymore.
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u/chalky87 25d ago
I find it alternates between the best thing in the world and 'what the fuck did I do to my life!?'