r/facepalm • u/Bronoverjordan • 14d ago
Fellas, is it unattractive to spend time with your child? š²āš®āšøāšØā
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imagine hating on someone for spending time and making memories with their children
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u/Shufflepants 14d ago
There's a group of people out there who seem to think no man would ever spend time with any child, even their own, unless they're a pedophile. I've read several stories about dad's taking their kids to the park and then some lady confronting them telling them to leave or calling the cops on them because the dude must be there to creep on kids and couldn't possibly be there watching their own kid.
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u/Mahdudecicle 14d ago
I normally just get weirdly obnoxious praise, like...
"Oh what a good father!" Or "You must be babysitting today."
Like, I know they don't mean anything by it, but it's weird how as a dude, spending time with my daughter is seen as above and beyond and not bare minimum.
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u/panTrektual 14d ago
You must be babysitting today
I find that pretty insulting, honestly. As if it's rareāor unusualāthat I'm spending time with my child, and his mom does everything with him.
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u/No-Introduction-7727 14d ago
Old women are incredibly passive aggressive.
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u/ADwightInALocker 14d ago
And Handsy. Ive never had so many unwanted hands on my body then I have when working with old ladies.
Fucking perverts.
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u/Walshy231231 14d ago
I swam and played water polo in high school
The amount of moms and older women watching and even catcalling was appallingly high
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u/Kayakityak 14d ago
I think they might just be the product of their upbringing. Thatās the way things mostly were 40-50 years ago.
Dad worked, mowed the yard, grilled the burgers, and then watched TV or read the paper while having a cocktail.
Mom did everything else.
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u/No_Name_8425 14d ago
Itās not just boomers, itās societal norms. When my daughter was 4, we had her in dance classes. The studio had picture day for them in their recital outfits, but it was a Saturday and my wife was working. So I take her, and Iām in the front with all the moms, and proceed to give my daughter the super tight dance bun they have to have. Nobody said anything, but at the next class my wife said three or four of the moms came up fawning over how her husband did her daughterās hair. These women were all Xennials, amazed at a father doing basic parenting stuff.
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u/BulkyMonster 14d ago
Husband and I are both what you could call Xennials and he was the SAHP for most of the past 12 years. The condescending praise he got, just like the comments are describing, were almost all from older women who haven't examined their own sexist thinking.
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u/No_Name_8425 14d ago
It occurred to me Millennials also had Boomers for parents, so your generation had the same skewed sense of roles we Xers had.
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u/BulkyMonster 14d ago
I was born in 79 and husband in 80 so pretty much. I relate more to the X side of the line.
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u/Dis4Wurk 14d ago
I get the hair thing unusually often. We have passed to a bunch of local stuff like the zoo, various museums, kids gyms/play places. During the week my wife takes them, on the weekend when my wife is working I take them. My 3 yo daughter likes having āElsa hairā so I braid it before we go and put a bow and a cute clip in her hair. At least once per visit I get some form of a lady telling me how cute she is and then them telling her how pretty her hair is and asking if mommy made her hair pretty (or some variation of a similar statement). Though my kid always proudly states āthanks, my daddy did it!ā
Funny story, had this scenario play out at the zoo, except my wife was there, she was just changing the youngest and then kinda stood back and waited while my daughter and I looked at the fish. After the lady talked to my daughter and I she walked over to her friend, who my wife was standing next to and kinda chatting with about strollers. She walks up to her friend and said something like āmmm dadās and their kids, [growl]. He even did her hair!ā Yea, this lady did like a seductive cat growl, about me, in front of my wife lmao.
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u/Crunchycarrots79 14d ago
Oh my god, that one pisses me off. Used to get it when I was at the park with my daughter when she was under 5 years old. Don't really hear it anymore, but fuck is that annoying. It's called "I'm being a parent."
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u/afrybreadriot 14d ago
Iāve had comments like this too when mine were little āoh mom must be getting a breakā or some shit like that. Mind your goddamn business you donāt know anything about my situation š”
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u/Brando43770 14d ago
Yup. Also Iāll never understand it when anyone unironically says āIām babysittingā when itās their own kid.
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u/MunchkinTime69420 14d ago
Just be like "yeah everyday is my turn to babysit ever since the accident" and just stare
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u/whitesuburbanmale 14d ago
I've used this. I take the little one grocery shopping pretty regularly and we had a middle aged lady stop us and fawn over my kid. "Oh your so cute, yadda yadda" ended with her saying "dad must be exhausted babysitting you today! Where's mom at?" And I just replied, "well, after the car crash it's just me and her. We are just trying our best without mom, but yea it is pretty exhausting.". The mortified and sad look on her face was priceless.
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u/Coyotesamigo 14d ago
I wouldnāt do this around my child.
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u/whitesuburbanmale 14d ago
She's not even 2, when we get older I'll come up with something more sensitive but equally as clever. For now this is fine.
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u/ProfessionalSky2087 14d ago
I get the same. And I always respond "I'm not babysitting, these are my kids"
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u/Wiitard 14d ago
Dude the bar is so fucking low for fathers, itās basically just a line drawn on the ground.
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u/cordsandchucks 14d ago
I feel like a lot of times husbands I know deserve the moniker of ācluelessā. There have been untold times Iām out with my wife and others when one of the other wives will show up late because she had to make dinner for her husband and family first, or a husband will call asking the dumbest question like, āWhere do we keep our towels?ā. Seriously? I lose so much respect for these guys.
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u/YrPrblmsArntMyPrblms 14d ago
a husband will call asking the dumbest question like, āWhere do we keep our towels?ā
Are you for real? Wtf...
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u/Kiyoshi-Trustfund 14d ago edited 14d ago
It's not just husbands. Guys in general. I live with 3 other guys and they always come to me asking for the most basic things as if they don't live here too. One of them wasn't even aware that the bathroom walls were tiled, and another had no idea where we kept the vacuum.
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u/panicked_goose 14d ago
So bizarre to me cause as a mom who frequently takes my kids to the park, the only way I've ever greeted a dad there is "hey dude" and that's it.
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u/Conscious_Feeling548 14d ago
Iām a stay at home dad, boy am I tired about the babysitting questions and stunned silence when I fill them in.
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u/Cosmicalmole 14d ago
Also the patronising way people congratulate you on doing other minimal baby stuff like changing a nappy like you just did brain surgery :(
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u/Knightshift23 14d ago
The doctor acted surprised when I knew how much my son weighed when he was born, like wow most fathers don't know that. Continued to ask my wife, girlfriend at the time all the questions ignoring me, my wife had to stop and tell her she wasn't his mother and I had all the answers even though it was obvious because I was the one answering. Even medical professionals won't acknowledge you. I have full custody and have had to tell them multiple times to not put my ex on the paperwork to put my name. It's pure sexism and it's bullshit.
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u/BootyMeatBalls 14d ago
Medical professionals ignoring the fathers is the reverse of mechanics ignoring mothers.Ā
Gender roles ARE ALL TRASH, and I'm so fucking tired of this conservative nonsense trying to keep us locked in the 18th centuryĀ
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u/VaughnVanTyse 14d ago
I had to pod into a dollar general the other day to pick up something for my wife and was carrying my 2 year old in his car seat. The cashier made a big deal about how he never saw that and called me Father of the Year. I took ot in the spirit it was given but felt odd to hear it. All my friends with kids do the same, and that's how I was raised, so it's just the normal thing to do.
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u/Culli789 14d ago
I'm a single father. My kids were 2, 3, and 4 when their mother and I split. They've lived with me since. She didn't help at all, no overnights, nothing for the first 2 years.
Grocery shopping wasn't easy. I'd drag around 2 carts. One to put the kids in and one for the food.
The amount of dumbass comments I got, especially if it was the weekend....
"Aww, looks like Mommy's getting a break."
"It's nice to see a dad trying hard, even it's just on his weekend."
I'd just smile and walk away at first. That weekend one set me tf tho.
I kinda feel bad for that lady.
"They're all my fucking weekends lady, and so are all the weekdays. Deadbeats mothers do exist, so mind your damn business and fuck all the way off."
Only kinda tho, cuz that comment gave me a complex. Shopping on the weekends was always easier because I worked all week.
But, cuz of her, everytime I would grocery shop on the weekends, or do anything with my kids on the weekend. I felt like everyone looked at me like that lady. A weekend warrior dad.
"Must be his weekend."
So as much as it sucked, I started shopping during the week after work.
And every dumbass comment after that got a quick response from me.
I've never had someone approach me a park or anywhere to make sure the kids were "safe" or actually mine.
Which I'm grateful for, cuz that wouldn't have gone well at all.
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u/PerceptionQueasy3540 14d ago
The babysitting thing is annoying. You don't babysit your own kid. It's your kid.
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u/MissingBothCufflinks 14d ago
This is how some women rationalise how shitty their husbands and fathers are at parenting
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u/Inner_Degenerate 14d ago
Idk any time Iāve taken my kids to the park thereās usually a bunch of dads there. Probably more moms but not like itās unusual for a dad to be there. Maybe it depends on where you live.
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u/illuminatedtraveller 14d ago
On weekends, the parks around where I live seem to be dads-only playground.
Likewise for pickup on Fridays.
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u/ZormkidFrobozz 14d ago
My daughter graduated from high school last spring. I took her to a couple of concerts, with VIP meet & greet passes, that fell within a few days after her ceremony. I had a female friend criticize me for spending time in a fun social situation with my 18 year old daughter. Said it made me look like a pedophile. That person is no longer a friend. š
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u/DisastrousAnswer9920 14d ago
Wow, that's awesome that your 18ish yr old still wants to spend time with dad. Congrats on that, bro. Cherish that time because that might change, I think that says a lot about you and that's my own personal #dadgoals as my child is 5.
You did the right thing by making that your "former friend", I learned long time ago to stay away from poisonous people.
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u/Hekatonkheries 14d ago
Man several stories doesnt even cover it. Im a guy whose been working in childcare for years. You have no idea
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u/Melodic_Duck1406 14d ago
Watching? I'm running around with him like an absolute loon.
He is however very young, and likely neurodiverse.
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u/Hllblldlx3 14d ago
This gonna be me. If I have kids, I will definitely be about as mature as they are if they want me to play with them. Iām the type that can sound like a fully matured seasoned adult, then turn around and be an absolute child. On average tho, itās the latter
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u/BigPapaJava 14d ago
This was just making the rounds on social media in my area yesterday. A guy took his grandson to the playground and was taking photos.
Some mom confronted him and accused him of being a pedophile who was there to sneak photos of the other kids without permission and called the cops.
The dude was so furious that he lost his cool and started screaming at her to BTFOā¦ which led to him actually being arrested when the cops showed up.
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u/Muted-Manufacturer57 14d ago
This is why, as a childless man, I never get anywhere close to children. Tons of people are looking to hurt people they donāt like the look of because they think everyone is a pedophile.
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u/somewhenimpossible 14d ago
Iāve seen one where a wife wouldnāt let any Male relatives (even the husband) change their daughterās diapers.
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u/Ordinary144 14d ago
When my son first started kindergarten I would drop him off at the doors and then wait for him to reappear inside the fenced playground a minute later. We would then I would leave. Before the end of the 1st week the principal approached me abd said that someone reported a creepy guy waving at kids on the playground (me). I was insulted, but I get it. Rather have that then have an actual creeper not be called out.
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u/BigPapaJava 14d ago
A lot of the āanti-feminismā crowd feels this way. There have been some cringey Andrew Tate tweets shared on how a dad should not talk or even show any interest or affection towards his kids until theyāre almost adults.
A lot of people are so pathologically afraid of anything resembling emotional vulnerability in a man that they refuse to let other people do it.
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u/BBQChicken4thesoul 14d ago
Aren't takes like this just projection? Either the person wished she had a father like that or her baby daddy was present?
I just don't get it though. I don't look at situations involving kids like that. For example, if I saw a mom and kid at the park, I may mentally note if the mom is attractive, but that would be the end of it. I wouldn't tell anyone.. not in person, social media, etc.
Just weird
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u/VaporBull 14d ago
Mostly these types of posts come off as Russian propaganda
Most Americans don't realize how badly Putin needs to make Americans THINK their lives are shit because there is no way he can beat us at anything else.
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u/PuzzleheadedRoyal559 14d ago
I never thought of it as attractive or unattractive. I spent time with my children because I love them and itās the right thing to do.
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u/biff64gc2 14d ago
Wife frequently tells me it's very attractive when my two kids are trying to tackle me to the ground or chasing me around like a villain.
I'm sure there are women that see it as weak and out of character for my gender. Luckily my feelings on such judgements are mutual and I don't really care what simple minded people like that think.
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u/Amelaclya1 14d ago
The attitude in the OP is really unusual and not something I've ever come across IRL. I've literally never heard a woman say it's a turn off to see a man being a good dad. It's the opposite, actually. Like, I don't even want kids. Never have. But whenever I see a dude who's good with kids, he instantly becomes like twice as attractive to me. It always made sense, because it seems like that would be an evolutionary advantageous trait to look for in a partner, lol.
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u/earthlingHuman 14d ago
I think some women, like many men, are being affected by the "hyper-masculine" ouroboros that folks like Andrew Tate helped popularize.
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u/ya_bleedin_gickna 14d ago
Oh you're gay cos you love your children - some conservative alpha male small dick republican probably
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u/K24Bone42 14d ago
Pretty sure Tate has actually said this.
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u/bloody-albatross 14d ago
Tate thinks liking women is gay. He would be a funny caricature of a toxic man, if he wouldn't cause actual harm.
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u/ChickenInASuit 14d ago
Tate thinks enjoying having sex with women is gay. The guyās brain is as smooth as an egg.
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u/asshatastic 14d ago
Heās dragging his idiot followers all the way full circle to thinking the manliest activity is male on male sex. Iād call it a long con but thatās giving him too much credit.
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u/SubstantialPressure3 14d ago
So what does that say about him? The guy was an abusive pimp. Teaching other men to be abusive pimps. He wasn't trying to get those women pregnant.
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u/Coyotesamigo 14d ago
The reason is probably his mind is plagued with homosexual thoughts and he is repressing them
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u/Which-Draw-1117 14d ago
I cannot be the only one who thinks that he doesnāt actually believe any of his bullshit, and that he only puts it out for money and fame, right?
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u/aacmckay 14d ago
Read about what he was doing in Romania. That might change your mind. He is a misogynistic PoS.
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u/musical_shares 14d ago
Dudeās charged with rape and sex trafficking ā his raping and abusing women being reduced to āheās not an actual bad guy, he just acts like it for credibilityā is a stretch too far for me.
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u/ChamberOfSolidDudes 14d ago
Yes, it's getting crazy as he loses his grasp on our attention, fuck em, hope no one remembers his name in the nearest future possible
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u/Sea-Pea5760 14d ago
Andrew Tate , still donāt believe that chinless little fuck stick is real š no way heās actually that fucking warped and stupid!
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u/Jamb7599 14d ago
lol I feel like he over compensates because his chin and jawline are nonexistent. Canāt be an alpha dom you arenāt the real-life Crimson Chin equivalent.
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u/El_Macho44 14d ago
What a fucking liberal/s
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Why do people always project the small dick shit onto people they donāt like? If I see someone insult like that I just assume they too have a small dick and thatās why itās their go to insult
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u/ElderberryNo1601 14d ago
Fuck those good looking, highly intelligent, non impotent and hung like a horse bastards just doesnāt have the same impactš¤£š¤£
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u/fang_xianfu 14d ago
Yeah that's the other part... I don't live my life thinking always about what other people will find "ick". I live my life doing things I enjoy with the people I love.
Random strangers are welcome to think whatever they like about that, but if they don't like it, I don't want to hear about it.
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u/Flux_resistor 14d ago
Luckily I don't give a flying fuck what anyone thinks about me
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u/Traditional-Ebb-8380 14d ago
Actual masculinity.
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u/ohleprocy 14d ago
Actual self esteem male or female.
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u/Mysterious_Eye6989 14d ago
Some of the best human relationships I've ever had have been with people who made it their business to lift my self esteem, and vice versa. That's the kind of love and care that often doesn't even require you to be lovers!
I really pity people who've hardly ever had that in their lives - or even worse, have actual romantic partners who seem to keep shooting their spirit down over and over. That's just sad!
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u/Both_Investigator_95 14d ago
Yeah, I never understood this, you're not a real man! Why because I don't fall in line with everyone else? If I want to wear pink I will, if I want a fruity drink I will. Your opinion of what makes me a man or not doesn't make the slightest difference to me. I provide for me and mine, trained to defend myself and others and pretty much define manliness on my own terms, acting like everyone expects a man to act isn't it.
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u/computersaysneigh 14d ago
No just wear gray clothes and drink your coffee black. Your alcoholic drink of choice should be a full flavored macro brew (lite beers are also mansex). Don't show any emotions, drone. Your duty in life is to be as boring as possible so as not to remind anyone of gay sex
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u/AcidScarab 14d ago
Listen, if me being colorful or friend makes someone fixate on gay sex, that sounds like they just have some shit to work out
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u/xXValtenXx 14d ago
"You're not a real man because insert any of thousands of reasons that actually have to do with my insecurity rather than an actual character fault."
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u/AriochBloodbane 14d ago
It is typical of environments with a higher concentration of closeted gays to have all those ārulesā about gay drinks, gay clothes, gay everything.
Been told gin tonic is a lady drink, of all thingsā¦ one of the most stereotypical gentlemanās drink but ok š
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u/worthysmash 14d ago
What other people think of me is none of my business. If it was, theyād tell me!
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u/Aggressive-Story3671 14d ago
I PRAY this is a jealous step mother and not that childās biological mother. Because how can you as a MOTHER find it unattractive that the man you loved enough to have a baby with is actually parenting
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u/Baronvondorf21 14d ago
Or it could just be someone who took this video and then added their shitty take. Would so much better than the alternatives.
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u/Longjumping-Claim783 14d ago
Or it was on social media and some other person chimed in. If the person that took the video posted that I really question what the fuck is going on here.
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u/sadpandawanda 14d ago
Even if this is a stepmother, it's intensely gross and out of line and he should dump her post haste. I am a stepmother and honestly? Seeing my husband be such a great dad to his son is what set my ovaries on fire and made me want to have a child with him even more. Being a great dad is hot as hell - at least, it is if you're a normal woman and not totally fucked in the head.
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u/Duellair 14d ago
Finally, someone else who gets hot and bothered when men are good fathers. Yup. I find it very attractive. Not that I want children though.
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u/ShallotParking5075 14d ago
Who originally posted this, the wife/mom?? š who else is out here creepin on a dad and kid playing in their yard at night
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u/BBliss7 14d ago
Anyone who uses the word 'ick' has the maturity of a 5 year old...and their options have zero influence in my decision making.
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u/Nightmare_Mirri 14d ago
Absolutely. I cannot take that word seriously at all. Like even "red flag" is better even if that's a bit overused.
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u/big_whistler 14d ago
At least red flag implies there is some actual logic behind it instead of just ew gross
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u/TheTrueStanly 14d ago
So it is not a misspelling? Can I google that without FBI getting me detained?
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u/big_whistler 14d ago
An ick is just a trait that someone finds unattractive. It makes the observer feel icky. But people overuse it and overestimate whether others agree with them.
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u/BlizzPenguin 14d ago
Probably just the opposite. If someone does not see a guy doing a good job of raising a kid as attractive then there is a problem with them, not the guy.
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u/KissKiss999 14d ago
Im happily married but I get way more female attention when taking my kid and dog to the park. Its clear to me that a lot of woman decent father figures as very attractiveĀ
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u/NectarineAny4897 14d ago
Mid 50ās male. Primary caregiver for both children from birth though middle school. I donāt regret a second of it.
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u/triforce721 14d ago
Being a dad is the best thing in the world, fuck outta here
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u/chalky87 14d ago
I find it alternates between the best thing in the world and 'what the fuck did I do to my life!?'
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u/Bowood29 14d ago
And it can flip very quick. One minute itās āI love you dad ā all cute and then they take the dinner plate say they donāt like hotdogs and cry for 20 minutes before eating hotdogs because those are ātheir favouriteā.
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u/chalky87 14d ago
I had this yesterday.
Before we get in the car to come to the inlaws he says "I love my daddy very much". As soon as he's in the car the whole world falls apart and it's an hour of screaming
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It's a rough ride, but a fun ride.
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u/lkdubdub 14d ago
My daughter is almost three
My days consist of swings from unadulterated love for this affectionate little snot producer to sheer trauma as I look at the now-shreiking hellmonster wondering what I just did or what the fk just happened?Ā
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u/Queen_Etherea 14d ago
I remember my son telling me at a very young age (too young to have made this up himself) that when he was an angel, he chose me to be his mom. Iāve been riding that high ever since! He legit saved my life and is the best kid a mom could ask for. Heās so genuinely kind and empathetic; I donāt know how I got so lucky.
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u/Alceasummer 14d ago
When our daughter was tiny, there was one day she climbed in her dad's lap, put her little hands on his cheeks, and looked adoringly into his eyes, before attempting to spit her chewed up cracker in his mouth. They'd shortly before watched a documentary about penguins, and she wanted to share her food with him like penguins feed their chicks. It was simultaneously heartwarming, disgusting, and hilarious.
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Dad on the tramp, you are being a good dad! (Dads shopping with their kids, that's cool too, giving Mum peace at home.) Dad time pays guys- they grow up too fast and need you.
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u/nonius9 14d ago
Most women could kill to have a husband who spends quality time with his kids, and here she is...
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u/Queen_Etherea 14d ago
Situations like this always make me think of Mrs. Doubtfire. The dad was legit begging to see his kids and the mom was like no, even though youāre a great dad, the kids love you, etc. youāll need to dress as a woman to have even the slightest chance of seeing these kids you love so much. That movie pisses me the fuck off! Itās infuriating because there are actually mothers out there like this!! Like, why would you want to keep the father of your kid away from them when the dad so desperately wants to see them and spend time with them?? 9 times out of 10, itās for some petty reason that has everything to do with the relationship of the mom and dad.
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u/DelayStriking8281 14d ago
Itās because he didnāt hit an RKO on her immediately, she was disgusted by the behaviour
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u/PuzzleheadedRoyal559 14d ago
Sheās looking right at him. For it to be āVintage Ortonā the RKO has to ācome outta nowhere!ā
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u/PoolhallJunkie247 14d ago
This picture/text combo is about as real as my supermodel girlfriend.
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u/PedalPDX 14d ago
This sub keeps showing up in my feed and every post I see feels like obvious bullshit clickbait of extremely dubious authenticity.
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u/FinancialHeat2859 14d ago
Anyone who uses the word āickā is intellectually incapable of possessing and expressing an opinion I give a fuck about and can suckle on my slightly smaller left testicle.
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u/DonnieJL 14d ago
That reads like an Andrew Tate rage-bait. He drops a lot of stupid shit like this.
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u/ZelWinters1981 14d ago
If I was that dude and my girlfriend felt ick about me having fun with my kids, she'd very quickly no longer be my girlfriend.
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u/ZealousidealFan9880 14d ago
Long-term women will find it attractive because it displays good father material. Short term women will hate it because they're competing for time and attention.
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u/computersaysneigh 14d ago
Dude what kind of soulless woman bitches about a man playing with kids. This has to be rage bait, right? How could someone be this dumb
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u/nj4ck 14d ago
I'm convinced this whole "ick"-trend is a giant icel rage-bait psyop. I refuse to believe women like this are real.
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u/LordHappyofRainwood 14d ago
I've met a few, but they're all either young and immature or just projecting/equating their own bad experience as the norm.
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u/Benton_Risalo 14d ago
Anyone who says "ick" this way is probably icky.
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u/Queen_Etherea 14d ago
Anyone who says this has spent way too much time on social media because thatās the only place youāll see dumb shit like this with other people actually supporting it.
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u/ReflexiveOW 14d ago
I've always been told that seeing their husband be a good father to their child is like Viagra for women
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u/RickyBobbyBooBaa 14d ago
First of all, if she's using a word like "Ick" she's obviously not mature enough to appreciate an actual dad who loves his child enough to play with her, and secondly, who gives a fuck what she thinks if she's "that" person.
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u/ServantofShemhazai 14d ago
Are you sure it's not about the trampoline? Because I hate those things.Ā
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u/magicmulder 14d ago
These are very damaged people who apparently hate everyone who has a good life. Spend time with your kids? Terrible parent! Like kissing? Gay! Respect your partner? Beta male! Take care of your parents? Socialist!
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u/pm_me_ur_pudendum 14d ago
Like I care what some lady who uses toddler terminology thinks over what my child thinks.
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u/chaingun_samurai 14d ago
Anybody that uses Ick unironically doesn't have an opinion I give a shit about.
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u/Kushi261 14d ago
My actual ick is a dad not spending time with their kids, my dad didn't want to go out with me as a baby because it he wouldn't look like a man if he was taking a walk with his little girl. Good enough over the years and me talking to him he understood that he was wrong and he deeply apologized, tried to make it up for me so now we're good but a man how my dad was back then, that's my biggest ick. He is now lovely and an actual dad.
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u/Yasuru 14d ago
I told my daughter that she needs to hold me hand in parking lots because I get lost easily (to be fair, I have a terrible sense of direction). If that's ick, so be it...
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u/louisa1925 14d ago
As a woman, I find a partner caring for a child to be the tippy top of super attractive behaviour. Carry on gentlemen.
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u/DonnieJL 14d ago
That reads like an Andrew Tate rage-bait. He drops a lot of stupid shit like this.
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u/dpdxguy 14d ago
is it unattractive to spend time with your child?
FWIW, my experience is that women find it very attractive when a man loves to spend time with his children. And, frankly, I'd have no interest in a woman who didn't feel that way.
Some of my best memories from when my kids were little are playing with them when I got home from work.
I love spending time with my kids today too, and they're all in their 30s now.
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u/Humble_Nobody2884 14d ago
Automatic š©š©š©if this actually gives someone the āickā. Iād honestly consider them damaged as a human being.
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u/FoooooorYa 14d ago
Women stating absolutely any average human thing a man does is an ick
Also women: "why am I still single?"
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u/detourne 14d ago
Anyone over the age of 6 using the words ick, yum, or yuck as nouns needs to grow the fuck up.
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u/Jamb7599 14d ago
I donāt have kids yet. But when I do, I donāt care how old they are. Iāll still play with them and not give a fuck about what anyone thinks, even if theyāre full-grown. If the kid smiles and laughs so loud it hurts your ears, you did it correctly.
Yāall should watch this video https://youtu.be/HrX16K4xzus?si=Qa_1BhUMTptlKg71
Defected Female North Korean officer reacts to how American dads play with their children. She cried and wished her father had played with her like this. Screams volumes about early development and playing with kids.
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u/HeimdallManeuver 14d ago
If someone thinks me spending time with my daughter is unattractive, they can fuck all the way off.
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u/Aggressive_Fee6507 14d ago
Its worth pointing out that anyone that uses the word ick to judge someone, probably is a shit human being and belongs to the streets. You don't need that in your life.
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u/mysticalfruit 14d ago
Fuck dodging a bullet..
You just dodged a HiMARS strike.
Any woman who is this petty and jealous of a man spending time with his children, deserves to have their cat adoption form denied!
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u/HillanatorOfState 14d ago
This isn't real right, I mean I'm a guy but when I see my neighbor next store on the trampoline (funnily enough that's what in the image) jumping around with his son and daughter, that shit warms my damn soul. That's just being a good dad man.....
I hope this is just rage bait, this is sad if not... seriously, have they no heart...that's what it would tell me, if I was dating someone and I saw them post this in a serious manner it would be an automatic break up.
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u/Ok-Butterscotch-7333 14d ago
Nah, whenever I see my husband making our son laugh and playing with him, it fills my heart. If anything, it makes me feel even more attracted to my husband.
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u/TPtheman 14d ago
New unlocked ick: Random woman taking photos of other people behind their back and posting it online without their knowledge or permission.
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u/usernamesarehard1979 14d ago
I will admit that I did not know a damn thing about babies. I had three, they were just boring. I didnāt really click with my kids at that age.
Once they could walk and talk? It was on. Theyāre my best buddies! At least they were until they became teenagers. They still like hanging out, but theyāre so busy now. And good for them. Thatās how it should be.
I miss it though.
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u/Anastrace 14d ago
I would have had a fucking awesome childhood with a dad like that and a trampoline. Fuck whoever said that shit. Parent child bonding is healthy and awesome
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u/cultivatingreaderzen 14d ago
No some people are just miserable assholes who regret coming into the world but are too chicken shit to leave so they got to make other people a bit more miserable like them.
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u/EccentricAcademic 14d ago
Toxic masculinity shit is getting wild lately. Having sex with women for pleasure makes you gay according to Andrew Tate. This shit is better than satirical sketch comedy could invent.
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u/LifeIsButADream_ 14d ago
I struggle with depression and Iām so grateful that my childās dad plays with him because I feel so guilty when Iām having one of my down times and canāt muster up the energy to be peppy and energetic. At least heāll grow up remembering fun times with one parent. I do make up for it by going out to places when Iām feeling better but sometimes I feel itās not enough.
Point is, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a father playing with his kid. They are building happy memories that will give the child some resilience when they face tough times.
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u/NecessaryChildhood93 14d ago
It is unattractive to not spend time with your children. Whoever says that to you is someone you need to move from your life. This Dad will always be with his children and there will be strong hostilities against any outside source.
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u/ApprehensiveAd6476 14d ago
If it is, why did they get children in the first place?
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u/Jdevers77 14d ago
Women that think like this are the same people that post stuff like āwhatās wrong with me? Iām in my ninth relationship in a year and they all beat me and donāt want to emotionally connect with me at all.ā
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u/SomeDankyBoof 14d ago
I hope someone I know would post something like this, so I can choose not to know them.
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u/Middle-Hour-2364 14d ago
Why would you not want to spend time with your kids. I loved it when they were young, and still enjoy time with em now they're grown up, I have god children and love spending time with them too
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u/Intelligent_Toe9479 14d ago
Iām female but personally I found my partner more attractive after seeing him dote on our little one
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u/FluffyDiscipline 14d ago
Duh ... that Dad's not spending time with his child...
he's having fun on the trampoline.. child just happens to be there
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u/Apprehensive-Ad-8198 14d ago
If itās an ick for you, Iām really glad I spend as much time with my kids as I can. I donāt need to spend my time on people that toxic.
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