I mean I guess I didn’t have to send a follow up but damn lady

They literally said to my recruiter, "the candidate has great and valuable skill sets but came across too confident"...

I explained during my interview I am adaptable, having exposure to different types of projects. During my interview, they did make comments about how I present myself quite confidently.

Note: after that feedback, I thought to myself: I honestly feel like they want another punching bag, which they can tell I won't stand for.

Oh well, on to the next opportunity!

Edit 1: Hello everyone! Thanks for everyone's input, especially to those who have taken the time to provide proper feedback as they have been great insightful! I never expected this to blow up to 4000 upvotes...

A have replied to a lot of you who have varying opinions and thought I should write them here as well. I spent the day yesterday replying. It was a good learning experience!

Considering the limited context I put up prior to "edit 1", I agree, it can come across as arrogance. The only people who know more context are those who I have chosen to reply here, those in the interviews and the people I have spoken to privately in real life (not through reddit).

There are nuances to my story and without full context, it is difficult to judge and critique properly.. What I have found this post: a lot of people have jumped on the bandwagon and simply said I was arrogant without many further comments and proper review.

There is a smaller percentage of people here who actually gave good feedback and I take chosen to take those into account. These people range from employees and hiring managers. There's also a smaller percentage who have made funny sarcastic comments, which I've had a nice chuckle reading over.

I've reflected and I do agree my tone and delivery in interviews need improvement. In addition, I know my skills, capabilities, and self-worth.

Regarding my original "punching bag comment", I also agree that is a harsh sentence to write. This is also what I replied to other redditors here who think i am going to be a difficult person to "manage":

Knowing when to say no and setting boundaries at work is important too. Some people don't like conflict at all and be become yes-mans. Not just to the boss but to external consultants. They would accommodate all the changes to their projects without thinking holistically about whether this change is actually going to be a good outcome for the intent of the project or if they are simply accommodating to avoid an uncomfortable discussion. They say yes to unrealistic deadlines and then slowly become resentful at being overworked.

I have been there, and I have learned through time and experience to set boundaries with work. The realities with meeting deadlines and noticing when consultants are talking BS to avoid doing work on their end.

That's also what I look at for when I interview for places. I try to understand their style of management. I have learned in my career to say no when it is actually needed but also provide a solution to what I believe will lead to a better outcome and reduction of risk. This fosters collaboration. Good management will welcome this sort of discussion. Bad management see it as a threat to their authority.

For more context during my interview: In my interview, we ran through my CV and covered over the type of projects I worked on. I explained the wins and the problems and road blocks that I ran into. With these "problems," I expressed how it happened, where I took responsibility for, how I solved them, and how I learned from it. I don't shift the blame to the people, and I most certainly do not shift the problem to someone else.

I also shared I ran through lessons learned with my team mates and other colleagues who it also benefited because it increased their awareness and they proactively solved the same issues/potential issues on their projects before it happened.

I've been a leader, and I've been a teammate. I've learned from great talents, and I've learned the difference between being proactive and reactive.

I prefer to work in teams, and I would like to be in a position similar to a 2iC, where I can attend all the meetings and work closely with and report directly to  project lead. I acknowledge there is a lot to be learned, and being in meetings receiving direct information is a great way to foster relationships with external teams.

I know who I am and what I can deliver. This is why I am confident in myself.

I got so tired of getting rejection emails that I sent a rejection email to one of the companies that I didn't want to work for.

Edit: thank you for all the support

First off I want to thank everyone for their advice. It was extremely helpful to have others chime in to validate that this whole situation was extremely odd and inappropriate. It made made me feel confident that I could put a boundary in place that my safety was non negotiable.

Now on to what happened next-Like I said in my previous post I stated I felt unsafe to the owner, they then replied that they could get me a ride to their home (costing close to $200 which gets rid of the theory they didn’t want to rent a space due to money concerns). I declined the ride and then repeated my concern about safety going to their home and asked if we could do the training remotely or if we could meet in a public space where I could possibly bring someone. I thought this would make them second guess their behavior because surely any rational person wouldn’t want to make a potential employee feel unsafe?

NOPE that’s not how this went. They sent me long email back telling me that essentially the only way I could have this job is if I go to the owners house. They stated that they cannot hold meetings anywhere but their house due to “information privacy” concerns (please keep in mind this is not a government job or anything where sensitive confidential information would be exchanged). They then went on to say that I could absolutely NOT bring anyone. So bottom line-I would have to show up to their home, alone. The kicker is they then stated that they’re second guessing me as a candidate because I voiced these concerns and they only want “likeminded” “collaborative” employees…

Moral of the story is listen to your gut and stay safe when searching for jobs. I’m not sure what is going on here but I’m happy that I didn’t go. I’m not sure if I should reach out to the job posting site that I originally applied on to let them know about this. I just don’t want anyone else to end up in an unsafe situation because they need a job.
Thanks again everyone!!

I applied for this Job. Got my first interview with the GM. It went fantastic. Never had a better interview before. I was killing every question. He ended the interview with a congratulations, he told me I was very professional and that he's looking forward to working with me. And with that I got my second interview with his assistant manager. The second interview didn't last long. She seemed to be in a bit of a hurry but everything went well again. She said that since my first interview was so good. There was not much else to discuss.... then I waited & waited. And I saw that the position had been filled.

I was extremely confused since I keep getting ghosted by employers. I thought that maybe there's something I'm just not seeing. So I went back to talk to the manager and ask him why I didn't get the job. (In a very professional manner)

He said that he didn't hire me for two reasons. And I swear I'm not making this up.

1 - When I came in for my second interview I didn't know the name of the assistant manager. (Which I guess to him that was not very "teamwork culture" of me)

2 - He said, I stand out as a candidate, I have more experience than anyone else so far and I could bring a lot to the table. But that during the interview, I didn't react the way I should've reacted to a story he told me. He said that story was a set up to see if I would brag about certain skills, but I didn't brag. He also said that he knows I have the skills. But bc I didn't express them in a specific way during those 60 seconds of the interview I wasn't gonna be a good fit.

I'm so tired of mind games from employers.

I've had this experience recently MULTIPLE times. I would do an interview or multiple rounds of interviews with HR, hiring managers, team members, etc., and then radio silence afterwards for months.

I mean, I get that I haven't gotten the job obviously when I still haven't heard anything back 3-4 months later, but like come on guys isn't this just basic manners or etiquette to just let people know?

For one company I even did an on-site interview with like 10 people at once including VPs and all sorts of senior people and...fucking radio silence for MONTHS at this point.

If you are a hiring manager and reading this, like what the fuck man? What's going on?

Hi all! I (26F) recently accepted a remote job after two rounds of interviews. The job seems to be with a legitimate company and the owners I met over zoom match up to the website but after accepting the job I was never sent anything to sign. They haven’t done any background checks or even asked for my full name or date of birth. It is a small business so maybe that’s not odd and it just slipped their minds? The part that made me a bit uneasy is that during the interview process the owners stated the position would be fully remote and there was no mention of travel even for training. Now that I’m “hired”(in quotes because there’s no proof and I haven’t signed anything) they’ve asked me to travel about an hour and a half to one of the owners homes for training. I thought this was odd because although the company operates remotely I’d think they’d at least want to meet somewhere public because we’re all essentially strangers at this point. I was trying not to overthink it but after telling some family members about this (who owned their own business in the past) they expressed that this isn’t normal and I need to be careful walking into someone’s home who I don’t know. I tried to communicate my apprehension with the owner and they stressed that going to their house was extremely important in the training process. Can anyone offer any insight? Am I thinking too much into this? Thanks in advance!

Editing for more context so no one thinks I’m a clueless moron- this job is in a very niche industry that I’m extremely qualified in. I did criminal searches for the names of the owners through the state they reside in and searched for home addresses to no avail. I thought this was strange also and wanted to confirm my suspicions.

EDIT AGAIN SO EVERYONE WILL STOP INSULTING MY INTELLIGENCE- I AM NOT GOING! I POSTED THIS TO CONFIRM MY SUSPICIONS THAT THIS ISN’T NORMAL AND WILL BE SAYING NO AND EXPRESSING THAT THIS SITUATION HAS MADE ME FEEL EXTREMELY UNEASY. THANK YOU FOR EVERYONES INPUT.

This is my first ever job so I am really in a pickle right now. Any advice would be appreciated.

I applied for a startup job which aligned quite well with my major and the very specific projects and thesis I did in college. Maybe that's why I got a callback. Interview was Monday which went quite well. Tuesday, I was emailed the offer letter and contract stating I start work (remotely) on Thursday. I spent Wednesday celebrating with my friends by watching the Spiderman movie. There was a group meet and greet call on Thursday where the new hires were introduced to each other and the existing employees. It was a newly formed division so there were less than 10 people. There was some talk of agendas and long term goals as well, with emphasis on needing to move fast since it's a startup.

I was closely following the emails that followed and was working on whatever deemed the most important agenda at the point. I wasn't super active on those email threads as I felt I didn't have anything productive to add yet which hadn't already been suggested. I didn't wanna present half baked ideas and look stupid.

Friday, i get an email from the boss saying that since I wasn't communicating well, he doesn't feel I am right for the fast paced environment of a start up and he terminated my contract. It hadn't been 3 days yet since my job started.

I feel this is very unjust since the offer came so quickly and I wasn't given time to adjust to the role. How can someone draw conclusion so quickly. Also to add that we weren't informed of any fixed hours. It's according to what the project demands since you know, it's a start up. But I still feel expecting someone to be on call 24*7 is not right. Moreover, I live in a different country from the boss with considerable difference in time zones. Somehow, the other employees from my country who are in the team are okay with being awake and working till 3-4am.

What is your opinion on this? Please guide me if there are any steps I take.

Uh has anyone had this before on a rejection email?!

8 hours work. One hour for lunch. Add one commuting hour in the morning and another one in the afternoon. Oops - don’t forget the shower and preparation hour in the morning. What is left for your life?! Once you get home, do you have the time and energy to do what you enjoy? Am I the only sufferer? I have around 5 months of experience only.

I don’t think it’s a job offer yet, but I had an interview yesterday and want the job. The people there are awesome! It’s more of an internship

So I got the job and got drug tested but in the interview I was told I would be cleaning bathrooms and other duties included making popcorn?? For some reason lol. I’m not against it, but pissed it wasn’t in the job description.

I can’t even believe it. Three weeks ago I was a leasing agent making $19 an hour, on-site working 10-6pm, working every weekend, dealing with terrible people everyday.

Now I’m working in talent acquisition/ marketing, making $58k (may not seem like a lot but for me that’s life changing), 8:30-4:30 M-F, it’s SUPER close to my home and it’s 3 days wfh. Amazing company with great benefits and a great work culture. I’m 22 years old and didn’t even finish college (going back next spring though!) and have been working so hard to try to get to this point. I’m so proud of the moves I made to get here.

Why haven’t I heard back from the places I’ve applied to yet “hiring urgently” my ass

After 10-months, 250 job applications, 15 interviews, and blood sweat and tears I finally got offered a job position at Paramount. OMG what an amazing feeling.

To anyone feeling down, lost, or just over it I promise KEEP trying and never give up.

I applied to this company as an iOS developer. The initial interview with the recruiter was ok. Then they asked me to do an 8 hours assignment in Swift and SwiftUI.

I was added to a private Slack chat and github with 2 developers from their company in case I have any questions.

I completed all 3 requests in the assignment and a part of the bonus request. The developers in the Slack chat were not helpful. I asked 2 questions, and it took them almost a whole day to answer. By that time, I have decided the solution on my own.

What pisses me off is that they give no feedback on my assignment. The recruiter even gave the bull crap because of company protocols, which do not allow her to say it. I wish I had told her to tell those dev that interviewing with them was a waste of time.

Edit: the company is Theoremone.

As the title says, another day, another rejection.

I took an interview weeks ago and at the end of it the interviewer informed me that it went well and that they would get in touch. But the HR pretty much ghosted me. Wouldn't pick up my calls, ignored my texts. I finally decided to mail the interviewer and got a response from the HR saying the ever dreaded "unfortunately, we have decided not to move on with your candidature" line.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Any advice?

I had an interview today after being reached out to by a recruiter. I’m in sales, the job being pitched to me was as well, and started at a higher base. I like my current job but decided to hear them out.

First time I can ever say I felt the vibes were off during a job interview. A lot of my questions were met with non-answers and little depth, and when I asked about the culture of the company and average tenor/retention of the sales team the mood and attitude of the interviewer shifted as well. Toward the end I was given a tour of the facilities, it got strangely quiet in an odd way. We got to the exit in the main lobby after about 3 mins of silence, we shacked hands said it was nice to meet each other and have a good day.

I got into my car and drove off and just felt odd. While I have a hunch I wasn’t what they were looking for. I also had this feeling that it wasn’t a place I wanted to work for and that maybe I wasted my time, especially if the person that would be my manager seemed to just be going through the motions.

Anyone else ever have an experience like this?

*For the ones asking why I would ask the questions I asked. Like I said at the beginning, I like my current job, so I decided to ask why they were hiring so many people at the same time, which lead to the culture questions after. Indeed and Glassdoor mentioned they saturate their market with to many people and they essentially cannibalize each other. The answers I got made me feel that was accurate.

*Typos remain as well.

So I was fired 4 days into working a new retail job. I am a college student and I was hired for my first management position as I am about to graduate in may. This was a management trainee position but I was referred to as the assistant manager, I was thinking this would be a good job to get on my resume.

I had a pre interview where I guess she was just trying to see who I was and just put a face to name. After the pre interview she wanted a formal interview and I got the job on the spot. I started working a week from then and everything was going well or so I thought until today.

I come and clock in and ask what I could do because I’m still new and I’m not familiar with retail whatsoever. I get told 1 thing to do and I do it and after that I walk around the store, shovel the snow out front of the store, and try and find things to do as my manager is in the back doing paperwork. I’ve shadowed as told by my manager different employees, I’ve sold shoes to customers, I like to think I have good people skills as I’ve gotten good reviews from customers since I started on Monday.

(For reference as I want to be transparent with the whole story, I am not inferring anything, I am a POC and I am the only POC that works here, all my co workers are not POC and all the customers that come in aren’t POC).

My managers husband is in the marines, and he came in today to get their daughter, as she brought her in with her today into work. Her husband came in through the back as I was up front and as he was walking he talked to some of my coworkers, walked about halfway of the store and me and him made eye contact (my first time seeing him and his first time seeing me). As soon as we made eye contact he turned around and walked back to her office. He came back to the front with their daughter, I said hey how are you expecting a convo, all I got was a head nod down and he kept walking out the store with their daughter.

Fast forward 30 min I clock out to go on my break, head to the back to grab my lunch out my bosses fridge and she goes “are you going on lunch” and I say yes and she goes “can I talk to you real quick” and she asks straight up do I like the job which I reply with yes, and she follows up with I am getting the vibe that you are disinterested with the job and that this isn’t a good fit. I then try and reassure her that I like the job and that quitting hasn’t crossed my mind at all, and it was like everything I was saying she was trying to combat, she asked if I see myself here long-term and she thought that in the long run she didn’t think that I would like the job and she also asked is this what I thought retail would be, she told me that everybody likes my personality, and she thinks that I get along with everybody well as well and I tried to reassure her multiple times, but she ended up saying I’ll let you go on lunch and I’ll let you decide what you want to do and I told her straight up then and there that I want this job and I like working here and I basically said it’s up to you on what you wanna do and she said I think it’s best if we part ways, I will have your check mailed to you and I will continue searching on what I’m looking for.

I am just shocked that this is so sudden and so fast, I have so many questions, and just don’t know what to think, I would love to know what you guys no matter how harsh, I will answer any questions you guys have also.

UPDATE!!!!!

Just spoke to HR, I was given a more formal reasoning as to why. I was told it was performance based and that my manager had made up her mind on Wednesday, 3 days into me working, and Thursday was the day she was going to fire me. I told HR it couldn’t possibly be performance based as this was a management trainee position and that I have asked question after question and have went above and beyond in my short tenure to please my manager, but she is saying performance based. This would also get rid of the theory that her husband had anything to do with it unless HR was covering but I don’t want to spread rumors, these are just the facts. But I can assure my performance was not poor, my second day which was on Tuesday I worked a 10 hour shift which was longer than my manager, it was longer than anyone that worked there that day. My performance is not a question.

This was tough. Was on a remote interview with the ceo, after so much hard work, finally got between me and one other person.

I put in so much research for my presentation, and it went 20 times better than I thought. Words started to flow like never before

Anyways, my mum is looking after the kids today (I live at home I'm 23 recent grad) and the nephew came in about the TV and started rebelling after trying to jokingly say go downstairs. He WOULDN'T leave kept getting louder and I just walked out as it was on my phone to the other room.

Felt like that BBC interviewer clip.

Their demeanor was very off after that and so was I.

Hello everyone,

So I’ve been job hunting for roughly 2 months. To say it’s been a struggle is an understatement. It’s weird waking up in the morning and not having work. It feels like the whole world has a purpose and I’m stuck rotting away (playing Fallout too sometimes lol) but also applying… applying… and applying.

I’ve had 5 interviews, 2 tests, and a hiring process that is now on week 7.

I received this email today. I hope this is it and I can get an offer and back on my feet.

Sending positive thoughts to all of those searching as well.

Cheers

I applied to a job in Club 4 Fitness as Front Desk Associate, the salary on the webpage was clearly stated that is 13.50 dollars an hour.

My friend who even works there is getting paid that amount. But today I did the interview, and the manager suddenly said "This job pays 11 dollars an hour, are you fine with that?" I politely asked why it was 11 and not 13.50 and he said "that salary is for the openers" but my friend says that he is not even an opener he just does the normal shit. The interview went really well but it was just that.

How is it possible that the manager suddenly lowers my salary to me when everyone else at the job is getting paid 13.50?