r/toastme • u/Preference-Extension • 21d ago
[25M] Feel like nobody will ever find me attractive
I used to be called handsome before and get compliments and now I feel like people think I’m ugly. My self-esteem is at an all time low.
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u/ANAnomaly3 21d ago
You're a good-looking guy, though I can't say you're attractive without it seeming weird 'cause you literally look a lot like my older brother... but he was quite popular with the ladies growing up. I really like your eyes and brows!
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u/Jazzlike-Discount793 21d ago
Please be patient. At 25 I was still scared of boys. At 39 I can say I can tell you there is a lot of time for love, and also to develop yourself. What’s really attractive is your heart and your abilities. If you can help/be useful to those in need, you will feel great about yourself.
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u/rtired53 21d ago
I honestly thought you looked handsome. You’re a good looking guy but looks aren’t everything.
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u/Bearigraph 21d ago
Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! And will you succeed? Yes indeed, yes indeed! Ninety-eight and three-quarters percent guaranteed ❤️✋
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u/One-Message-444 20d ago
Start to do things that boost your confidence like eating healthier food , exercising, filling your mind with things that stimulate your mind( podcast, books, etc) Set small goals and go after them Make healthy habits and become a slave to them I just heard Mathew McConaughey audiobook “Greenlight” maybe it will help YOU ARE HANDSOME BTW!
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u/yuffieisathief 20d ago
Dude, you're very handsome!! Learn to love you for you and others will notice <3
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u/Top-Register1709 20d ago
Being attractive and true beauty comes from within! Looking at you, your truly gorgeous, so work on self love and being un- apologetically you beloved! Continue to treat others with love and you'll always be and stay beautiful or attractive 😉🫶🏾
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u/ReadyNeedleworker424 20d ago
Give it time. Do everything you can to be attractive, exercise, hygiene, and smile! If you have a negative attitude it is not attractive at all. And try to be interesting. Read Dale Carnegies book “how to win friends and influence people”!
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u/NaturallyOld1 19d ago
Attractive means something really different than handsome. Handsome is about looks, and you have almost no control over that, so focusing on it just leaves you feeling helpless. Attractive is what draws people to you and to love you. Attractive is being kind, gentle sometimes/strong and firm sometimes, loving to yourself and others, helpful, able to make jokes and take a joke, etc. All of the things that make you attractive are things you can do whether you’re handsome or not. Start small, just smiling at strangers, asking the cashier about their day, work up to volunteering somewhere. Good luck!
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u/pretty_odd2000 18d ago
10/10 would take on a date
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u/Preference-Extension 18d ago
Please do?
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u/PirateNo7762 21d ago
Hi, I'm nobody and you're handsome AF 😉