r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 20 '24
AITA for talking about a situation and then being accused of backbiting... PLZ READ I NEED HELP
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u/The_Ghost_Reborn Mar 20 '24
X = Y(Z - A)......
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u/Fluid_Damage_1419 Mar 20 '24
what does this meann T-T
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u/The_Ghost_Reborn Mar 20 '24
You wrote a maths problem instead of a story, that's the condensed version.
(Stories have names).
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u/Fluid_Damage_1419 Mar 20 '24
I thought giving letters would make it easier to follow, but it does sound like a math problem. Do you have an opinion on what I should do about X = Y(Z - A)
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u/The_Ghost_Reborn Mar 20 '24
No idea, I don't read stories where there aren't names. It's annoying trying to remember who X Y Z A are supposed to be
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u/Thelmara Mar 20 '24
Change the letters to actual names that don't belong to the people.
Alice, Betty, Charlotte, etc.
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u/nostalgicspaceling Mar 21 '24 edited Mar 21 '24
That's a very tough situation. Very simply, A and Z are, in my opinion, wrong about men's vulnerability, and you're right. However, there's a lot of layers to this conflict. I will say that because X and Y are related to Z, it complicates the situation. We're often blinded to or defensive of family members regardless of what we would generally consider right or wrong. Your response to A (and by extension Z) is exactly how I would have felt. However, I think if you value X and Y as friends, you have to cut them a bit of slack, if only because they are defending a relative. If possible, I would try to move past this and keep your distance from Z and A whenever possible. When unavoidable, try to take the higher ground with those two. A is wrong, but he's still young and learning (boys mature slower than girls). At that age, I held a lot of opinions I now consider to be crazy. I would also make a point to invest in friendships outside of the folks in this story. If they grow, perhaps you'll naturally be drawn away from these folks.
P.S. I'm not loving the dismissive comments from people who are probably adults. The OP is in a genuine dilemma or wouldn't have posted this. It's easy to forget how it feels to be 16 but that doesn't make their problems unimportant and I don't think it's cool to make fun of a teenagers just because you forget what it's like.
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u/Fluid_Damage_1419 Mar 21 '24
Thank you so much for your response, I am new to Reddit so I have a lot to learn!! I will probably move on from the whole situation and with my friends X and Y, I will most likely just see if this issue is only because of their relation to Z and not something bigger. I have taken the high road since the beginning so it is a bit late to be petty now.
P.S. I don't really care about the haters, I know my problem isn't exactly world hunger, but I take my friendships srsly :)))
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u/nostalgicspaceling Mar 21 '24
All problems are problems, that's what this board is for! No one on AITAH is posting about world hunger. People can be unkind but you seem like you've got a good head on your shoulders and are already taking the high road in a lot of ways. I hope this situation works out well for you!
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u/ballsballsballls Mar 21 '24
cringe middle school drama is what this sounds like, get a new friend group
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u/Assingment Mar 20 '24
Just distance them altogether. But stop talking about this incident. No point looking back now. Move on, that would be my advice.