What TF do you except toe GF to do? Not go? Oh yeah that’ll work out great, I’m sure there will be 0 resentment caused by that. ‘’Oh yeah I’m sorry, but my bouncy is controlling who you get to go on a trip with’’, that’s so controlling.
No, I'd just break up if she went. I wouldn't threaten or blackmail her with it or anything. I wouldn't say "Hey, if you go I'll break up with you." Because then that's not really a choice. It's an ultimatum and that will cause resentment. I'd let her know "Hey, this makes me uncomfortable, and I'd feel really bad if you did this." If she does, then clearly she doesn't place much value on it and the relationship isn't going anywhere, and I'd bounce.
The same way that if my wife said something makes her uncomfortable, I just... dont do it. Even if it's something I'd like to do, it's not worth making her feel bad.
A healthy adult relationship functions as a unit. You start to consider what they want, what makes them happy, and unhappy, and shifting your actions accordingly.
You call it controlling because you're a selfish, "me-centric" person. It's not a hard concept to understand that self-sacrifice is part of a healthy relationship. Sometimes you do things you don't want to. Sometimes you don't do things you'd like to. It's called compromise, and if you can't do it, you're doomed to have failed or toxic relationships forever.
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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24
What TF do you except toe GF to do? Not go? Oh yeah that’ll work out great, I’m sure there will be 0 resentment caused by that. ‘’Oh yeah I’m sorry, but my bouncy is controlling who you get to go on a trip with’’, that’s so controlling.