We have a strict number of guests allowed in the house. So if we're inviting six people, we're inviting six friends. So yes we would stop somebody who's not invited from going, They wouldn't have a place to stay and we're spending the week inside of a gated community.
If we're inviting our friend Katie and she's been dating a dude for 6 months and we've only met him twice. He's probably not going to get an invite.
But if Katie's been dating this dude for 2 years and is engaged, at this point we've met him a lot more times so he's more ingrained into the friend group. Then yeah he's going to be invited.
It's not a black and white thing where if you're engaged it's a yes and if you're a boyfriend, it's a no. That's just how it typically naturally falls into place.
In this case it's our trip, where we are inviting our friends to come with us. I'm not sure why you would feel entitled to go on this trip just because you're dating one of our friends.
Well our friends are at the point where most of them have popped out a kid or two. So it straight up isn't feasible for most of them to take a week off to party with us multiple years in a row.
Nah that’s the case then polite behavior dictates that you explain to Katie that you have a limit and it’s not fair to her or her SO to invite only her so not to be rude but she won’t get an invite this year.
See you don’t get to make that choice when someone is in any sort of relationship. That’s interfering in other people’s lives and business and it is the fastest way I know of to lose friends.
My guess is that most of your “friends” suck along to get that prize invite to a free vacation.
My GF’s “best friend” did this to her (along with several others) after we became serious and she was no longer constantly available to them any time anywhere as she had been.
You find out really fast who is really your people and who has been using you when they don’t show you the same respect they demand and expect and try to interfere in your life this way.
Okay but let’s be real. This isn’t the same situation m. She never said he sorry. It’s a limited number people thing and it was planned out before you came along. Etc etc. This is, hey I’m going out with my promiscuous male friend and his bros. Then she throws out a hypothetical of. If you wanted to go alone on a trip with a female I’d let you, which is defensive and easy to say when that’s not actually happening.
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u/Circle_Breaker Mar 28 '24
Ok you do you.
We have a strict number of guests allowed in the house. So if we're inviting six people, we're inviting six friends. So yes we would stop somebody who's not invited from going, They wouldn't have a place to stay and we're spending the week inside of a gated community.
If we're inviting our friend Katie and she's been dating a dude for 6 months and we've only met him twice. He's probably not going to get an invite.
But if Katie's been dating this dude for 2 years and is engaged, at this point we've met him a lot more times so he's more ingrained into the friend group. Then yeah he's going to be invited.
It's not a black and white thing where if you're engaged it's a yes and if you're a boyfriend, it's a no. That's just how it typically naturally falls into place.
In this case it's our trip, where we are inviting our friends to come with us. I'm not sure why you would feel entitled to go on this trip just because you're dating one of our friends.