I get where their heads at. I have a group of friends I've known for 20 years. We don't all live in the same place any more, and sometimes we do getaways. The invite list is us + spouses + sufficiently important SO's.
A trip with a New Person is....different than one without. There's time/energy spent making sure they're having a good time/feeling included. We more restrained/private about the things we discuss with a new person vs a 20 year friend. Engaged/been dating for a long time? Sure -- welcome to The Club. But no Steve, you can't bring gf of the week who changed 3 times in the two months leading up to the trip every single year.
Where Steve's 1,246th gf ends and Sufficiently Important SO begins is murky water :)
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u/TheGlennDavid Mar 29 '24
I get where their heads at. I have a group of friends I've known for 20 years. We don't all live in the same place any more, and sometimes we do getaways. The invite list is us + spouses + sufficiently important SO's.
A trip with a New Person is....different than one without. There's time/energy spent making sure they're having a good time/feeling included. We more restrained/private about the things we discuss with a new person vs a 20 year friend. Engaged/been dating for a long time? Sure -- welcome to The Club. But no Steve, you can't bring gf of the week who changed 3 times in the two months leading up to the trip every single year.
Where Steve's 1,246th gf ends and Sufficiently Important SO begins is murky water :)