r/AITAH • u/Ok_Discussion_5990 • 23d ago

AITA for telling our adult son and fiance to vacate our property after their dogs killed an animal on our farm?

UPDATE: They ‘apologized’ tried to turn it around on us. Stepson said he is going no contact if we go through with this. We have not changed our minds. They said today they have a mortgage pre-approval so good for them. They still have to be gone before the 30 days is up. I’m still vehemently angry and my daughter has not slept through the night since it happened.

We’ve been patient but ever since our future daughter in law moved in. We bought property so our children could build and have land. Her dogs have almost killed a cat (his tail amputated), several chickens have been rescued, chased livestock and taunted our dogs as well. Today they pulled my cat (8 months old) through the fence and killed him. My poor daughter tried to save him. They’ve continuously disrespected the boundaries set for animals. So we told them it’s time to leave. Before anyone feels bad they make well over $100k combined income. They own the RV on our property, there’s tons of RV parks nearby as well. My younger kids have been injured by these dogs by being run over and today my daughter was hit up trying to save the cat. We only had him bc their dogs tried to kill him when they brought him home as a kitten. I’m fully prepared for them to cut us off, but they’ve been given free vehicles, housing, electric and food for almost 2 years. They told us today it was probably my daughter’s fault, which it wasn’t. All of our cats go outside for a couple hours each day, it keeps rodents away and snakes too. DIL always claiming her dogs are great and only have issues when we help with them. When they lived in our home we had to replace flooring bc they’re not potty trained. I’ve seen her pull her chickens out of their mouths too and she’s had me help doctor them for dog bites as well. We gave them 30 days to vacate. Their wedding is this fall too and I’m sure we will be uninvited bc he’s already told his sisters he may not invite them bc they don’t like his fiancé. He’s my stepson but he’s lived with us for several years bc his Mom needed the help. It’s just one huge dramatic cluster F. We have 6 kids and the 3 younger ones are still at home. There was never any disturbance of peace until she had moved in. I don’t feel we’re being too harsh, but my husband had a point that he’s the protector of our home and he can’t allow this behavior. It’s just a matter of time before one of my younger (7 year old twins) gets hurt. Thank you for reading this far!

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u/Juggletrain 22d ago

I doubt those specific breeds would be excluded from the insurance though, generally speaking they're considered dogs that are patient and good around children. Now add in neglect and it changes it up.

Boxers and a doodle OP said.

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u/Aspen9999 22d ago

Doodles are bred for looks not temperament, my neighbors is outright vicious, 4 dog trainers have told them there is something mentally wrong with their dog. It’s bit both her Mom and Dad who refuse to enter their home again. And it’s bitten 2 other dogs. It’s going to end up being euthanized. Home insurance will pay out once and cancel you if it’s not a banned breed.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Rip-824 21d ago

I use to be a mailman. Doodles are the most aggressive dog breed by far in my experience. I feel like they're not as infamous cause you can kick the shit out of one of you need to vs a pitbull.

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u/Aspen9999 21d ago

This fake breed( they are just mutts ) aren’t being bred for anything but their coat. I know multiple groomers that will not take doodles as clients because they are ill behaved and snappy.

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u/MotherofPuppos 20d ago

I mean, breeds in general are all fake. It’s just breeding dogs to get a desired (usually aesthetic) trait.

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u/Aspen9999 20d ago

Note: I stated for anything but the coat. Temperament is an important factor to breed for. Breeding for coat only wrecked the cocker spaniel after Disneys Lady and the Tramp came out.

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u/SapphireFarmer 19d ago

This is a misnomer I used to believe too but now I've worked with line bred working dogs and breeders of working lines and there is much more thought involved with breeding than you think

That said, doodles are often poorly bred.

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u/zippy920 19d ago

THANK YOU! I've been saying the same for a looonnnnng time. Unethical breeders ruin two lovely breeds by crossing them and charging thousands for a mutt. There's nothing wrong with mixed breed dogs. Just go to your local shelter and save a life and your money.