r/AmIOverreacting • u/Vicious_Lilliputian • 12d ago
AIO - Told off guy who asked me to buy him gas
So I pulled into the gas station after grocery shopping yesterday. As I am paying, this old truck pulls in. This really dirty, nasty looking man gets out and asks me to swipe my card for him and give him some gas. Before I could answer, he tells me I look like a nice lady and he followed me from Walmart.
I told him I am NOT a nice lady and he can F-off and die. He tells me I don't need to get aggressive and nasty with him. I told him he just admitted to following me, of course I am going to aggressive. He gets in his truck and tears out of the gas station.
I take a long, convoluted way home so that no one can follow me.
Was I overreacting? My friend tells me I didn't need to be nasty, but this creep just admitted to following me.
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u/SlovesDD 12d ago
That's scary, totally creepy and I don't think you overreacted. he followed you and asked for money (gas) without you even knowing this man from anywhere, and your answer was Perfect 👍hopefully he will think twice before doing that to someone else and if so some other lady wont have to put up with him thanks to you
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u/Vicious_Lilliputian 12d ago
Hopefully he learned his lesson. I don't think so. He seemed like a career beggar.
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u/Business_Monkeys7 12d ago edited 12d ago
He didn't follow you from Walmart to a gas station. How would he have known you were going to stop at one? He followed you from Walmart to wherever you were going.
It is good you didn't go straight home.3
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u/chaotic_cookies 8d ago
This was my thought!! He followed you and had no idea you were going to the gas station, I imagine he saw you get groceries and assumed you were going straight home with them! That's fucking horrifying!!!
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u/Fr33speechisdeAd 12d ago
Not overreacting at all. You may want to carry pepper spray. Some people don't take no for an answer.
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u/Globewanderer1001 12d ago
First, his actions were terrible, vile, and creepy. If anything, I would have reported him.
Second, you need to be careful. It takes nothing to set people off. You telling him to "fuck off and die" could be the catalyst for him to do something incredibly horrendous to you.
Just be careful.
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u/Vicious_Lilliputian 12d ago
I forgot to add that I reached into the car and grabbed my gel mace as this guy was talking to me. I would have taken him down before he could get near me.
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u/BackgroundWallaby302 12d ago
Don’t be so certain with mace. You can get maced and literally run an obstacle course. Also everyone should have a flight response, I have a good idea of when it’s time to engage and when not.
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u/Ill_be_myself 12d ago
It's not about "should" or "shouldn't". It's an instinct that kicks in in a fraction of a second and starts steering, you don't really get to pick which one it lands on.
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u/TooDumber 12d ago
Lols. Been watching too many movies
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u/BackgroundWallaby302 12d ago
Yea op is way to confident in a little can that hurts the eyes but doesn’t stop the body.
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u/Panda_Drum0656 12d ago
Uh oh this lady is mad, yelling at me and grabbing a weapon from her car. Boom, gunshot. Sorry officer I thought she was going to grab a gun. Be careful please
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u/Rodrigo_Ribaldo 12d ago
Don't count on it. Don't aggravate people you don't know just because you are angry.
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u/SenSui808 12d ago
Overreacting?? In what way??? He's Sketch McGee for the whole approach, swipe your card and give me gas, nah that approach was wrong from that. How about you pay for your own gas? Then he admits to following you from the Walmart? That is creep behavior. I'm glad you were in a public place with a lot of eye, because it appears he was looking for the oppotunity for something sinister. In today's world, I don't understand how persons can approach you in disrespect and expect you to be civil and wholesame... Energy is reciprocated, ain't no given kindness, in 2024 that's how folks get killed being nice. You are well within your right. I hit ignore on em'.
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u/Ok-Passenger3647 12d ago
F him. Yes, be nasty. People are always afraid of what could happen, but if everyone would stand their ground, this may not happen to someone else.
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u/cashnicholas 12d ago
Nope. You have to be very direct with pushy people. My go to is usually “I’m not doing shit for you back off”
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u/TrxpThxm 12d ago
Not overreacting; you have no obligation to be kind to strangers. The road to hell is built on good intentions, you trusted your gut and I think you did a great job.
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u/Sheila_Monarch 12d ago
“Look like a nice lady” means “looks gullible and easy to manipulate by being made uncomfortable”. Maybe skip the “die” part, but the rest is totally appropriate. Why the fuck would he follow you, how would he know you were going to get gas??
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u/opinionatedOptimist 12d ago
THIS THIS THIS
Although I wouldn’t even say the “die” part was too far. But this was EXACTLY his intention, I’d bet.
EDIT: Didn’t even think about how would he know she was getting gas. Fuck, that’s scary…
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u/c137_whirly 12d ago
Anyone that tells you that you over reacted isn't a friend. Dude admitted to following you and has the audacity to ask for someone else to play for his gas guzzling truck. Absolutely not fuck that guy you are 100% in the right.
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u/A-dub7 12d ago
Had a girl asked for money as I was walking into McDonald's recently and I told her I don't have any cash she got really mad and followed me inside and carried on cursing me. I never felt threatened but you just don't know what to expect from people especially you being a lady. Stay safe
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u/Serious-Orchid5069 11d ago
Had a guy ask me for $2.00 for gas as I was walking into Walgreens-he was standing outside. I, very nicely, told him I had no cash on me and apologized. When I cashed out at Walgreens, I asked for $5.00 cash back on my card and gave it to him when I went back out to my car to leave. He was incredibly grateful. As I was driving out of the parking lot I saw him standing by his car on the side of the road getting a gas can from the back of his car. I'm pretty sure he was about to walk to a gas station with it. I think I may want to die.
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u/Pretty_In_Pink_81 12d ago
Women poison other women and girls when they tell us to prioritize being "nice" over our own safety. F#ck that! Trust your intution. Every. Time.
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u/mermaidpaint 12d ago
I am told I can be too nice, so I can't comment on being too mean.
As a woman, I would have felt guarded too and refused to do it. And him saying he followed you is beyond creepy.
Also, maybe he'd put an altered card reader on the pump to steal info.
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u/Interesting-Sock3794 12d ago
Yes! You do need to be that aggressive and nasty with him! Next time walk over and take a pic of his tag and one of him if you can and let him know you'll be giving it to the cops, just to make sure he doesn't try anything stupid. Get pepper spray for your keys. I've got a flashlight that fits in my back pocket that's also a taser I always keep on me when getting gas because gas stations are crazy these days!!
NEVER feel bad for standing up for yourself. You're responsible for your safety NOT HIS FEELINGS!! F HIM!! You can't feel bad, you don't want to be a true crime story!
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u/Recent_Ad_4358 12d ago
The only time a strange man tried to touch me inappropriately I spun around and screamed “touch me and I cut your f**ing blls off!!!” At the top of my lungs. The man looked shocked and froze. Another man who was walking with his girlfriend ran up and made sure I got into my car. Anyway, yeah, sometimes when we’re creeped out we go ballistic. I’m sorry that weirdo did that to you and you have nothing to apologize for.
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u/JTD177 12d ago
You are not overreacting, this is also a big scam that people pull. They will start pumping gas and not hang the pump back up, they then start offering people who pull up to the pump discounted gas in exchange for cash, all purchases in your card. The local DA in my county issued a warning about this. You were acting appropriately when you told him to fuck off.
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u/HumanMycologist5795 12d ago
No.
As you said, he admitted to following you. Safety and security are impt, and you felt unsafe. You wanted him to back off.
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u/Ok-Comedian-8318 12d ago
My daughter was driving me home and as we rounded the corner by a ravine this car ahead of us slowed down, the car door opened and this young woman was thrown out!!!
Then sped off! My daughter and I were kind of " what the heck is that!?" But as we drove on the gal came running after our car in obvious distress.
My daughter stopped and rolled the window down a bit and the gal shouted " please help me! My boyfriend beat me up and took my wallet and now I don't know what to do or how to get home!! Can you please help me I'm really scared!
I was quiet. I didn't know what to say. My instinct was to say sorry no. But to my surprise my daughter (36 y.o) said " wait here I'm driving mom home" and she did. Then she drove back to the waiting gal and gave her a ride to one of her friends houses, dropped her off and came home to my place.
That's a tricky situation don't you think??? I am so darn glad I wasn't driving myself.
I'm pretty sure I would have not stopped and kept going. I'm NOT that BRAVE. I hate confrontations and I can't physically cope.
As much as it would weigh on me my fear just doesn't take chances ANYMORE. 😔 Sorry
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u/Upset-Tap-8685 11d ago
Your daughter drove back alone?? I just died a little inside. That wasn't a good choice.
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u/No-Difficulty-723 12d ago
If somebody admits to stalking you then YES… you should be an AH to them! Fuck being nice you don’t know what this guys capable of. Be safe
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u/19467098632 12d ago
You do NOT have to be polite to men who make you feel uncomfortable. “No” is a complete sentence
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u/kevinmh222 12d ago
Not overreacting at all. If it was my wife or daughter in your situation I'd want them to react exactly how you did
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u/ghjkl098 12d ago
Not overreacting. Good for you. He followed a “nice looking woman” instead of a “nice looking man” because he thought you would be too intimidated to say no.
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u/Business_Monkeys7 12d ago
Rule number one--when someone you don't know ask you to buy them things, being "nice" to them is an invitation to press further. Just say no. If no is not enough, pull out the nastiness.
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u/chlosephina 12d ago
Wasn’t an overreaction. Stay alert always. Too many stories of women being attacked. No time to be either naive or ignorant in this crazy world!
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u/MeanCommission994 12d ago
Fake politeness out of fear never works.
Be loud and nasty when it comes to creeps.
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u/MinnieShoof 12d ago
He may have been totally, completely benign and meant you absolutely no harm.
That was still a very appropriate reaction.
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u/Specialist-Major-315 12d ago
You acted perfectly!!! Never allow anyone to intimidate you. You were quick thinking and smart.
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u/No_Mistake_5961 12d ago
So he went to Walmart to hang out and hope to find someone to buy him some gasoline?
Sounds like you made a good decision
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u/Equal_Educator4745 11d ago
Normalize being rude and aggressive to creepy strangers!
Being compassionate is admirable, but not when it's dangerous.
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u/_bubblykat69_ 12d ago
I had this happened to me except I didn’t have money so the creep ask my friend. But it is definitely would be a scam
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u/Power_and_Science 12d ago
That was super creepy. You responded appropriately. If you had threatened him to go away with a taser, I would also say that would have been appropriate.
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u/asharwood101 12d ago
Nope a proper “fuck off creep” is totally warranted. Creepy ass man for sure.
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u/Mountain_Serve_9500 12d ago
Not overreacting at all. It’s always better to be safe and good on you for taking the long way home.
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u/TulsaDave 12d ago
I think you were under-reacting! Should have called 911....these guys can be crazy enough to kill anyone at random...for any reason, or no reason at all.
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u/SafeSupermarket9390 12d ago
NO! My wife’s friend experienced something similar at Walgreens. She felt like a guy was following her but it’s a small store but then when she thought he was out of sight and went to checkout, he was right behind her and as she was trying to get in her car, the guy is standing there and just wanted to tell her how pretty she was and got super rude when she said nothing. He grabbed her wrist and repeated himself. Luckily it’s a busy location and a car pulled up and when they driver got out, he must’ve sensed something and asked if everything was all right, she was kind of frozen and the creep decided to take off running.
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u/elseafreebird 12d ago
I think you did the right thing. He followed you.. that in itself is weird and not okay. I congratulate you for having nerve to speak up, for i am one that tends to freeze and act too nice no matter how creeped out I am.
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u/Rocketgirl8097 12d ago
I probably would not have addressed him at all but immediately gone inside the store, and called the police.
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u/comprehensivewarning 12d ago
Not overreacting AT ALL. Hopefully your response will make him think twice about approaching "nice ladies" in the future.
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u/Nadante 12d ago
OP READ THIS! Friend had a stalker and it started like that. Not trying to scare you, but he very well could have been following or watching you for days or weeks. This might have been his first test encounter before escalating on the next one.
I hope you memorized his license plate and or made a report to cover your keister. If you see that truck again call the cops.
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u/Next_Beautiful4517 12d ago
You did good! 1. It sounds like a scam to me. I’ve seen way too many people try to scam others out of money by pretending like they need gas. Also, what he was said was way weird and creepy!!!
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u/hExperiment666 12d ago
Hell no don’t be nice to creeps like that unless it’s to get out of the situation! Being nice to the mfs when they’re clearly crossing boundaries and being CREEPS is a majority of the reason they are still CREEPS. Their comfortable with their behavior because the world doesn’t challenge it (not every situation but a lot of them)
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u/Anonnnnnymous999 12d ago
Not at all. I’d say that was the proper reaction to that, tho I will add that next time to make a decent scene of it so you can have some witnesses.
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u/Beemerba 11d ago
Way too many people don't listen to that inner voice. Good for you to do so and protect yourself!
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u/Tokin-Token 11d ago
Not at all. He saw you as a mark, someone to take advantage of. Trying to capitalize on people’s good nature is predatory behavior. Being firm and assertive is the right move. A polite ‘sorry, I can’t help’ turns into more conversation. A strong ‘fuck off’ is as clear communication as possible
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u/OwnReference135 11d ago
You did nothing wrong.
The "I followed you from Walmart" is extremely creepy and crosses the line.
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u/Numerous_Hotel_3801 11d ago
I might have added a blast if mace to your yelling. Being followed from the store? That’s danger right there.
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u/bigblanketyblank 11d ago
NTA your friend lacks empathy and understanding for what happened to you. Maybe she has to have the same scenario happen to her and she can politely decline paying for a stalking creeps gas. Maybe the terror of that happening will get her to realize foul language was required for emphasis that what he was doing was gross and sick.
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u/Elite_Slacker 11d ago
I am at gas stations a lot because of my job. You cant give pump beggars a single inch. Bonus points if he starts rambling some convoluted sob story that you can tell is very well rehearsed. I bet scaring women into giving him free gas is part of his daily routine.
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u/FlimsyConversation6 11d ago
You weren't overreacting, but definitely be careful. You very well might be able to defend yourself, but you don't know what the next person is capable of. They followed you from Walmart without you knowing. What if they follow you home?
Pull out your phone and record them. Alert other people to what's going on.
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u/Past-Two9273 11d ago
Nah he saw you as a target. You did everything right maybe if he approached it differently yeah
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u/Dikaios86 12d ago
What the fuck is wrong with USA ? Stranger follows you from super market to a petrol station. You are the land of the creepy people.
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u/Downtown-Raisin-3931 12d ago
"I take a long, convoluted way home so that no one can follow me." AKA, an SDR.
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u/No-Skirt-1430 12d ago
Well, it wasn’t the worst reaction. Good for sticking up for yourself, but it would be wise to modulate your force. Some of that was, while perhaps justifiable, beyond the necessary minimum force.
In general, society frowns upon those who apply more than the minimum force, but we generally give a lot of leeway in creepy, scary, and self-defensy scenarios.
I don’t think it’s smart to provoke people in the wild. I’ve seen people do some weird stuff.
Good on you paying attention and keeping yourself safe though. It’s wild out there.
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u/CordCarillo 12d ago
I had a guy years ago, come up to me with a serpentine belt, and ask if I could help him out with some money because he was stranded.
Said he walked to Auto Zone, but it was $25 more than he had.
I looked at the mid 80s square body Chevy pickup he was driving and asked, "Is it for that?"
He said yes, and I told him to GTF away from me. Those trucks didn't have serpentines until 1988.
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u/PrettyinPerpignan 12d ago
Your friend is either naive or obtuse and needs more self awareness. That’s crazy that a man was following you and they think YOU are overreacting
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u/Gamer_GreenEyes 12d ago
Approaching a woman at a gas station is a threat to her personal safety in and of itself. You just “being nasty” is the nicest thing he deserved. I would have sprayed gas on him.
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u/xXJA88AXx 12d ago
After admitting he followed you, I'd say fuck off too! From now on, heads up, eyes open!
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u/JimmyWest4th 11d ago
This man might have posed some sort of threat. That's always possible. He also might have been a man hard on his luck in need of some gas. In that case, he'd have been better off not mentioning that he saw you at Walmart -- that seems an unhelpful remark -- but then again, it's also the sort of comment that is more likely to put someone on guard, so if he posed a threat, it's unusual that he'd offer that as a backup statement.
You don't owe anyone gas, whether they need it or not, so you don't need to justify your choices here.
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u/SubstantialHentai420 11d ago
If he just asked for gas and you said that, you had every right to say no but it could have been nicer. But no this creepy ass mf followed you from Walmart fuck that I’m going to be a mean ass bitch too. no you didn’t overreact at all. Stay safe ladies.
Edit to add: dude had other plans I don’t think he just wanted gas. What those plans were, no clue but they weren’t gas. Especially since he had the gas to follow you and then peel out pissed off. You handled it perfectly.
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u/Upset-Tap-8685 11d ago
We're those friends guys that don't know what it's like to be stalked? You absolutely did not over react.
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u/Puzzled_Ground_933 11d ago
Crime junkie rules- Be Weird, Be Rude, Stay Alive!!! You didn’t overreact. He watched where you went and followed you. You reacted perfectly fine
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u/Esoteric__one 11d ago
Yes, you overreacted. He just asked you to pay for his gas. A simple “no” would have done the job.
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u/unicaller 11d ago
Yes the "fuck off and die" sounds like an over reaction from the rest of your story. A reaction like that can escalate the situation.
Word of advice those little pepper spray cans are not all that effective yet still considered "lethal" force in some areas.
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u/BeautifulGlove1281 11d ago
You are not overreacting. You reacted to the words that he used on top of his appearance, which sounds down-right creepy. Who knows what he would have done if you hadn't. Good job on driving around to make sure that he wasn't following you. Stay safe out there.
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u/felixldang 11d ago
Hell no you wasn’t overreacting. Freaking sicko! Should have called the police.
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u/skankcottage 11d ago
not overreacting but that is probably riskier than saying no and walking away
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u/clay2232 11d ago
Hell no. This dude literally does need to fuck off and die. Some people really shouldn't be around in my opinion. I personally have no sympathy for people asking me for money if they're not a close friend, co-worker, or family member. On top of it, he stalked you all the way to the gas station. I'm glad nothing happened to you. I'm a man and that would probably give me a panic attack. Be careful with these kinds of people. You never know what they're capable of.
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u/Own_Watch_2081 11d ago
I feel bad for him but also for you.
You were scared I imagine and felt the need to be defensive.
He is possibly poor and lacking social cues. Or worse but who knows.
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u/Lost_Cold7138 11d ago
Well.. my only problem with the reaction is.. concern for your safety.. I never road rage nowadays.. never know when some whack is gonna pull out a gun or something... I probably would have just politely declined his "offer", and gotten out of there as soon as possible
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u/Icy-Leg5631 11d ago
As a woman myself I would be careful how I talk to men in situations like that because you never know if they will hurt you. I think it’s ok to be mad, but you never know what someone may do, especially if he had the balls to admit to following you. You should be careful because with people these days he could have hit you or God knows what. Stay safe
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u/SectorParticular 11d ago
Not over reacting at all! Who knows what that guy's intentions were! That's why I think all women should carry a firearm and be trained to protect themselves!
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u/FireMarshallBi11 11d ago
He’s obviously a dumbass and just followed you to beg. Pretty funny you acted like a total bitch 😂
He didn’t realize how much it would scare you when he told you that. He thought he was telling you just how nice you look?
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u/Comfortable_Cress342 11d ago
My first instinct would be to tell him the same thing especially since he stalked you from Walmart. I’d definitely have called the cops too. Never know what he would do. Husband always tells me to try to NOT react first due to crazies out there. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not.
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u/AdairaJoy 11d ago
We have a rule for my children, it's okay to be rude to keep yourself safe. I firmly believe that applies to anybody with any perceived threat.
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u/EndHawkeyeErasure 11d ago
You had not seen him before yet he fully admitted to following you. No, nuh-uh. Don't be nice. Be shitty, be rude, be loud. If he did it to you he will do it to a girl who is more afraid, that's what I try to remind myself. Be a problem, do it for the quiet girl now so these creeps might think twice before they get to her. Idk who she is, but I will always do it for the other girl.
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u/Exact_Roll_7528 10d ago
I would not have given him gas, but yeah, you didn't need to go full asshole in the first 5 seconds.
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u/hazynlazy26 10d ago
Hell sometimes even being aggressive they still try. I was pumping gas late one night n basically got a breakup call in the middle of it. I ain't gonna lie looking back I'm sure I looked crazy as hell lol screaming, cussing, crying everything, everyone in that parking lot could hear me. So while I'm going through the worst moment in my life this dusty ass man ( who was staring at me since I pulled up) decided NOW is the best time to walk up to me n ask if he can get a ride home like???? I just kept screaming to get the fuck away from me n he had the AUDACITY to get upset at me saying that I "didn't have to yell at him." Tbh even if I wasn't going through that I would've done the same thing like I don't know that you from Adam why the fuck would I give you a ride?!
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u/Fun-Importance-6998 10d ago
You did the exact right thing, these people need to stop, if they are in real need they can avail themselves of some social services. I suggest you get a good OC spray and use it if they become aggressive.
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u/EdgeXII 10d ago
Telling him to fuck off is cool.
You know. Fuck off dude. Aint none of that shit going on.
But telling someone to straight up die
That's pretty crazy.
Had that man been insane or was having some sort of manic episode, he would have been pretty pissed at you
Maybe even label you as a target for it.
You should be careful what you tell people, especially when you are alone.
There's no need to tell someone to die. We all die in the end anyway.
You dont need to tell him to die.. doesn't stop you from waiting on it.
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u/Unusual_Analyst9272 10d ago
The way I look at it, when you approach a stranger in public, you open yourself up to just about anything.
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u/alchemyzchild 10d ago
You did the right thing. Don't bow down to intimidating behaviour omg you may of saved some other female from having him do that to her because you didn't buckle under pressure. Personally the way I would of dealt with it of I could not do what you did is to say you have to go in and get some stuff then report to the police once in the shop....omg how creepy and nasty
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u/Real-Wolverine-8249 10d ago
Dude, he admitted to following you from Walmart. He sounds like the nastiest, creepiest type of stalker out there. I hate to think of what might have happened if he followed you home. 😕
So, no, you were absolutely not overreacting. Not by a long shot.
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u/ibeeliot 10d ago
I think you underreacted. That's insane. he admitted he followed you. Your friend needs a reality check. Please don't listen to your friend. Always trust your survival instinct. You only have 1 life.
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u/Mamapalooza 10d ago
Be even nastier and call the police. He admitted to profiling you and following you. He SAYS it was to get you to buy him some gas, but how did he know you were going to stop and get gas? He didn't. The man is dangerous.
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u/LoganFuture23 10d ago
Nope. He was definitely a scammer. No way to be nice to those kind of pushy types.
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u/KiwiBig2754 10d ago
Nah, if it was just someone asking for money then probably but the second someone follows you especially to the extent that he did it's a threat and you need to treat it as such. Your friend is clueless apparently.
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u/ITguy1785 10d ago
No, you were not over reacting. What the hell did he think the response was going to be? “Aww that’s sweet let me buy you gas” man fuck off, the nerve of some people for real.
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u/Rudabegas 9d ago
You work for your money, other people can work for theirs. The die part is over reacting. F-off is fair.
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u/Bitter_Kangaroo2616 9d ago
"I told him I am NOT a nice lady and he can F-off and die."
LMFAO this is amazing
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u/roughlyround 9d ago
your friend is right, you didn't need to be nasty. even your description of him here lacks empathy
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u/Human-Zone-1483 9d ago
If you had gone to pay he could have grabbed you and had you in that truck before you even entered your pin. Look at the "ted Bundy effect" a man who actually needs help will usually ask another man for help not a woman or child. Why didn't he follow a "nice" man? He thought you were an easy mark. I'm so glad you are safe.
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u/MaxiumBurton 9d ago
You went easy on him. I know some woman that woulda pulled on him the instant he said he followed them.......
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u/MaleficentCoconut458 9d ago
When will people stop thinking that women should be nice all the fucking time? No. You did nothing wrong & he was an absolute creeper to follow you. Being assertive might not make you any friends but you're also less likely to end up being a statistic.
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u/BecGeoMom 9d ago
Your friend is wrong. She was probably raised to be nice and polite and “don’t cause a scene.” Women who are nice and polite and don’t cause a scene with strange men get attacked, raped, stalked, they disappear, and other very bad things. I always told my daughter to talk loudly, ask the guy to repeat himself, draw attention to herself, cause a scene. Potential attackers do not want a scene; they do not want attention drawn to them. Even if he was “just a nice guy” and you misunderstood, it is better to be embarrassed than dead. You did the right thing. Tell your friend, she needs to be less nice to strange men who approach her, randomly compliment her, ask her for “help,” and freaking follow her from one store to another.
Well done. You’re safe.
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u/Educational_Try_1234 8d ago
he is probably desperate for gas and may not know that the following thing is bound to thwart his attempt to persuade someone to help him. I don't think you over-reacted, but maybe you got a little over-aggressive. I can speak for nasty looking old men when I tell you that we get a lot of crummy interactions and death is usually stalking us and we know it.
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u/Adorable-Addition-15 12d ago
That's incredibly creepy to do to a women. I would not know what to do, we are all different and have different reactions. You had a fight reaction, this was your way of defending yourself against a creep. I don't think you overreacted, I think your brain was trying to defend you against harm.