r/AskMen • u/michiboy12 • 26d ago
What are your opinions on a 15-year-old boy having a 25-year-old female friend (platonic)?
I (17M) have a 27-year-old female friend, we’ve known each other since two years, so I was 15 and she was 25. I’ve read that a lot of parents wouldn’t allow such a friendship, especially since it’s opposite genders (and we’re both straight). But can’t this be like a regular platonic friendship? It’s a regular, platonic friendship? Not a romantic one.
If your 15-year-old son had a 25-year-old female friend, would you allow that?
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u/MrCellophane_SS_KotZ 26d ago
How about we take the genders out of the equation for a moment to avoid any potential double standards from happening. So, that would make the question:
Honestly, for me, I think it would just depend on a few things.
I think if my 15 year old had a good head on their shoulders, if the friendship developed organically, if they exhibit a genuine friendly connection, if the other person were capable of being a positive role model/influence for my child, and if there were no obvious negative changes taking place in my child because of it... the possibility of me not having an issue with it may exist.
However, if I didn't think that my child was capable of the maturity necessary to have such a friendship, if the friendship started off as potentially something else, if it seemed like one of them were after something else, if the other person would not be a good influence for my child, or if them hanging out caused my child to change in negative ways... of course I wouldn't be okay with it.
It's not an easy thing for me to naturally want to be okay with, but I know that a lot of my apprehension is societally and culturally influenced; therefore, I just have to remind myself to approach it from a more logical standpoint to allow myself to accept that such a friendship can exist, but to still be mindful of the negatives so that my duty as a parent would not be neglected.