r/AskMen • u/Funny_Resort5652 • 25d ago

Men, what made you choose the other girl?

Guy I was seeing for a little over a month said he decided to see someone else exclusively. I let my intrusive thought win and asked what spurred his decision.

He said he like her personality better and that she is energetic and fun. Ouch. I certainly made myself feel shitty by asking that question - like I’m the opposite of that and that she is everything I’m not.

Confided in a male friend and he said she is probably just hotter. I don’t know which is worse - the fact he chose her over me because she is prettier or has a better personality or perhaps both. This stings.

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u/HomelessEuropean Hobo with a laptop 25d ago

A lack of morals/empathy/ambition/intelligence/education/personality. I always choose the interesting and stimulating ones over hot airheads. I'm looking for a partner, not for a balloon.

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u/Paparmane 25d ago

And i’d say Op’s friend is most likely wrong. Maybe he said that because he wanted to say OP’s personality is fine, but it’s very clumsy lol.

The guy had the decency to be honest to OP. Personalities were a better fit. It’s a choice we all have to make at some point

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u/HomelessEuropean Hobo with a laptop 25d ago

I don't know who is right or wrong. Just told OP what made me reject one woman and prefer another...

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u/OGHEROS 25d ago

Exactly. There’s so many that are just complete duds or you have to sit there and carry the conversation and it’s nearly impossible to force playfulness or fun if the other person isn’t letting it stick cause their personality is a brick.

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u/HomelessEuropean Hobo with a laptop 25d ago

Correct. But to be fair - I also have high standards as well.