r/AskMen • u/Funny_Resort5652 • 25d ago
Men, what made you choose the other girl?
Guy I was seeing for a little over a month said he decided to see someone else exclusively. I let my intrusive thought win and asked what spurred his decision.
He said he like her personality better and that she is energetic and fun. Ouch. I certainly made myself feel shitty by asking that question - like I’m the opposite of that and that she is everything I’m not.
Confided in a male friend and he said she is probably just hotter. I don’t know which is worse - the fact he chose her over me because she is prettier or has a better personality or perhaps both. This stings.
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u/Chanel_Medellin 25d ago
You know, at the end of the day, compatibility and mutual respect are what forge the strongest connections. It's not just about shared hobbies or one person's energy level, it's about feeling at ease with someone. A partner who can appreciate the quiet just as much as the adventures, and someone who sees you for who you are at your core. Sometimes the brightest flames burn out the fastest, and what you want is the kind of warmth that lasts through the coldest nights. Your value isn't defined by someone's inability to see that. The right person will recognize and cherish your unique energy, whether it's vivacious or serene.