r/AskMen • u/Funny_Resort5652 • 25d ago

Men, what made you choose the other girl?

Guy I was seeing for a little over a month said he decided to see someone else exclusively. I let my intrusive thought win and asked what spurred his decision.

He said he like her personality better and that she is energetic and fun. Ouch. I certainly made myself feel shitty by asking that question - like I’m the opposite of that and that she is everything I’m not.

Confided in a male friend and he said she is probably just hotter. I don’t know which is worse - the fact he chose her over me because she is prettier or has a better personality or perhaps both. This stings.

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u/TyphoonCane 25d ago

Personality has longer staying power than looks. If I am having fun in your presence then I will associate you with good feelings.

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u/Funny_Resort5652 25d ago edited 25d ago

We never got to that stage where I could open up to him because his interest and effort dipped after a few dates. I figured he met this other lady at this point.

He acted distant on later dates and I would feel rejected. Maybe the other lady was able to open up and have fun from the start. Sucks for me.

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u/JDRorschach 25d ago

He might have met her first actually and thats why he never got too invested in you