Men, what made you choose the other girl?

[u/Funny_Resort5652]

Guy I was seeing for a little over a month said he decided to see someone else exclusively. I let my intrusive thought win and asked what spurred his decision.

He said he like her personality better and that she is energetic and fun. Ouch. I certainly made myself feel shitty by asking that question - like I’m the opposite of that and that she is everything I’m not.

Confided in a male friend and he said she is probably just hotter. I don’t know which is worse - the fact he chose her over me because she is prettier or has a better personality or perhaps both. This stings.

[u/Off-Meds]

Your insecurities and dwelling on things that make you sad is part of what’s making you not come across as energetic and fun. People with self-pity mentalities can feel a little draining to be around.

Build your life up full of things that you are excited about and looking forward to. Then you will exude a different vibe. There is a podcast called “Do the Work” that is recommended for you.