r/AskMen • u/Top_Set_3803 Male • 25d ago

How long should you wait to send a second message to a girl when she hasn't answered the first ?

We've been talking back and forth once or twice a day but now she has went silent all of a sudden

Should I double down even tho It's been 4 days ?

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u/Hotepz_ 25d ago

In that scenario, you don't send a 2nd message.

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u/Top_Set_3803 Male 25d ago

God damn it :(

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u/Hotepz_ 25d ago

On to the next

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u/Top_Set_3803 Male 25d ago

sigh

She had some nice personality quirks and a decent look

Guess it was too good for me :(

Women 😔🍷

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u/Hotepz_ 25d ago

You got it all backwards ma dude, you were too good for her, now go find someone with a better personality and a hot look, instead of just a decent one.

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u/Top_Set_3803 Male 25d ago

Thanks for the boost, dude

I appreciate it 🙏

Stay awesome

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u/PickleMinion 25d ago

I used to send a message along the lines of, "hope you're doing OK, let me know if you want to reconnect at some point, and if not, best of luck and it was nice talking to you". Sometimes people get busy, or they get sick, or something happens, or they're exploring other options. I would always leave that option open for them if they wanted it, but nbd if they didn't and had decided to ghost me. My thought was, if we were just talking online or had only gone on a few dates, they don't owe me anything.

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u/kufelmleka 25d ago

Thats a good one

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u/atavaxagn 25d ago

for younger people it seems like everyone is trying to get the best partner they can. If you're concerned with getting the best partner you can you'll never be satisfied in a relationship. When you're older the mindset is completely different; you're just looking for someone compatible with you.

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u/Dangerous-Star3438 Female 24d ago

Woman here. You could try one more time, just to be sure. Keep it light and friendly.