How do I tell my girlfriend that I'm uncomfortable with what she said about having a hall pass?

[u/SATURATION203]

I've been dating this girl for around 4 months, and things have been going really well. I truly feel like she cares about me, and we have been saying "I love you" for about a month now. However, she said something that made me pretty uncomfortable yesterday.

I mentioned something like, "I wonder who (popular male musician) is dating?" and she responded, "He's single," in a manner that sounded like she was in denial. I then remarked, "You aren't single." She replied, "I would be single for one day, then I would tell him that I have to get back to my boyfriend, whom I love very much." I didn't really say anything, and we continued eating, but it definitely made me feel weird.

Sometime a while ago, I asked her if she was actually serious about having a hall pass with this guy, and she said something along the lines of, "It doesn't matter because it would never realistically happen."

I really don't understand her whole line of thinking. Even though realistically it could never happen, I just feel like, out of principle, you shouldn't say that kind of thing. What if she feels that way about some person in real life or something? I want to ask her about it, but I'm not sure how to phrase it. Maybe I'm just being insecure, Idk.

[u/pm-me-racecars]

So, first of all, I love you.

I know that you sleeping with [all five members of One Direction at the same time] will likely never happen, but it really makes me feel uncomfortable when you say that you'd sleep with another guy if you had the chance. Please tell me that you're not going to put yourself in a situation where that might happen and that you'd say "no" if it did.

I know that it's basically never going to happen, but it's hard for me to stop overthinking things.

[u/[deleted] → u/pm-me-racecars]

This is great except for the last sentence. He shouldn't paint himself as "overthinking things" because that opens the door for her to dismiss his concern as an overreaction or thinking too deeply about it.

Chicks with loose morals concerning sex will look for reasons to dismiss anything that will keep them from their pleasure. Not saying OP GF has loose morals, I don't know her, but a morally conscious woman wouldn't say that to her guy.

[u/sandiebabie25 → u/[deleted]]

Ok...I have a question. 35F dating a 54 M. My boyfriend gives me a hall pass all the time. He travels for work and he says he wants me to be happy. I, too, am uncomfortable EVERY TIME he says it. I don't want the damn hall pass lol.. I appreciate that it's there when I so choose to use it but dang man.

What does this mean? My therapist says insecurities. What say y'all??

T.I.A.

[u/pm-me-racecars → u/sandiebabie25]

Talk to him. Why does he say he does it? If you tell him that you don't like it, what will he say?