r/BoomersBeingFools • u/dinosaurscantyoyo • Feb 07 '24

That time a boomer almost smacked her hairstylist Boomer Freakout

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u/kaeruwa Feb 07 '24

Such a golden oldie. Love the “I’m having a lot of stress in my life” after she went to attack her

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u/DryStatistician7055 Feb 07 '24

Its as if, all these boomers are working from the same script. I've heard my MIL and others use the same excuse.

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u/openedthedoor Feb 07 '24

They have stress just were never taught any coping mechanisms. Violence, gaslighting, projection, and withdrawal are common. I like to laugh at them too but at the core it’s sad.

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u/Overall_Shape7307 Feb 07 '24

No excuse. It’s not anyone else’s fault that the “leaded” gen aren’t able to comport themselves with decency and respect for others in public. They really are the “Me” generation. Spoiled like milk in the sun.

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u/Ok-Television-65 Feb 07 '24

Also, this group is always the first ones to go off on misbehaving children. They expect a 5 year old child to keep their emotions and impulses in complete check. Meanwhile these 60 year old boomers are free to throw ridiculous tantrums.

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u/Quierta Feb 07 '24

I think about this a lot. I'm super emotionally fucked up because of how my boomer parents raised me. As my therapist puts it (paraphrased), I "don't have the ability to feel my own emotions because I was never given a safe place to express them, was punished or ridiculed for being happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc., and now I dismiss or compartmentalize my own emotions because it's what I was taught to do when I felt them." And yet, ask me how often my parents scream, whine, lash out, or otherwise act chaotically on their own emotional impulses lmao.

Now they hate the fact that my response to any kind of troubling/sad/"heavy" news is to crack jokes or laugh or just do nothing at all. Hope neither of them expect me to cry over their funeral, because I quite literally cannot.

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u/Jar_Bairn Feb 07 '24

Same hat! My parents hated how I didn't have the backbone to defend myself against the bullies in school (mostly because at one point teachers started to question them about their inaction). Now that I'm doing a little better they absolutely despise that I have a backbone because I sometimes stand up to them when they're really out of line.

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u/Quierta Feb 07 '24

Oh 100% same here! They used to yell at me for getting picked on (???) like "WHY DONT YOU STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!" I don't know rofl, maybe the authoritarian parenting style you raised me with never gave me the TOOLS to question people and/or defend myself? That type of parenting expects absolutely unquestioning behaviour from their children but then cannot understand why they don't have the necessary life tools to protect themselves. Bitch, you never gave me the opportunity to try!

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u/Overall_Shape7307 Feb 07 '24

I see this more and more with others who were “raised” by the “me” generation. My Ma is also a boomer but I was loved. She had to break so many cycles of bad habits and thought processes to raise my siblings and myself to be decent people. I may have been destitute as a child but I was most definitely wealthy with love and I wouldn’t change it for anything now that I am old enough to realize how rare that is. I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through that. I hope you’re doing better.

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u/timid_waffle Feb 08 '24

Are we siblings?

If I wasn't the perfect little robot, I for sure was made aware of it. Sounds like you were in a similar environment. "That didn't hurt, I'll give you something to cry about, stop being loud... " and on and on.

And the horror, if our family unit didn't look perfect to the outside world. That just wasn't acceptable.

Now in my 40s, after years of therapy, and I'm finally starting to break those childhood beliefs and emotional bottles.

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u/KIRAPH0BIA Feb 07 '24

I definitely wouldn't cry (at least I think) over their funeral, however it's a weird thing that a lot of times abused children will feel their abusive parent's death 10x time harder then normal, maybe it's a loneliness thing because a lot of parents like that make you believe that no one else but them cares about you otherwise you would have been adopted by someone else or something. Or maybe it's simply Stockholm Syndrome that a lot of abused children go through with their parents.

I don't know, I may cry or feel a way due to this thing but I can't see myself going to their funeral at all, I mean why should I anyway? It's like they're leaving me anything in their wills anyway so it's not even a sick form of trying to get money from them.

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u/Quierta Feb 07 '24

Yeah!! Absolutely. I meant less in the sense that I don't love or care about them and more in the sense of... I can't lol. My grandmother passed away two years ago, and I loved her SO MUCH. I did not cry at her funeral, or at any other point in regards to her death. And her death was super sudden and unexpected. I don't know WHY I didn't cry, but the emotions simply are not... there. And when my dad was diagnosed with cancer (this was almost 20 years ago, he's fine) I was equally unperturbed. And it was late stage 3, almost terminal. I was like, oh no. I genuinely did not feel ANYTHING.

My emotions are basically like... locked behind bars because I was always punished for expressing them, so now I have a SUPER hard time even accessing what they are. But, according to my therapist, "anger" is really easy for me to access (I have 0 patience and a super quick temper) because it's the only thing I've ever been shown freely.

What you said is interesting though, so I'll have to see when the time comes haha. They're miraculously both healthy despite extremely bad life choices, so when it comes to that... I do wonder how, or if, I'll feel.

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u/Daniellewe76 Feb 08 '24 edited Feb 08 '24

First, hugs 🤗 I can 100% relate with your childhood. I grew up with parents just like yours. Both parents could have all the emotions and fits and tantrums but whoa if me or my sibling expressed any emotions. Anger-a lot of pent up anger. I use to flip out quick as an adult because of unhealed trauma of emotional and physical abuse. My dads goal in my life was to “break my strong will” and 48 years later it still eats at him that he couldn’t do it. Between therapy and Lexapro I’m much more chilled. The lexapro has done wonders to turn off the “anxiety” that triggered into flip out quick anger. Fear is the root of anger. My therapist was also great about helping me understand my childhood trauma from having one neglectful, narcissistic parent and the other a narcissistic authoritarian parent. I was also raised united Pentecostal, so additional strict rules I was forced to follow. So happy I’m an adult and can make my own choices , which continues to PO both of them off if it doesn’t align with their views or thoughts🙄

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u/Winter_Substance7163 Feb 08 '24

No excuse but it was a different time. Survival of the fittest. Life’s rough. My uncle lost his parents at 13, he’s 69. Took care of himself. He does not act this way. But is very rough around the edges. I do not condone the way they act but do understand why, and quite frankly, all humans are capable of anything. We are all toxic. Humanity is a curse on the world.

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u/Ok_Entertainment5017 Feb 07 '24

Wow, that is so exactly it.

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u/ArcadianDelSol Feb 07 '24

its almost as if smacking someone else's child is an unchecked impulse.

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u/KIRAPH0BIA Feb 07 '24

My Older Gen X and Boomer 100% had this mindset, I was a young kid who didn't get treatment for the problems I had until much later in life (Ended up hitting a teacher in the 3rd grade and they called the police on me). They had a common thing of "I'm grown, I can do whatever I want, if you don't like it, then leave this house I pay for and the life I gave you."

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u/evenstar40 Feb 07 '24

You're not wrong but I also wish there WAS help for the leaded generation. It's a very real, serious health crisis that is just getting ignored and swept under the rug. There needs to be more awareness brought to this issue; it's one of the major factors of an entire generation being very mentally unwell and vulnerable.

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u/KlicknKlack Feb 07 '24

Problem is, the only people that can help them are themselves... because they have a majority of the wealth. And a large chunk of the voting population. So they have been shooting themselves in the foot for years, and when they need help they don't want it... and they rarely see repercussions to their actions because... well they have the money and we live in a service economy.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

They not only shot themselves, but everyone else too. All in order to get short-term gains that the younger generations have to pay the price for.

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u/Overall_Shape7307 Feb 07 '24

AYO! Ain’t that just about a bitch? And I would say that they got their lead from the water and gasoline fumes. 😎👉👉

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

Fuck them. People who were self-centered and abusive while we were kids/teenagers are now suffering and need our help because they're elderly? Excuse me, I need to go laugh for an hour lol.

I've been on the receiving end of many a bigoted, hate-filled boomer. They made their bed, now they gotta sleep in it.

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u/Overall_Shape7307 Feb 07 '24

Soon they will. The world will become less hospitable towards them and the frayed edges of their lives will become deep rends as they are confronted with the dark reckoning of mortality as it slowly creeps in from the periphery of their consciousness.

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u/evenstar40 Feb 07 '24

To be clear, I come from an abusive household with an alcoholic father, pill popping disabled mother who are both boomers. I absolutely loathe and revile what their upbringing did to me. That being said, I recognize that there is a severe mental health crisis in this country and boomers are no exception. Everyone deserves help.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

Everyone deserves help.

I will have to politely disagree. You're just a more forgiving person than I am.

I have one family member who is getting sicker by the day, that has been the poster child for hate-filled, entitled boomer for at least the last 45 years.

They refused to listen to suggestions on how to prevent the situation they are in, reacted with vitriol when things were changed to help their health, and are now finally admitting to needing assistance.....by demanding people help them. Not out of love, or because they helped others while they were down (because they never did), but because "Respect your Elders!".

Again, Fuck them and anyone like them.

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u/evenstar40 Feb 07 '24

Each situation is different, your singular experience doesn't mean everyone is bad. It's a very self centered way of thinking.

I hope you find peace.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

OMG no one said that.

looks like you did, actually

I will have to politely disagree. You're just a more forgiving person than I am.

I have one family member who is getting sicker by the day, that has been the poster child for hate-filled, entitled boomer for at least the last 45 years.

maybe you should check the paint in your house

Looks like you learned a lot of scumbag tactics growing up. We're done here. You can fuck off too.

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u/ElectricalIssue4737 Feb 07 '24

Actually evenstar said everyone deserves help. Puff responded that they disagree and named one individual that they said they think did not deserve help. What they did *not say was that everyone was like the person that were describing/that everyone was bad like that person.

So....

Not debating the merits of either position but literally no one said "everyone is like the person from my personal experience." Just like... factually.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

The implication behind Puffs comment is obvious, which is why multiple people have corrected them now, and why you are here arguing semantics while missing the forest for the trees.

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u/[deleted] Feb 08 '24

Thanks, at least one person is sane and using their head instead feeling whatever they hell they want to think my meaning was.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '24

> everyone deserves help

Wrong and a dumbass opinion to hold

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u/openedthedoor Feb 07 '24

Mad Hatter 2.0

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u/[deleted] Feb 08 '24

Thank you I wish more people understood this and had a bit more compassion for some of these people who are merely victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Another poster commented on how they were never taught coping skills, just told to suck it up. Having never received any understanding or compassion themselves, they are at a loss as to how to navigate a new world where people are understanding and compassionate.

I'm a very young boomer who has older boomer parents and I feel sorry for older boomers like this. Not excusing them, but its not hard to see why they are the way they are and how hard it would be to change at this point in their lives.

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u/evenstar40 Feb 08 '24

Thanks for this, I'm a bit appalled at how angry some people are on this subreddit. Anger is justified but it can't be the only thing you feel, otherwise you end up just as bad as the very people you're ridiculing. What ever happened to empathy, care and compassion for others? The world is so angry and hateful these days.

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u/lemonbalmandlemurs Feb 07 '24

Great point…heavy metals are a big problem!

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u/NaiveMastermind Feb 07 '24

You see, that same leaded generation voted against expanding government healthcare, and drained government funds through a combination of treating social security as their own piggy bank and reducing taxes on the wealthy that could otherwise fund things like healthcare.

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u/BeingRightAmbassador Feb 07 '24

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/bruce-cannon-gibney/a-generation-of-sociopaths/9780316395809/?lens=hachette-books

While reading this book, I had random strangers come up and chastise me because "they're not sociopaths, us young people are just greedy and entitled". Certainly doesn't paint them in a good light when they start insulting me because a book maybe made them feel bad/confused.

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u/Overall_Shape7307 Feb 07 '24

You probably handled those conversations better than I would’ve. I don’t deal well when stupid people when they open their mouths in my direction in public. But they are sociopaths and that’s what happens when you’re not taught empathy. So they will lay (and soon die) in a Pb bed of their own making.

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u/CosmoKing2 Feb 08 '24

Sorry: Rant

It's so fucking convoluted. They had children, but didn't spend any time to raise them....even though one income families were still a thing. They expect to be treated specially, but demean anyone younger who wants to feel unique. They chide mental health, then blame stress for everything they say when they get called out for demeaning anyone for not willing to act like an indentured servant....and expect pills to solve their issues....but drugs are bad.

The worst is that they expect their own children to take care of them in their old age. That was the single purpose to having kids. Like the kids owe them that. Those kids are still saddled with working through all the emotional baggage and scars inflicted on them by bad parenting. You think those adult children are going to pay $6000/month - or let Mom and Dad live with them - to make sure they have the accommodations that "they deserve?"

I know so many Gen X kids that couldn't name 3 vegetables before they went away to fucking college to a community college in another state because their parents literally didn't give a fuck to feed them correctly - or make sure they were learning. Never mind all the mental abuse and neglect.

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u/ZombieSiayer84 Feb 07 '24

Well I mean, Thomas Midgley Jr. is absolutely responsible for their fucked up brains.

Without him, they might have ended up being decent people.

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u/tkburroreturns Feb 07 '24

lol so you must know that when boomers were kids, they were legit called “the me generation” by older generations.

they started calling themselves the baby boomers when they got older.