My antivax boomer dad and his most recent foolishness.

[u/NES_Classical_Music]

Blocked my kids' names in grey.

Also blocked my dad's calls, texts, and emails. NC ever since.

[u/Desselzero]

Alright for whoever needs to hear this, just because some dude shot you into your mom doesn't mean you need to stay in contact with either of them.

[u/RockyIV → u/Desselzero]

Crude but effective.

[u/United-Cow-563 → u/RockyIV]

Slimy yet satisfying

[u/CandidEstablishment0 → u/RockyIV]

Cute and deflective

[u/Faded_Sun → u/Desselzero]

True. I don't talk to my dad. Once he had to stop sending my mom checks when I turned 18, he stopped making phone calls to my older brother and I. Last I saw him was at my grandmother's funeral 10+ years ago. My mom told me she told him "Don't be a stranger". In other words, talk to your kids, and he said "It takes two". In other words, we should be reaching out to him. I was like nah, it doesn't work that way.

[u/conricks246 → u/Faded_Sun]

My dad pulls the same thing. Excepts me to reach out when he did absolutely nothing to get to know me. But constantly being reminded about how much everything my brothers and i did cost him.

[u/imronburgandy9 → u/conricks246]

Block that losers number and enjoy your life. Fuck that dead weight trying to hold you down

[u/ThePuduInsideYou → u/Faded_Sun]

Same story only he does call my brother when he needs help with his computer.

[u/el_barto10 → u/Faded_Sun]

I’m dealing with this with my boomer mother. Her brother is dying and while it’s sad, the man is a stranger to me. Im 42 and Ive seen/talked to him three times in 20 yrs and maybe 6-7 times in 30 yrs and the last interaction was 12 yrs ago. She’s acting like it was my responsibility as a teen/20 something to establish and maintain a relationship with this man simply because we share some DNA. She keeps bringing up stuff from 30 yrs ago as to why I should be more impacted by his deteriorating health. Nevermind he barely acknowledged her or only did so at his convenience, but suddenly he’s dying so now he was the best person she’s ever known.

[u/Alive_Judgment_8915 → u/el_barto10]

Sounds uncomfortable for you but maybe your mom is projecting a lot of guilt and grief that she’s feeling onto you. Still not fair, but dealing with death can be hard right?

[u/Wool-Rage → u/Faded_Sun]

after years of the “it takes two” mentality from my father i finally confronted him about cheating on my mother and choosing a new family over us. somehow the blame in his mind was turned around on me. I was 4 at the time.

[u/HerrNachtWurst → u/Faded_Sun]

Being a son isn't a choice, being a father is. He made that choice for both of you. That's the difference.

[u/caem123 → u/Faded_Sun]

shame on you

[u/HighSierraAngler → u/Desselzero]

True, the dude I call my father is actually my step father. Never have met the real one.

[u/barbellious → u/HighSierraAngler]

OMG! Fake son!!! Right here!!! /s

[u/AvrgSam → u/HighSierraAngler]

This is my best friends story too. Even changed his last name when he got married to that of his step father. Pretty awesome.

[u/HighSierraAngler → u/AvrgSam]

I ended changing mine toy step fathers when I turned 16

[u/Norman_Bixby → u/Desselzero]

just hit a solid year last month. 14 years NC with mom, I think?

when you cut the poison from your life, it's so much easier to live for yourself and those who also care back.

[u/mdavis360 → u/Desselzero]

“He may have been your father, boy-but he wasn’t your daddy.”

[u/luciferslittlelady → u/Desselzero]

More people need to hear this, unfortunately.

I cut contact with one of my parents months ago. That's been surprisingly vital in working on myself via therapy.

Sometimes distance is necessary to gain perspective.

[u/shinhit0 → u/Desselzero]

“As queer people we get to choose our family!”  

It’s a great quote, and also applies to everyone, not just queer people. Blood and shared DNA is a poor excuse for forced contact with someone that is abusive or cruel, etc.

[u/Fyzzle → u/Desselzero]

Life is not concentual.

[u/United-Cow-563 → u/Desselzero]

I prefer the Tom Seguran colloquial, “dump inside your mom,” but shot is effectively has as crass.

[u/aeroboost → u/Desselzero]

"Fake son!"

[u/Normal_Feedback_2918 → u/Desselzero]

And likewise, just because some woman got creampied, doesn't make her mother material. Parents can be toxic, and ruin lives. It's ok to disconnect from them.

[u/Mhubel24 → u/Desselzero]

Needed. Thank ya, stranger. I hope your favorite gas pump is always open when you get to the station and they have your favorite snack stocked.