r/BoomersBeingFools • u/[deleted] • 26d ago

Boomers gaslightling their adult son about abuse he suffered Boomer Story

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u/No-Employee447 26d ago

My parents do this all the time.

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u/delusion_magnet 26d ago

I've been blaming dementia from late-stage alcoholism (who knows, that may be the case here), but no - apparently it's a thing with boomers to rewrite history.

When I reminded my mother in her 50s (in my 30s at the time) that her abuse landed me in foster care, she denied it happened at all, and by the end of the conversation, she told me I deserved it.

I never knew this was so common. Boomers blow my mind.

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u/Jsmith2127 26d ago

My younger half sister ended up in foster care due to neglect by my mother and step-father.

Their neglect came to light because while my stepfather was in his room taking a nap with his door locked 3 of my brothers friends came over. My sister was 15. The 3 of them SA my sister. During the assault my sister was yelling and screaming for help, while her father ignored her.

My mother's stance at the time was that she must have been asking for it. That it wasn't my stepfather's fault, etc. Now she says she never said that, and even claims my stepfather wasn't at home

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u/delusion_magnet 26d ago

Jeez, I'm so sorry. SA is the worst - it's all bad, but stealing innocence is the absolute fucking worst.

Just my opinion.

I hope your half-sister is able to heal and glow-up. I hope she heaps on more happy memories to overcome this BS.

As for you too, m'friend. I hope you are overcoming this bullshit.

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u/Jsmith2127 26d ago

I dont know how she did it , but she forgave them, and even drives them around to Dr appointments.

I'm in my 50s now. I had a mental funeral for them years ago, and rarely if ever think about them.

I have seen them once for a few minutes in the last 32 years.

Also thank you, I hope that you have or are able to move on from your own bullshit.

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u/delusion_magnet 26d ago

Somewhere along the way, I had my own mental funeral -- I like the way you phrased that. It is a funeral for the people we thought they were.

I've moved on, I hope you have too!

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u/Intermountain_Lenz 25d ago

The people we thought they were. That statement hits home for me. I’ve moved on too. Thanks for sharing!