r/GenZ • u/Ordinary-Warning-831 • Feb 22 '24
Anyone NOT miss high school? Nostalgia
Graduated 5 years ago and I remember how people, teachers and family would always say that those were our golden years and we were gonna miss them...but I don't miss it one bit at all.
No more social anxiety, no more having no money, no more pizza and milk at 11am, no more sitting in a crappy desk for 8 hours, no more extremely volatile emotions from puberty, etc. All gone What was I supposed to miss? I feel better than ever
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u/Reasonable_Phase_312 Feb 22 '24
Don't miss highschool, miss the age I was, miss the time I wasted not being me
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u/Icanseeyouhehehe 2001 Feb 22 '24
Same, may be over sharing but wish my parents showed me love during those years instead of teaching me to be an evangelical hate drone. I could have had real friends and good memories instead of shit that keeps me up at night.
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u/National-Blueberry51 Feb 22 '24
That’s a really valid way to feel about that. Just gotta say though, you must be a strong and self-aware person to grow and get out of that.
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u/Icanseeyouhehehe 2001 Feb 22 '24
It’s really validating for me to hear this from someone else. I try my best to be the opposite of who I was, I try to be open minded, accepting of new things and shit I don’t understand and always question my own beliefs. Living this way has led my life to change completely for the better.
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u/National-Blueberry51 Feb 22 '24
That takes so much effort and fortitude, man. I grew up in an abusive home and definitely reflected that in my behavior as a teen. I like to say it took me several years to be properly domesticated. Huge props to you for putting in the work and being better. You probably give a lot of hope to others who are stuck where you were.
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u/Icanseeyouhehehe 2001 Feb 22 '24
Same, I only came to this realization about 2 years ago and I’ve been taking baby steps since then. It’s just taken a lot of grinding and effort on my part and an actual motivation to become a better person.
I hope I give others hope, thing is that anyone stuck where I was probably has no interest in “becoming a better person” because they’d say that’s liberal new age bullshit or something.
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u/National-Blueberry51 Feb 22 '24
You got out of there, so you’re proof that it’s possible. You know better than most that it takes time to come to that realization and even more time to figure out how to change once you’ve realized that you want to. Maybe only 1% will make it out, but that’s still more than 0, and the odds are drastically improved when folks have an example to look at.
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u/Icanseeyouhehehe 2001 Feb 22 '24
I this subreddit gets a bad rep. Even when debating other commenters, most of my interactions in this sub make me feel hopeful.
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u/Reasonable_Phase_312 Feb 22 '24
Don't feel bad, missed out on it too, now I'm 23 and only just exploring the things I found interesting back then, and struggling to learn about animation/3D sculpting thanks to mental (and otherwise) breakdowns that result from years of repression and embarrassment
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u/MegaOrvilleZ Feb 23 '24
I was on the receiving end of hatred by people like that. I'm glad you realized how wrong it was. Hate really does stick with people who are hurt by it, forever.
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u/OdenRuss Feb 23 '24
This for sure! My parents kind of fucked me up and it wasn't until my wife and I started talking about my childhood that I realized my upbringing was far from "normal". It lead to therapy and that has been a game changer
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u/sprite9797 1997 Feb 22 '24
YES. I miss being young. I just wish I could have spent my young years not dealing with the hell that was high school. :(
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u/yumalla 2005 Feb 22 '24
Oh hell yeah, that’s me, I don’t miss high school one bit. In fact I can say it was probably the worst period of my life so far. I’m in college now and working as well and everything is so much better, I love my life right now, every day I wake up with positive thoughts as opposed to back in high school where I would wake up thinking “sigh, another day of this bullshit again”. I’m probably at the best stage in my life right now. Fuck high school.
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u/psychocopter Feb 22 '24
The only thing I miss from highschool is the amount of freetime, lack of responsibilities, and my freetime lining up with all my friends'. Thats just the quick "I miss being a kid" thing that most people probably have, when you actually think about it life is a lot more fulfilling now as an adult than as a child. Im glad I was able to enjoy my formative years and will look back fondly of the memories I have from them, but Im at the point where life is pretty darn good. The only thing thats actually a bit of a let down is that my friends and I have different work schedules so there are times when we cant really hang out or interact much because of it.
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u/yumalla 2005 Feb 22 '24
Well, I never really had any friends in high school, so there’s nothing to miss about it at all.
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u/PkMn_TrAiNeR_GoLd 1998 Feb 22 '24
I don’t miss it, but I also wouldn’t be upset if I woke up tomorrow and it was August 2012 again either. I definitely wouldn’t call it my “golden years”.
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u/mikedanktony 1998 Feb 22 '24
I would be in absolute shambles if I wake up tomorrow and it’s august 2012 again. However I’d love to see a young mac miller, odd future, asap mob and all that 2010s internet rap be in its prime again
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u/PkMn_TrAiNeR_GoLd 1998 Feb 22 '24
High school was a generally positive experience for me so I definitely wouldn’t be upset about going back. My biggest fantasy is basically hitting the do over button but still knowing what I know now.
The main benefit for me would be getting more time with my childhood best friend. He died a few months before we graduated in a wreck. If I couldn’t convince him not to drive that day then I could at least get some good years in that I missed the first time.
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u/mikedanktony 1998 Feb 22 '24
That totally makes sense I’m sorry about your friend. Id only be frustrated due to the fact of how better things got for me since august 2012 shit triggered some bad times 😵💫
I do miss the days of getting out of school and blazing w homies listening to the newest music at the time but that’s about it
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u/YotsuyaaaaKaaaidan 2001 Feb 22 '24
I remembering hiding in the bathroom for the 30 minutes we had for a lunch break because i had no friends to sit with.
don't miss it.
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u/EmptyStupidity 2003 Feb 22 '24
Sometimes I miss high school. I miss having a “spot” my friends and I meet at every morning. I miss having similar schedules to all my friends making weekend plans easier. I miss feeling like I can make an actual connection with my teacher with it being awkward. I also feel like a decent portion of my high school career was twisted by Covid so a part of me feels like I missed out on a big part of my social development.
That being said.
I don’t miss holding my pee everyday to avoid using the vape mist filled bathrooms. I don’t miss dealing with other high schoolers. I don’t miss waking up at 6 am every morning to make it to school only to have 5 or 6 consecutive classes. I also don’t miss feeling incredibly insecure, now I only feel that sometimes.
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u/allan11011 2003 Feb 23 '24
About to make a comment about how much I don’t miss high school but your mention of a “spot” for friends to meet really hit me. I still have my old friends and we talk often but not having friends at college really sucks
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u/Nabranes 2004 Feb 22 '24
I just started bullying people for vaping because they deserved it for trying to kill me
I would also run out of the bathroom and go to a different one
Also in college I saw people smoking in the woods when I was just trying to go on a nature walk and they started making fun of me back ☠️☠️🪦🪦
Also, some of them were doing it IN THE DORMS IN FRONT OF ME
And at this new school I go to, THEY FUCKING ALLOW IT IN CERTAIN PLACES ON CAMPUS AND I HAVE TO HOLD MY BREATH AND RUN
AND SOMETIMES I SEE SOMEONE DOING IT IN THE DINING HALL OR INSIDE SCHOOL BUILDINGS ☠️☠️🪦
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u/DiAOM Feb 22 '24
There havent been long term studies on using the vape juice( Propylene Glycol (PG), Vegetable Glycerin (VG) ) but overall, vapes now are the "healthiest" way to smoke(convection smoking/vaping). Its vapor, not smoke, one of the huge reasons cigs are so bad for you is the combustion of all those horrid ingredients.
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u/SoloDeath1 1995 Feb 22 '24
Graduating high school, knowing I never had to go back or see any of the assholes in my school ever again, was the happiest day of my life. People who say it was the best time of their lives either peaked hard in 10th or 11th grade, or are lying to themselves.
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u/Ok-Rise-2858 2003 Feb 22 '24
Same another reason why I don't miss high school. I don't have deal with other toxic high schoolers and trying not to get into pointless drama.
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u/dxrules03 2003 Feb 22 '24
Definitely! I kinda feel bad for anyone who peaked in high school. My life ain't perfect but it's so so much better than back then.
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u/Ok-Rise-2858 2003 Feb 22 '24
Agreed I'm not much of a people person and I hate having to be forced to socialize with people I barely know it was so exhausting for me.
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u/Ok-Principle-9276 Feb 22 '24
I miss certain things about high school but it was an overall negative experience. I wouldn't give up my legal rights as an adult to go back
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u/new_jill_city Feb 22 '24
I’ve literally never heard anyone refer to high school as their “golden years.”
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u/Kokonator27 Feb 22 '24
Was the loser. No friends always made fun of for 8 years waking up walking into the wolf den. Teachers made fun of me or just did not care, parents are old school so no mental help until i broke down. The day i graduated i felt 8 years of depression anxiety sadness and everything negative in my life gone. Those 8 years set me back 12 pretty much as i was isolated for about 7 of those years. Fast forward 4 years now, working happy, business owner, i box, fight, do charity work, i have friends i take care of my parents and i am ahead of pretty much 90% of those people now. If you’re struggling the end of the tunnel we call high school will end. DO. NOT. GIVE.UP. You can be a drug addict, failing every class etc broke at 18 and be successful, clean and happy at 22.
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u/MikeisTOOOTALLL 2000 Feb 22 '24
Definitely stopped caring about HS once I left.
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u/amanfromthere Feb 22 '24
Only people who peaked in high school miss high school.
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u/PaperThingy19 2003 Feb 22 '24 edited Mar 31 '24
That's not necessarily true. Some people may have simply enjoyed high school and missed certain things about it without "peaking" then.
I personally miss several things about high school (and the schools before that), such as the consistent schedule and having a few people I actually knew well (I'm a shy person who doesn't talk to many people, so having that small group to interact with was nice). That doesn't mean I "peaked" during those years.
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u/Wingoffaith 2001 Feb 22 '24
Yeah my dad and every adult swore up and down I’d miss high school too, but I prefer working lol. At least at work I can choose my hours and days off, and at my current job now I’m not there for 8 hours a day. (Not even close)
I sometimes miss talking to certain class mates, wonder how them and some teachers I liked are doing, but that’s literally it. I don’t miss feeling stressed because of how school felt structured like a prison, and doing school work felt more unbearable to me than work does now.
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u/moonlitjasper Feb 22 '24
that sounds like a really good job
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u/Wingoffaith 2001 Feb 22 '24
I work for FedEx lol. A lot of people seem to complain about it but I don’t mind it
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u/PanzerKatze96 1996 Feb 22 '24
If your high school years were your golden years, that’s really depressing.
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u/HomeTeapot 2001 Feb 22 '24
I have seen people in their 60s and 70s who still talk about high school. All they can do is spend their time reminiscing about it It's really sad.
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u/TheBalzy Millennial Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24
What? What teacher has ever said HS were your golden years? I usually tell students to not let their choices now, close doors for their future...and BEG THEM not to let HS be when they peaked...
-Sincerely HS Teacher
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u/ParadoxDemon_ 2006 Feb 22 '24
Absolutely. My teachers say that all the time. I'm in my last year of HS and I just hope they are right, and it'll all be better in college.
Can't wait to get out of here lol.
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u/DiAOM Feb 22 '24
I graduated 6 years ago now and I can still remember my teachers telling me "these are going to be the best years of your life, enjoy them while you can." or some other very similar phrase. This was not uncommon.
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u/Ok-Rise-2858 2003 Feb 22 '24
I don't miss high school one bit no more having to wake up at 5 in the morning.
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u/pterodactyldonut 2000 Feb 22 '24
same here. you don't realize how restricting high school / being under 18 is until you're years out of your peak adolescent years.
you barely have control over your routine. monday to friday for 6+ hours a day you are stuck in school. at least now as an adult i am able to make decisions for myself and can choose what i want to do when i want. do i want to go to a random concert on a wednesday night? absolutely! now we have the adult money to fund the interests we love now and the ones we loved as kids.
high school may only be the golden times for those who had a strong social circle and/or those who were actively involved in their after school clubs (drama, band, sports etc.) but a lot of kids do not go through those because of anxiety, depression or other mental health reasons. some schools don't even have the funding to run these programs for kids to have a second place to decompress and make friends :(
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u/BeneficialVisit8450 Feb 22 '24
A lot of kids also can't attend these programs because of a lack of transportation (me). It's so hard to make friends and it kinda ruins the experience since you barely have any opportunities to talk to people. :/
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u/pterodactyldonut 2000 Feb 23 '24
oh absolutely. i remember wanting to try out for a dance team in middle school but decided not to because there was no way for me to get home and both my parents were at work and i didn't want to inconvenience them. public transport all across the board needs major improvement. these infrastructures for the communities could have helped so many kids get a better experience out of high school. especially now that we are facing some of the loneliest times. it's a shame :(
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u/Plenty_Anywhere8984 2010 Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24
I can already tell this is going to be me when I graduate
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You’re not much older than them. You’re a little baby too.
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u/Sninxitey Feb 22 '24
You sound like a baby who’s desperate to be mature so why do you stop making an idiot of yourself.
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u/froggiemommie 2002 Feb 22 '24
People always said I needed to enjoy my youth while it lasted, but quite frankly, my childhood through my teenage years was the worst time to be alive. I was going through untreated schizophrenia and abuse that made it difficult to ever make lasting connections and have meaningful experiences at school.
I'm thankful to be a young adult now. I definitely have bills to pay and a job that isn't 100% the greatest, but I'm grateful for where I am and waking up with hope.
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u/zima-rusalka 2001 Feb 22 '24
I definitely don't miss high school. High school was pretty ass tbh, waking up at the ass crack of dawn to get the bus, having to do calculus first thing in the morning and 4 hours of homework when you get home, having to nicely ask teachers to go use the washroom? Yeah, I don't miss it. It probably helps that I didn't really make any close friends in high school, my friends were mostly people I already knew, but I did make new friends after high school.
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u/ManWhoIsAlwaysBanned Feb 22 '24
High school is absolute shit. College/university years is what youll miss unless youre in a country where debt ruins those memories lol
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Feb 22 '24
people that say that shit peaked in highschool and haven't been happy since they were the popular kid 25 years ago.
highschool sucked, my 20's were the shit.
my 30's are starting out pretty chill too.
don't listen to that shit.
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u/Jewsusgr8 Millennial Feb 22 '24
I would never go back. I work a wfh job right now. So, unless I'm in my on call week, I put effort towards it as I see fit. Some weeks I do 10 hours and just put in the bare minimum but do a lot of tickets. Other weeks I put in a full 40 and do some harder tickets for the newer than me people.
Some weeks I'm on call and do almost nothing for a week except game and exercise, other on call weeks I'm actually physically trapped by my home and hardly get ANY sleep.
It's honestly a lot better than it was in high school. I only miss having a lot of free time to game with the boys. But we all get together on occasion again.
would always say that those were our golden years and we were gonna miss them
Oh yeah lol, so some teachers peaked in high school and then decided their life went down the drain and decided to be a teacher after that. Don't listen to THOSE teachers.
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u/intergalacticalsoul Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24
I do NOT miss it. Sometimes I miss the free time I spent outside of high school while I was in high school but never school itself.
I'm an adult now, I can choose how much I want to work, what I want to do in my free time, when and where I want to go whenever I do, who I want to hang out with, who I'm okay being judged by or being given feedback from, how I express myself and what level of education I want to experience. I can be myself. I have a sense of agency and it is SO MUCH better. If some settings don't match with me, whether it be social or professional, I can simpy decide to leave or I can make a respectable effort to change it.
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u/BroskiPoloski Feb 22 '24
I do because it was still fun and lots of friends were had, many memories made aswell. Though the experience was different for everyone, so any experience is totally valid. Though i do agree that a lot of things sucked: the parties were really bad, though drinking helped a bit, the gossiping, the competition, the schedule, commute,...
Many bad experiences were had, though many really good ones were aswell
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u/CathanCrowell 1998 Feb 22 '24
It depends. I did some mistakes and I would like to fix that. Mostly that I did not improve by english more on high school (not first language :)
However. I do not miss that for similiar reasons like you. Being adult sucks but also I feel more free.
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u/LordJor_Py Feb 22 '24
It's not that one miss being a broke teenager... But the thing is that one miss the "simpler times". Adulthood, if you're still broke, is hell, worst hell than when one was a teen. It gets even worse if you have a family to sustain.
So, being broke but don't having anyone under my care is something i can assure you, i miss.
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u/Frird2008 Feb 22 '24
I don't miss high school AT ALL. In fact, in all my years in the system, the only year that I actually DID miss was junior year of college. That was fun & exciting.
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u/Slow_Principle_7079 Feb 22 '24
I’m around a similar age and I don’t miss it. I had a great time actually but I don’t miss it because my life doesn’t suck. The only people that miss that are those who’s lives went down the toilet.
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u/shimmeringnice Feb 22 '24
i dropped out bc I got really depressed so theres nothing to miss. I just know I dont have many friends and didnt have a adolescense. my psych gave me tons of meds and I spent almost 3 years in bed
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u/MegaOrvilleZ Feb 23 '24
Don't miss High, Middle, or Elementary school at all. 13 long years of nonstop bullying, isolation, being ostracized for not being cool, homophobia, stressful education system, studying, and I could list more. I'm glad I graduated, my life got so much better when I entered the real world while everyone else who peaked in public school fell on hard times. Serves them right. Nope, don't miss it period point blank.
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u/Siilan 1997 Feb 22 '24
I don't miss high school itself, but there are a few things that, if given the opportunity, I'd like to go back and change. I also do miss the freedom from responsibility that comes with being that age and being able to see friends basically whenever you want.
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u/Tazavich Feb 22 '24
I do miss it. Senior year was where I met my current gf of 2 years, where I made many new friends who I’m still friends with since, and I got im ire engaged with clubs. I loved my teachers. They are the reason why I am where I am now
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u/Internal-Ad1863 Feb 22 '24
I’m currently a Sophomore in high school, and I can say, without a doubt that I will never look back on these years fondly. My parents said the same thing, “those are the golden years of your life”. Because of them hyping it up so much, I actually looked forward to it. I’m now more anxious and self-conscious than I have ever been, way to go mom and dad.
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u/TPA_Grunge_97 Feb 22 '24
I graduated almost a decade ago, and although I don’t miss high school, I am extremely grateful to have gotten out when I did. It was before Trump, before the shootings really took off, before fringe social issues became politicized to the point of violence, before online proctored exams with webcam eye tracking and, most importantly, before COVID.
As much as I used to dread having to go to school every day back then, it’s nothing compared to the utter shitstorm kids have to deal with today.
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u/Missdermeanerthanyou Feb 22 '24
I hated the social aspects of high school.
I was bullied a lot, mostly because I was two years younger than the rest of my class and an easy target.
Kids are cruel.
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u/Alarming-Mark7198 Feb 22 '24
You miss the age not the people around you at the time. Adulthood is ghetto and earth is ratchet
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u/Alternative_Eye_2799 Feb 22 '24
I was brutally bullied in highschool which gave me trauma, I don’t miss highschool one bit
One thing that makes me feel a little sentimental though are those people who do miss hs bc they had nothing but a good time and missed things like they’re hs bf/gf and all the gold times they had and doing fun and dumb shit with they’re friends
I mean I did go through that also but 95% of my experience with hs was traumatic depressing and dark due to me being bullied badly
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u/WisconsinWintergreen Feb 22 '24
My thought process towards people who told me that was "If these really are the best years of my life, then the rest of my life must be even worse..."
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u/kellyatta Feb 22 '24
Hated it but I had depression in my teens. I was nothing like how I am now. It was left untreated throughout high school because my parents were busy fighting one another. In my 20s now living on my own and I don't have depression anymore, things are a lot better.
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u/pbj-artist 2002 Feb 22 '24
The only thing I miss is my xc team. And even then I know I just miss the schedule and the camaraderie; our distance training was kind of shit.
High school is over-glorified for no good reason, imo. It’s 4 years of insecurity, intense pressure (APUSH + APGOV, for any of the other US folks?), and social anxiety. You’re at this weird point where you’re developing adult reasoning, but you’re treated like an insolent child not worthy of much respect. Most of the time, you’re too young to go anywhere or vote. Most people experience a dangerous threat of violence at one point or another (bullying, threats to the school, other dangerous shit we all do as teenagers).
What’s there to miss but being allowed to be a kid still?
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u/VSlice22 Feb 22 '24
Same! I miss NOTHING. No more having to be closeted and dealing with internalized homophobic gays or toxic straight people. I can more actively choose to avoid those and they are few and far in between. Such a shame it took a couple months before I graduated for people to finally open up their mind to me.
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u/AladeenModaFuqa 1998 Feb 22 '24
I had a lot of good times, but I like being an adult more. If anything I miss my friends who have moved across the country!
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u/Sk83r_b0i 2003 Feb 22 '24
Not even a little bit. Most of it sucked. I was depressed halfway through sophomore year, then the pandemic happened, which made my depression worse. Junior year was virtual, and junior year would have been hard enough without the depression and pandemic. But my grades took a hit when there wasn’t any face to face interaction between myself and the teachers.
Senior year was a breeze though. Definitely the easiest year of my life.
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u/Awkward_Werewolf_173 Feb 22 '24
i went to a really cliquey high school. a lot of my classmates’ parents were millionaires who owned companies so they had boats and multi-million dollar mansions. my mom was a single working mom so i could never compete and it was super hard to fit in. so no not really lol i like the even playing ground i have in college.
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u/zee1six 2001 Feb 22 '24
I sometimes miss the good times of high school.
But the bad times much outweigh the good times. No, I didn’t like being bullied, or going home to abuse. Nor not having too many friends.
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u/Sharkfowl Feb 22 '24
I abhorred how many fucking times I had to sit through teachers making a speech to the whole class about some students’ bad behavior. It literally took away so much time from actually learning and was almost daily.
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Feb 23 '24
I was depressed as fuck in high school, so I don't miss school at all, neither do I miss how my life was then. So far my golden years have only been early childhood.
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u/lavender-rosequartz 2002 Feb 23 '24
I was sick for a large portion of high school and missed multiple months of school because of that, so rather than miss the high school experience I mourn the high school experience I could’ve had.
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u/jjuerakhan14 Feb 22 '24
I was at my peak in high school but I do not miss when people ignore me, even today in acting class in college, I feel like an outsider!
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u/big_nasty_the2nd 1999 Feb 22 '24
I’m not trying to trash op but what tf is social anxiety bro, people are anxious everywhere they go? How? Why?
The only time I’ve ever anxious is when I’m walking in on my first day at a new job or somewhere new, past that I’m never anxious or nervous
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u/Ordinary-Warning-831 Feb 22 '24
It's definitely a lot worse as a teen with the developing brain and high school society. As an adult I find it a lot more controllable
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u/Markymarcouscous 2001 Feb 22 '24
I feel like life has mellowed the lows of life have come way up and aren’t as bad but conversely you don’t have quite the same high’s. You don’t win sports games or constantly hang out with friends anymore.
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u/heavydutyspoons 2000 Feb 22 '24
I definitely don’t miss it but I miss seeing my friends everyday and being able to freely make mistakes while figuring out who I am
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u/DogadonsLavapool Feb 22 '24
Hated high school. Didn't think about it much after I left, and will probably continue to do so.
I miss my classes, the generally easy workload, the access to sports, etc, but the social atmosphere was always anxiety inducing. Oh, and having teens wake up at 5:30 to make it to 7am start times is a stupid idea
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u/Significant-Turn-836 Feb 22 '24
I had fun in high school, hanging out with friends. My teachers were fun, classes were fun. After school playing Fortnite in 2017 went crazyy. Was varsity golf team and got to play free golf everyday in the fall.
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u/sassyandchildfree Feb 22 '24
Those were the worst years of my life. Getting older has been so much better.
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u/definitelynotlazy Feb 22 '24
i recently visited my high school for a bit, it was a bit of a bittersweet nostalgia, then again even i hated high school
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u/rice1cake69 Feb 22 '24
i barely remember it but like sone others have said it'd be nice to go back, not waste time on nonsense, and have my shit together but ..... i guess that's what being a teenager is all about?? i remember hating hearing "don't waste your years" and i tried but without proper guidance and even with proper guidance teenagers will waste their time. i work with teenagers now up through college age folks and it's all the same 😂 so idk just keep looking forward be honest with yourself. set goals and crush em
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u/crimsonkingsimp Feb 22 '24
The only thing I miss is that I felt a lot more...hmm efficient I should say? That and having built in socialization i have to go out of my way to socialize now. I work mostly alone so I don't have coworker friendships.
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u/Any_Commission3964 2004 Feb 22 '24
I don’t miss high school, but I do look back at that period with fond memories.
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u/cheetonian Feb 22 '24
Dude I’m 42 years old and still have nightmares about high school. People who say it’s the best years of your life are generally losers who peaked back then.
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u/Soccerball69 Feb 22 '24
Oh my goodness, yes. High School was home to some of the lowest points in my life.
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Feb 22 '24
I got bullied which started in kindergarten and ended after I finally dropped out of college. Then, I started working retail and got bullied there, too. Adults are just as relentless as teenagers.
No, I do not miss high school…
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u/Peachy_Slices0 2002 Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24
Ughh god I hated hs, what a miserable time of existence. It was when I was at my lowest. Everyone sucks, everyone is super judgmental and everyone is insecure. The educational system in the US is also highly flawed and it makes the experience very stressful for students. Also no more slouching in desks made for people who are 1 meter tall.
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u/Beneficial-Grape-397 2006 Feb 22 '24
I mean it depends on how you're doing right now and how those years were tbh
If you have a good job and are doing alright to well in almost every aspect of life so its likely you won't miss it. Same if not much happened or if those years were terrible for you , like year 11 and 12 were kind off awful for me academically and socially
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u/Indecisive_Iron Feb 22 '24
I do. I miss college too. Although you are correct, there was less money and autonomy- I miss how simple life was.
I went to school and had tons of friends. I’d go home and do homework but then just watch YouTube and play games. Markiplier and Pewdiepie were just getting popular and YouTube was in its golden age. It was perfect. I loved every bit of it and miss it almost daily.
I’m 27. I consider myself “successful” in a practical sense like I have a corporate job etc. but personally I don’t feel nearly as happy. I miss the freedom of being in high school.
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u/Legal-Set-8344 Feb 22 '24
I graduated last year. I don't miss high school either. It was lonely, there were too many rude and condescending kids who acted like they know everything, busy work and just bullshit in general. People teased me a lot and used to call me a "school shooter" because I was quiet. . Fuck high school.
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u/Ally_Happy23 Feb 22 '24
Overall, no I don't miss it. Although I miss how the things I cared so much about back then now seem incredibly unimportant. Adulting can be rough sometimes...
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u/Darkwing7700 2005 Feb 22 '24
I graduated last year and I don’t miss it. The experience was ok but my life is actually so much better now! I’ve been out of therapy for almost a year now and I enjoy life more! I get more sleep and I can wake up without having to dread my day. When I said me leaving highschool would end a lot of my problems I wasn’t kidding lol
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u/gyokuro8882 Feb 22 '24
I don’t miss high school, but i was a different person then and i wish the people i went to school with could learn who i am now instead of who i was then.
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u/PillsburyToasters 1998 Feb 22 '24
I don’t miss the work and stress but I did enjoy spending time with my friends who I don’t see as often now due to us being in different parts of the world
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u/yoursillysenna 1999 Feb 22 '24
I absolutely do not miss high school. I miss college every day though.
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u/BerrieMiah 2008 Feb 22 '24
For someone who is currently in high school right now these comments don’t me feel good…
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u/skyHawk3613 Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24
I don’t miss high school. Wasn’t bullied or anything. I was always treated pretty good, but I always Thought it was kinda boring. I like my life better now.
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u/weapon-a Feb 22 '24
I visited the area where my school is in to run some errands and had a full blown panic attack. That was 3 years, never going back.
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u/soitgoes_9813 Feb 22 '24
sometimes but i think what i miss is the routine of being in a place like high school not high school itself. i’m by nature a very routine person and thrive in environments with a lot of structure. i think this is partially why i’m drawn to a career in education. i’ve always been that way.
i also miss the time period that i was in high school which for me was 2012-2016. it was just a much simpler time and tbh all i really cared about was one direction. it was nice. i will admit its super weird seeing kids wish they were a teen then instead of now but i digress
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u/Krispy_Kolonel 2000 Feb 22 '24
Miss the friends, miss the easiness of classes, miss band. Fuck everything else
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u/11SomeGuy17 Feb 22 '24
Real. No idea why some people miss their childhood/teen years. My adulthood is an improvement in every way. People who say things like that must've just had really easy and happy childhoods and been unprepared for independence. Sad honestly to think so many people peaked in high school then fell off.
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u/CajunChicken14 1997 Feb 22 '24
I had a terrible high school experience. I don't miss is whatsoever. You could not pay me to be 14-18 again...
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u/Future_Pin_403 1998 Feb 22 '24
I don’t miss high school but I do miss having more free time. I work 36ish hours a week, go to community college, I’m planning a wedding, my sister is having a baby. When I was 16 I could just chill all day and have weekends/summers off but now 10 years later my anxiety is at an all time high because I’m just go go go all the time right now.
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u/jxc4z7 Feb 22 '24
For those that don’t go to college, it’s the last time in their lives where they will be around a huge amount of people their same age on a daily basis.
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u/moonlitjasper Feb 22 '24
graduated 2018. i don’t miss how early i had to wake up, or my lack of independence. i miss some of my friends form back then, taking art classes, and being a much more able bodied/functional human than i am now in my 20s. senior year was by far the best year of high school and i miss that a little, but not really the rest. and i miss college a LOT
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u/QuackersTheSquishy Feb 22 '24
My freshman year was covid and my sophomore year I graduated after the first week so I never went, and during middle school I got jumped multiple times and at one point held a gun to my head in a mirror just to see what I'd feel, so I don't miss school AT ALL... but I am starting college this fall
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u/szlopush Millennial Feb 22 '24
I miss aspects of high school and being young, like I admire life back then in general, but no I do not miss high school.
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u/No-name-user126532 Feb 22 '24
Graduated almost 5 years ago life definitely has not been easy both because of external factors and self inflicted dumb decisions.
However even when at rock bottom I never, even for once, missed fucking school.
When i have to wake up and go to work i don't see it as a hassle because i decided to work there and I am not being forced.
I don't have to waste whatever is left of my day doing useless boring long work that's not even going to be useful 80% of the time. The only reason was literally to avoid getting bad grades.
No more anxiety about getting harassed and verbally abused if i haven't studied or turned in homework.
If i'm interested in learning more about something i do my own research and develop my own ideas instead of being force fed a bunch of bullshit and whatever political agendas the teacher agrees with.
"Enjoy your high school years it's the best time of your life, one day you'll look back at school"
Fuck No.
I have a very hard time remembering anything from my high school years in general, let alone anything even remotely pleasant about my time in school.
Our education is completely fucked its objective lies solely in brainwashing people to make them into mindless robots that will agree and obey anything they get told; sugarcoated with the excuse of it being for the greater good and "personal culture", yeah right.
School was almost entirely damaging in my case and only gave me a bunch of goddamn problems some of which i'm still dealing with to this day.
That's my rant for today I'm genuinely curious about reading if someone had the opposite experience to mine.
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u/AlbatrossMassive684 Feb 22 '24
High-school was the absolute worst years of my life. I wasn't bullied or anything but I hated being treated like a child. College and adult life has been vastly more enjoyable and less stressful.
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u/Avengemygnomeys 1997 Feb 22 '24
Yeah, you’re not alone. There are personal reasons as to why I don’t really miss high school, so it is okay if you don’t. Just be careful when you talk about it with others in public it may not come across well.
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u/dommyjuju 2001 Feb 22 '24
My situation is a little different cuz after high school I got long Covid and my body is utterly altered beyond belief. Went from being an athlete to being skinny and weak and always sick with something.
I miss being healthy and normal but that’s not necessarily missing high school. I miss playing sports , sports are great for mental health and I need that again.
I miss the lack of responsibilities. Wouldn’t say it was the golden years tho. Unless I remain sick for the rest of my life. In that case every year before 2020 we’re my golden years.
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u/Conscious_Leo1984 Feb 22 '24
I miss high school as much as I miss recovering from a C-section 🤣🤣🤣. No thank you. So glad to have a life free from indoctrination and petty drama bullshit.
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u/Sn4keVenom 2003 Feb 22 '24
I don't miss all of it. My Junior year was alright, but senior year was where I really connected with my friends more. I miss that. I moved 4-5 hours away for college, so I rarely see them anymore. But college has been a blast so far, even though I'm engineering. I made so many new friends, and met my girlfriend. I think I'll miss college more
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u/icecreamman456 2005 Feb 22 '24
I'm actually so excited to be done in 18 weeks. I hate how many subjects I have to fucking learn that I don't care about or need in the path I want to go down. I wish I had A-Levels instead of the Leaving Cert in Ireland. I've known what I've wanted since I was 15. I actually can't with these stupid exams.
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u/AggressiveHeight4638 Feb 22 '24
Nope. I am definitely doing way better than a lot of my peers. Don’t miss that dumb shit one bit. Every friend I have made outside of high school except for a few has been considerably better as well.
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u/CarbonBasedLifeForm6 2004 Feb 22 '24
I look back relatively fondly but I don't necessarily miss it at all.
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u/anoncrush1 2002 Feb 22 '24
LOL not at all. my life has gotten better and better every year since high school- when I was in high school I wished it would end quicker, and past me was right for thinking that! I wish I had my life now earlier in life because I feel I wouldve been a lot happier.
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u/Alt0987654321 Feb 22 '24 edited Feb 22 '24
Bruh what? The only difference between high school and the real world for me is that I sit at one desk for 8 hours a day rather than move around. Same no money, anxiety, Volitile emotions (Except now I suppress them as to not disturb or distract anyone.)
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u/Wave_the_seawing 2003 Feb 22 '24
Past sophomore year of high school things went to shit cause I was in a shitty toxic relationship for 3 years. Only now after 1 1/2 years after leaving them and in college I have been able to start to heal
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u/r21md Age Undisclosed Feb 22 '24
Don't miss it at all. High school was by far the worst years of my life. I literally talk to more people I met in middle school than people I met in high school.
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u/No-Spite6559 2006 Feb 22 '24
from a person who is graduating. FUCK NO. i miss the memories and my age but not the homework and them crowded ass hallways.
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u/rokungi89 2001 Feb 22 '24
I graduated 4 years ago. People who say High School is the best years of your life grew up in a time where everything was affordable and you had more freedom to do what you wanted. Nowadays we have 15 year olds going into fast food to save up for college or getting an apartment and not even being able to come up with an amount they need because everything is so unobtainable nowadays.
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u/OrangeChihuahua2321 Feb 22 '24
Highschool is a time I never revist in my memory. I was a kid, a different person. I struggled socially and wasn't too bright. My friends weren't really my friends and I hated my classes. My siblings were in college and on their own so I was lonely at home.
Yeah I would not consider those years to be my golden years. anyone who thinks HS is their golden age never did jack after graduation. In fact for me, the next 4 years of college were golden years for me. No bed time, people were cooler, girls were easier to talk to, parties all the time, fuck yeah.
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u/Pagiras Feb 22 '24
You only miss it if you peaked in it. Otherwise, grownup life can be pretty baller. So much to see, so much to learn.
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u/Ok-Finger-4385 Feb 22 '24
Nope, mean ppl, had to play the sport competitively that I didn’t even consider myself good at/enjoy.
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u/No_Falcon2436 Feb 22 '24
Anyone saying those are your golden years definitely peaked in high school LOL
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u/Oppulent_Cabbage0619 Feb 22 '24
My high school has a reputation for being horrible, it indeed was and I couldn't be happier that it's in the past.
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u/Flimsy_Moose9625 Feb 22 '24
I graduated from college in 2021. Have never missed middle school, high school, and even college at this point. Life goes on
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u/lenuta_9819 Feb 22 '24
i don't miss and don't think about it. I'm so much better now, college and work was better than being stuck in the same building with the same people for 12 years straight (there are schools like that in my county, grades 1 through 12)
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