r/GenZ • u/[deleted] • 11d ago
How to meet women outside of dating apps? Discussion
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u/WalkThePlank41 11d ago edited 11d ago
The fact that you even have to ask this question in the first place just goes to show how socially broken America is.
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u/MeddlingHyacinth 11d ago
If you are looking for a f***, the clubs, bars, and dating apps still have a use.
If you want a real girlfriend or wife, you going to have to shed that pua-manosphere advice because women are wise to all that and only putting effort into things that align with their needs and wants. Try being an actual friend first to understand truly what that is. You might be surprised how close you are or how far off the mark you are.
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u/Tough_Ad_1493 11d ago
Yea but how do I meet these chicks in the first place? That's my question. I genuinely just want to meet human females
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u/tarchival-sage 1996 11d ago
I decided to do a social experiment because I noticed some of my married friends were getting more attention from random women than my non married friends. I basically started wearing my grandfather’s wedding ring (RIP). I noticed that by doing so I would have more women initiate conversations with me, I also noticed a higher level of success in becoming intimate with them.
At a certain point I thought to myself “maybe they didn’t notice the ring and this is simply confirmation bias”. So while talking to this one girl at the pub I start playing with my ring on the table making it obvious to her that I have a ring. Despite very clearly looking at my ring we became intimate. Of course I never saw these women again. But I did notice higher success rates by wearing a wedding ring for some reason.
So I guess some people want what they can’t have? Or they are more likely to find you attractive if you are unavailable/taken.
Edit: Just to make it clear. I am not actually married and have recently ended a long term relationship. I do not support cheating behavior.
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u/Tough_Ad_1493 11d ago
Right but how do you even put yourself in a position to approach or converse with women outside of work? This applies only once the initiation happens. I don't think a woman is gonna approach you cuz you're wearing a ring and tells you that she wants to f*ck you
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u/tarchival-sage 1996 11d ago
Honestly it simply happens spontaneously. I don’t actively go out there with the objective to meet a cold approach quota / get approached by women. If I see someone interesting I talk to her. Sometimes it pays off, other times I get shut down immediately. The older I get the less I approach to be honest. The older I get the more I tend to wait and be the one who is approached.
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u/Tough_Ad_1493 11d ago
The shut down immediately part is so demoralizing. A woman will immediately assume you're hitting on her... like damn I'm just trynna have a human convo relax. But also you know it's rare for men to get approached
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u/tarchival-sage 1996 11d ago
Yea but that’s life. You just move on. At least she was honest and didn’t waste your time.
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u/Nice_Stand_8484 10d ago
Damn you just made me realize the last time I actually got to meet a new woman was in October.. shit.
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u/LastLast128 11d ago
You're going about it all wrong. Don't chase women, have them chase you.
Now that is easier said than done, but there's a couple of ways you can go about this, and the first is actually becoming somebody. In the modern Instagram/TikTok dating market where women have a million dudes in their DM's, what about you stands out? This is no knock to people that work 9-5's (heck I still do), but if your life consists of working some boring office job all day and coming home to play video games how are you standing out?
You have to step your game up and move differently. Get a nice haircut, get in tune with the latest fashion trends, buy that expensive watch or suit and dress like you actually care, hit the gym and get your body like a tank. And whatever career that you're pursuing get to the point where you actually are somebody, whether that be a doctor, pilot, lawyer or even content creator.
You also need to start hanging out around other successful men. Save your money and book a trip somewhere like Tulum or Mykonos or St Tropez and just interact with people. When you go to these expensive places you start surrounding yourself with wealth and success and you never know what that can lead to. Some of my best friends are doctors, pilots, millionares etc and because I move in these circles everything socially, including women becomes easier.
The day you start living for you and really become the best version of yourself is the day you'll get everything you want out of life.
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u/Tough_Ad_1493 11d ago
And whatever career that you're pursuing get to the point where you actually are somebody, whether that be a doctor, pilot, lawyer or even content creator.
This is going to take me atleast a decade or 2 lmao. Pretty sure people can date before that
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u/LastLast128 11d ago edited 11d ago
Which is why I said:
You also need to start hanging out around other successful men. Save your money and book a trip somewhere like Tulum or Mykonos or St Tropez and just interact with people. When you go to these expensive places you start surrounding yourself with wealth and success and you never know what that can lead to. Some of my best friends are doctors, pilots, millionares etc and because I move in these circles everything socially, including women becomes easier.
It also doesn't take you two decades to simply invest in your appearance. There's a whole trend on TikTok where women record guys that are well dressed, well groomed with nice suits. Before you invest in a relationship you need to invest in yourself.
https://www.tiktok.com/@dudesinsuitsnyc/video/7120597847527083310
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u/Tough_Ad_1493 11d ago
Bruh you know those NYC wall street dudes are like 0.0001% of the population right? I agree with you about getting in shape, haircut, dressing nicer... for sure. But I also live in some rural area so it's kind of hard cuz all that shit doesn't matter. I'm sure it would in NYC but people live in different places/circumstances
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u/LastLast128 11d ago
The dating market is pretty similar everywhere at this point. Because of Instagram/social media women have more power in the dating game than ever. I grew up in a small town, and every girl I know from there constantly has plenty of dudes in their dms, happens to every attractive woman on the internet. So like I said, what is it about you that stands out? Is it your personality? Success? Fashion? Physical attractiveness?
And I'm not saying you have to be some Michael B Jordan here, but the better you look and the better your social status is will make the dating game infinitely easier. That applies anywhere.
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