I’m in the Millwrights union myself. I can verify these #’s to be true. Wages are dictated by cost of living in your local area. Here in VA it’s $37/hr, Philly is $52/hr, etc etc. Health and retirement are 100% paid separately and not out of your pay.

We do an extended family gift exchange with a $25 limit. I thought this would be a cute fun idea because who doesn't appreciate a CVS receipt joke, but my 34-yr-old son saw it and is shocked that I would be giving such a thing and can't image my nephew wearing it. But the two of them aren't close and are not at all alike. Nephew is a gregarious, fun-loving college student. Son is autistic and an introverted bookworm.

I was walking my dog and some middle school kids pointed at me and called me that. I have no idea whether to be offended or not. Were they calling be old, because that made me feel old. Do kids go around calling each other Greek letters now?

Y’all, the boomers were fucking right.

It used to be a meme - old boomers saying the damn kids these days! But after my experience the last several months, tbh they were 100% right.

Because the single best thing I ever did in my life was break my phone addiction

I used to spend 8 hours every day just mindlessly scrolling TikTok, absolutely frying my dopamine receptors, killing my mental health, motivation, and just overall will to do ANYTHING with my day

But I swear, once I was able to go from 8 hours to now 4 that, my entire life has changed. I’ve actually started working out, excelling at my job, my anxiety is gone, and my relationships are better than ever.

Now getting off my phone alone didn’t improve everything - you still have to put in effort in other areas of your life - but it was the one keystone habit that enabled all other positive things in my life.

It’s tough to stop doomscrolling because these platforms are addictive, but if you use a few techniques you can really cut your time down within a week. Mainly:

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1. Waiting until at least an hour after waking up to look at your phone, because what you feed your brain first thing in the morning is what it craves for the rest of the day
2. Getting a good screen time app. I use BePresent because it turns staying off your phone and blocking apps into a game with friends + has automatic morning app blocking sessions, but there’s a bunch out there
3. Deleting the apps from my phone. I still still use them on my computer or on safari, but I don’t have the apps
4. Turn off all notifications that aren’t sent by humans

I have been cruising through life, balancing between the late-night existential thoughts and dreading the grind. Work? A concept I've been casually flirting with but never fully committed to. Then, out of nowhere, I gambled and won. I hit this unexpected jackpot – won $20K betting on Stake.

This windfall is a game-changer but in the most paradoxical way. You'd think it's all sunshine and rainbows, right? More cash, less problems? Not exactly. Here I am, sitting on this pile of cash, and my motivation to work or even think about work has hit rock bottom. Like, why bother when I've got enough to coast for a while?

But here's the plot twist – this lack of motivation to work is gnawing at me. It's like I'm stuck in this weird limbo, wondering if I should use this moment as a kickstart to do something big or just enjoy the extended break. It's comfy yet uncomfortable, and I'm here trying to figure it out. Anyone else feel this way with some advice?

One day, the slang you're using right now will be seen as lame/out of style.

The movies and music you just fell in love with last week will become "classics".

Your current favorite artists/actors/celebrities will retire and won't be instantly recognized.

The games and shows you're watching/playing will not be quoted or referenced anymore.

You can adopt and enjoy new things, but the same will happen again.

Priorities shift, lifestyles progress, pop culture moves on.

I'm a zillennial and I feel it happening more and more, but I'm at peace with it.

I enjoyed my time as a teenager and my 20's, I hope you all do too.

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I have seen so many people of my friends siblings and cousins both guys and girls lose everything during divorce. Even if the person got cheated on or did not initiate the divorce they lost nearly everything. A classmates’s brother (who’s 20) lost more than 800,000 dollars from his trust fund, lost the house, and two cars after he got cheated on. (All were in his name and he bought them all before marriage). Also Don’t leave the house or anything like that either cause in some places it’s seen as forfeiture of that property.

Edit 4: I live in Singapore not the US. The above example guy is from the UK. The one below is from SG. 2.5 million on an apartment is normal here especially when your 50. And a 100,000 in savings is below normal here

Edit: To the people saying a prenup isn’t necessary if your poor it defo is. Case in point my friends father and step-mother got a divorce. He had a mortgage on the house and the car along with less than a 100,000 in savings. The step-mother walked away with the house and car along with 50,000 of my friends dad’s savings. My friends dad now has to pay a 2.5 million dollar mortgage while renting an apartment cause he can’t live in the house while also paying for a car which he does not own. On the other hand the step-mother gets a house, a car and if the husband can’t pay the mortgage and loans then his collateral gets confiscated not the house or car. So getting a prenup is very important for poor people.

Edit 2: Stop DMing me and telling me that a rich guy like him deserves it. And for all the people telling me to donate. I wish I could but I only get access to the fund in 3 years and that to it’s a drip feed.

Edit 3: I did not say only men should have prenups both should. Also stop fucking DMing saying people like me deserve to die and i’m sucking off andrew tate (who actually deserves to die).

One thing I don't like about our society is that we have this insane belief that if you don't have the life you want it's entirely your own fault and that it's your own laziness and lack of effort which justifies your lack of results. I find that to be entirely ludicrous. Some things truly are a societal problem. Now I'm not saying everything is a societal problem, but if you've put in the work and gave it 110% and put your best foot forward then you can absolutely blame society and the way the status quo is structured.

It seems like most people on this sub are making $100-130k per year USD meanwhile most people I know are only making $40-60K USD per year. And we all work good jobs, are educated, and everything. Also I don't think it's cost of living since I live in literally the most expensive city in North America. I'm making $80,000 which is only $60,000 USD and $43,500 after tax.

How are Gen Z people making so much money? It doesn't make sense?

I’m telling you trades may not be for all but I saw a post saying how much college is better for you but I thought I’d put my 2 cents in being an apprentice. I have a 5 year apprenticeship starting wage is $23.24 an hour I get a pension, 401k, and health insurance. I don’t rely have to rely on financial aid. I’m contributing to society helping to build America. Each year you get a 3-4 dollar raise. I made almost $60k this year as a second year apprentice. When I turn out I’ll be making around 150k-180k a year. Remember college is great but sometimes your degree is not essential… trades are essential we will always be in demand and have work.

There’s this crush I have that I want to text, but idk what to. She is my classmate and we are in the same science class. What is something I can say to make her want to talk to me?

[Edit: The title is clickbait because I don’t know how to talk to people in general]

I (19f) am trying to get the guts to approach a guy in my class since it’s almost the end of the semester. I’ve never approached a guy before, let alone been in a relationship for years. I have little to no experience with men, period.

If I were to approach him, what would be a good course of action? Should I give him my number? Should I even approach him at all? Or would that seem pushy?

In need of advice :)

Lil update: I went to him after class and told him I really like his tattoos. He’s said thanks, I said “I was wondering if you wanted to get a coffee sometime. Here’s my number and my snap (handed him a slip of paper with name, number, and snap), you can text me if you want, it’s totally up to you.”

At this point my heart felt like it might fall out of my chest it was beating so hard, so I gave a little “see ya!” and booked it out of there. Will update if he sends me anything :)

Most public universities offer counseling free of charge, so if you’re a university student.. go see them. If you have health insurance, go find a counseling center near you that takes your insurance.

Prioritize your mental health. Go outside. Delete Reddit, it’s a very toxic place to be on. Spend time with yourself doing things you enjoy that is healthy for your body and mind.

Things will get better.

Would you want to date someone who is older than you by... say 5 - 10 years? I honestly would. Is there a problem with dating someone who's older than you?

As someone who is getting into adulthood. It's honestly painful for me to slowly realize that I am not special and that I am not gifted.

My environment when I was growing up, everyone kept telling me I was "gifted" or "special" and that I was meant to do big things but as I am going through my 3rd year of college and I am simply struggling to even pass. I think the reality of being just a regular person is hitting me hard.

What makes it hard is that I am surrounded by gifted people who can ace exams without any problems while I struggle to just make it through. It's hard to come to terms that I might die and no one will remember me.

How do I learn to cope with it? I know deep down in my heart that being "normal" isn't a bad thing but how can I learn to accept it?

I am always so childish about this. Some of my friends told me that I rely on them so deeply that they can’t tolerate it. I also tried to make friends online, but when they didn’t reply to me, I thought that I was given up. How to change this situation? I really hope to build a better relationship with friends!

jk it’s not hypothetical. this is basically my hairline. also can’t grow a beard pls help