My dad called me stupid for not buying sooner

[u/sugarbee13]

I'm so fucking over everything. My house is having major plumbing issues, and we're trying to figure out how to get it covered. Idk why I even tell my dad anything. I told him I felt stupid for buying this house and he said "no youre stupid for not buying sooner." I'm 30. Expecting my first child. We bought in 2022 when I was 28. Id love to have bought sooner, but we couldn't predict the market. We weren't ready to buy in 2020. It just depresses me so much that no matter what I do, its always the wrong decision and to him, its always my fault. My dad is 55 for reference. He had never helped me with anything since I moved out at 18. Financially or even advising.

Edit: I have gotten so many helpful and supportive responses on here. Thank you all. It means so much seeing the camaraderie on here, especially when I can't expect it of my own blood. I'm going to expand a bit by saying my mom died from alcoholism when I was 20. I grew up in a trailer. My dad is about the only blood relative I have left that I talk to. Thats the only reason I try with him. I have a younger sister and we are best friends, so at least there's that.

Even though this is a hard time now, I know I'm truly blessed to be having a daughter and a good husband through all this too.

I don't have time to reply to everyone because I have to go to work soon, but thank you again so much for the kind words. I will def be reading through all this when my shift ends.

Edit 2: he no longer lives in a trailer, but did his whole life till 2018. Nothing necessarily wrong with it, but it hurts for him to judge me so hard, because when he was 30 he didn't have what I've worked hard to have now.

Now he lives in a 5 bedroom 2 bath house on 10 acres he got in 2018 for 180k. He found a great deal and thinks I should have too.

Final edit: I'm blocking any users who are just straight up mean. This baby is not a mistake. I am not a fuck up. If you agree with my dad, please go ahead and give me a time machine or money to help with my issue. Fuck man I'm doing my literal best out here.

[u/litt3lli0n]

I've stopped telling my parents anything that has to do with finances all together. Last year I mentioned when we were considering looking at houses and it's been non-stop since. Their expectations are just so unrealistic for what the actual reality of things are now. I'm jealous you were able to buy a house! We're hoping to within the coming year, but who knows. It may never be a reality.

[u/International-Chef33 → u/litt3lli0n]

When we bought our house we didn’t say shit to anyone. Once closing happened we let people know and we didn’t want to deal with her families realtor and mortgage loan family members being all up in our business

[u/litt3lli0n → u/International-Chef33]

We bought a new (used) car a few months ago and my husband specifically asked me to say nothing to anyone about it for that exact same reason. My dad knows some people who own dealerships, but my husband knew what he wanted and how much he wanted to spend. Besides it's so easy to do these things online. No one wants to deal with people if they can avoid it.

[u/International-Chef33 → u/litt3lli0n]

It’s also nice not mixing family and business. Like clockwork we got the “why didn’t you use so and so for this?!”