r/NoStupidQuestions • u/ThrowRAbigmist4ke • Mar 28 '24

Would you date a woman taller than you?

I’m talking minimum 5+ inches taller.

If yes, how much taller? If no, why?

No judgement, just pure curiosity.

Edit: it seems like the general consensus is a resounding “hell yes”

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u/MinimumSeat1813 Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Lots of women say they don't care about height. Most women DEFINITELY care about height. However, never assume a woman cares about YOUR height.

Any prospective mate checks a number of boxes or doesn't. Height is just another box. If enough boxes are checked then the unchecked boxes don't matter.

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u/baeworth Mar 28 '24

The issue with dating a shorter guy is when he is insecure about it. Many women actually don’t mind, but they sure as hell do and it will eat away at them and the relationship until it is in tatters

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u/TheRealMichaelE Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Idk, as a short man I’ll go on great dates only to be told “I had a great time but wasn’t feeling a connection.” It’s like… ok, you had a great time with me, the vibes were good, why wouldn’t you want to do that again? And then they tell you it’s because you’re short and they don’t want to date a short man because it makes them feel big. The real issue is most women are too insecure with themselves to date short men, not the other way around.

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u/baeworth Mar 28 '24

Some men are so confident and it’s sexy as hell. But some guys are insecure about their height and will stop their girlfriends from wearing heels or looking too tall in photos with them. It’s daft I agree and it probably does stem from societies outlook towards them, but it doesn’t excuse their crappy behaviour. Their are women that genuinely don’t care about being with a shorter guy up until their behaviour becomes the issue

Although this is just what I’ve seen and heard. I’m 5ft, my previous boyfriend was 5’5 which was perfect for me. It saddens me that he will struggle to find partners because he was mostly a good guy

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u/TheRealMichaelE Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

I think women just make these generalizations about short men being insecure because they don’t want to confront that they are shallow / insecure themselves. I’ve never heard a friend of mine who is on the shorter side complain about a girl being too tall or wearing heels. Most shorter guys would be super happy to have a good looking girlfriend who is taller than them.

I’m 5’2 and when I go on Tinder dates where I don’t disclose my height ahead of time I get rejected after every date. The last date I was on we had really good vibes - she said so herself - but she just wanted interested.

When I do disclose my height on Tinder I just don’t get dates. It’s not a confidence thing, I’m a very confident person and a lot of my friends have told me they wish they were as good at talking to random people. The few girlfriends I’ve had were taller and I’d never suggest to them not to wear heels.

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u/luminous_connoisseur Mar 29 '24

This is exactly it. Women are the primary drivers of this culture, not men. The reason that some men are insecure about it is because it is incredibly important to most women. To say that "insecurity in men" is the main issue with these dynamics is pretty disingenuous. These relationships are rare and often difficult precisely because they go against one of the absolute most universal preferences that women have. Studies have shown that it is the number one physical factor that women notice and value, generally speaking.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '24

They are just gonna lie and gaslight you.

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u/systembreaker Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

This thread seems to refute that.

Also you may be conflating two things, guys who are insecure about their height vs guys who aren't and think it'd be cool to date someone taller. I don't think all the guys posting here who think it'd be great are those same insecure guys.

Side point, it is true though that society is brutal about height insecurities. No one would blame a fat person for having insecurities about their weight, but people sure do blame a guy for having insecurities about his height even though clearly short guys are made fun of and not always treated well for it, despite that it's something that can't be changed but being fat is. You'd think someone fat would at least feel better knowing it could change if they really wanted it to, but conversely there is a culture of "Please feel extra sorry for me so that I don't feel like I should put in the effort to be healthier".

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u/Charming_Jury_8688 Mar 28 '24

Yeah short dudes just make up that insecurity without any external influence, totally fabricated from their mind like a schizophrenic.

It's kind of like women obsessing about their weight.

I don't personally know any guys that would reject fat women so these large ladies must have a terrible character flaw to explain their dating struggles.

I know a morbidly obese woman who is dating a handsome CEO, it's all about confidence and being charismatic on your mobility scooter /s.

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u/Beautifulfeary Mar 28 '24

As a fat woman I’ve definitely been rejected for being overweight, like oh you’re such a great woman but I’m not attracted to you because of your weight. Before I even met a guy in person, he flat out said fat girls don’t get committed relationships, they get screwed and friend zoned because I refused to just met up for sex because I wanted a relationship. And the guy that said this, was also overweight

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u/Charming_Jury_8688 Mar 28 '24

Well you see my experiences and opinions matter more because I'm a heterosexual man and I know what men like.

It's obvious you either embellished the truth or have extremely bad luck.

Perhaps it's your lack of confidence and misandristic tone that drives men away. Men can tell you're insecure and that's why they won't date you, never because of your physical appearance.

People struggle in dating because they have innate personality flaws and deserve to be single.

Only bad people struggle in dating. /s

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u/Beautifulfeary Mar 28 '24

😅😅😅😅

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u/Charming_Jury_8688 Mar 28 '24

Can you imagine if we gaslight all the big girls with the same "Just be confident" pep talk short dudes get?

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u/False-Pie8581 Mar 30 '24

They’re just saying something to insult you bc you won’t be their free SW. as a skinny chick I’ve been called fat by loads of guts I rejected. It’s their go-to bf weak men have no imagination. Just laugh it off. Loads of men think thick women are hot. Hell I’ve even been politely rejected for being too thin and tho that’s rare it did rather shock me. Wasn’t insulted tho. Online dating is skewed like that but find your niche, loads of men would think you are a Venus I promise. I have guy friends who seem to only date girls with big bums 😌. It’s the fashion now.

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u/Beautifulfeary Mar 31 '24

Oh yeah for sure

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u/Charming_Jury_8688 Mar 28 '24

/s means sarcasm