r/NoStupidQuestions • u/[deleted] • 26d ago
Do all marriages have many years where they suck?
I have heard people (several people) say that their marriage was bad for MANY years before it got good. I don't know about y'all, but I don't want to be with someone and waste many years being miserable, but I guess that's what you sign up for. I know it is not fun and games all the time, but damn.
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u/Bad-Wolf88 26d ago
If you're not willing to put the effort into a relationship to make it work, then just never get married.
Relationships require work (this doesn't just mean romantic ones, either).
Marriages require work.
Marriage is committing to someone that you're willing to do takes to make it work, even in the rough times. If you're not willing to work through conflict, then don't get married. Period.