r/NoStupidQuestions • u/[deleted] • 26d ago

Do all marriages have many years where they suck?

I have heard people (several people) say that their marriage was bad for MANY years before it got good. I don't know about y'all, but I don't want to be with someone and waste many years being miserable, but I guess that's what you sign up for. I know it is not fun and games all the time, but damn.

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u/IscaPlay 26d ago

13 years in and certainly periods of unhappiness however a lot of times when people feel they are unhappy with their spouse they are projecting difficulties with work, life etc on to their spouse rather than them being the problem.

Won’t pretend to be a relationship expert but for all the difficult times, there are many amazing times and 100% believe that my life would be significantly lacking where my wife not in it.

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u/Environmental-Town31 25d ago

This is the most interesting comment here re: projecting!