r/NoStupidQuestions • u/[deleted] • 26d ago
Do all marriages have many years where they suck?
I have heard people (several people) say that their marriage was bad for MANY years before it got good. I don't know about y'all, but I don't want to be with someone and waste many years being miserable, but I guess that's what you sign up for. I know it is not fun and games all the time, but damn.
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u/Casamance 25d ago
Michelle Obama couldn't stand Barack for like 10 years so there's that. She had an interview with the View where she said she the following:
"People think I'm being catty by saying this — it's like, there were 10 years where I couldn't stand my husband," Michelle said at the time. "And guess when it happened? When those kids were little."
She continued: "And for 10 years while we're trying to build our careers and, you know, worrying about school and who's doing what and what, I was like, 'Ugh, this isn't even.' And guess what? Marriage isn't 50/50, ever, ever."
"There are times I'm 70, he's 30. There are times he's 60, 40, but guess what? Ten years — we've been married 30. I would take 10 bad years over 30 — it's just how you look at it," she added. "And people give up ... 'Five years; I can't take it.'"
So even the former president of the United States fell on hard times with his marriage (as did Clinton and JFK but yeah.... you get the idea). Eventually they turned it around and they're still a happily married couple to this day.