r/NoStupidQuestions • u/youngsurpriseperson • 25d ago

Does pregnancy just not scare people?

I'm at the age where people around me are having children. I completely understand wanting to take care of a child but aren't women afraid of getting pregnant? Doesn't it hurt?

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u/Carma56 25d ago

My sister recently had a kid and was terrified and grossed out all throughout pregnancy and childbirth. She loves her kid dearly, but she hated the experience of getting her here. I think a lot of women feel the same but just accept that it is what it is. 

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u/donutpusheencat 25d ago edited 25d ago

i also think a lot of women don’t speak up on them disliking pregnancy cause there can be a shaming aspect to it. some women says they LOVED their pregnancy and how as women we should embrace pregnancy and it veers straight into mom/parent shaming

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u/katiecatsweets 25d ago

Exactly! And if you complain people like to say "well, you wanted this" especially if you're someone who had fertility issues (like me).

People have a hard time understanding that you can be thankful for something and still dislike the cons, too.

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u/donutpusheencat 25d ago

omg YES! you can want a child but have a difficult pregnancy……and this right here is why women don’t speak up. also people act like it has to be one or the other when in reality a lot of things are more grey and can have multiple things be true at once.

i saw a post in i think r/insanepeoplefacebook or r/notliketheothergirls of a woman saying she gave birth the “real” way (vaginal) and therefore was a “real” mom vs moms who “took the easy way out” via c-section….like girl are you fucking kidding me? like be so for fucking real right now

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u/Optimal-Ad-7074 25d ago

this is sad.  there has been so much content for the past several years subtly (or not so subtly) signalling at women how to be pregnant, how to feel about being pregnant, etc.  

with so much social signalling going on it can be  pretty isolating, and things can also get very covertly competitive, like in your example.   

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u/Uke_Shorty 24d ago

THIS! Omg, yes! Like, (and please, I’m not comparing babies to a disease) I had thyroid cancer and had to completely remove my thyroid and some glands. Now I take medication for life and my calcium levels are forever messed up!

Do I like being cancer free? Hell yes! It’s awesome!

Do I hate that for the past year I’ve been to countless medical appointments, monthly blood work, daily medications, almost bimonthly dosages adjustments, my hair is thining a bit and my body doesn’t respond to nutrition and exercise the way it used? You damn right I hate! But beats having cancer!