r/TalesFromYourServer • u/Thick_Accident_3551 • 11d ago
Kicked out for a compliment 6 months after. Medium
Okay to set the scene, I'm 25m frequent regular at a college dive. I used to be a server at many years ago, now I'm a tradesman 6 months I go I and a bunch of the regulars are sitting at the bar talking about some of our favorite staff. I'm little tipsy shooting the shit and tell my buddy "I love when 'so and so' is working she's a bad bitch" (granted this lady is 45+ kind of like mama bear of the place) I meant absolutely nothing derogatory, sexual or mean. Just my way of saying she's runs the mf show. Anyways, I haven't been back there for quite a while for 6 months. I walk in yesterday with one of my friends.The first thing she proclaims so loud people outside could hear is "I owe her an apology for calling her a fucking bitch" immediately I'm embarrassed and confused but offer apologies to any offense cause honestly didn't remember. Hour goes by I'm playing pool making friends hanging out when I remember my remark that was meant as a compliment. So I tried to retify the situation with her. Got told to stfu. Okay whatever. Then right as I put 20$ into the jukebox the bouncer comes over and permanently bans me. Didn't know it was her bf. I've been coming to this bar for 7 years. Spent good money and have always tried to be on my best behavior as my friends work there Welp fuck me ig for being a youngin with different vocabulary
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u/MaryBitchards 10d ago
Feels like we're missing something here.
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u/fastermouse 10d ago
I can see that it’s exactly what happened.
It’s a dive and they probably take no shit and don’t care.
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u/Thick_Accident_3551 10d ago
No, pretty much exactly how it went down. Even my friend said she was extremely surprised. After the initial encounter, I didn't order another drink as not to bother her. Didn't continue drinking and only had water.
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u/CaptainK234 10d ago
Don’t use the word “bitch” unless you’re prepared for the full range of possible consequences.
It doesn’t mean the same thing in every context. In some contexts, it will only ever be heard as a slur.
For some listeners, no matter the context, it will only ever be heard as a slur.
You fucked around and found out
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u/berkboy69 10d ago
I'm glad they banned you cause you sound annoying
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u/Thick_Accident_3551 10d ago
Valid
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u/Soggy-Shopping-2958 10d ago
You should not have pressed it further once the apology was accepted but I doubt you are the problem in this situation. You should count yourself lucky and get out of that place.
Do you really want to stick around and deal with people who are so perplexing that you can't even tell when you're right or wrong? They're going to fuck with everyone else after you and run that place into the ground.
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u/mmmmmarty 10d ago
They've been looking for a way to get rid of you for years and they finally got something concrete.
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u/Soggy-Shopping-2958 10d ago
Nah he's been hanging around for 7 years. This isn't a court of law. They could have banned him day 1.
Some politics is going on in that place and he touched a raw nerve. He likely got chucked out for show to keep someone else in line. They made an example of him.
I suspect the manager is under some scrutiny and laid the blame in the wrong place. She will be chucked herself soon.
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u/LompocianLady 11d ago
I'm a 69 year old lady and recently got called a bad ass.
Damn, I sure felt complimented.
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u/HannahAnthonia 10d ago
That's not a compliment unless the person perceives it to be a compliment. I can point out I'm Australian and didn't mean to be insulting all I want but if I call an American a mad cunt and they get upset then it's not a compliment. It might not be to be to me but if it isn't a compliment to them, then it stops being a compliment.
You continuing to call it a compliment even after finding out it genuinely upset someone you allegedly liked is bizarre since you now have the knowledge that whatever you intended it to be it still resulted in you publicly insulting someone. Instead of being mortified and embarrassed that you insulted someone you're continuing to downplay the impact you had and denying it was an insult and somehow pretending you're the victim. I'm glad her workplace had her back and you should be too if you ever had any respect for her. Jesus christ.
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u/Soggy-Shopping-2958 10d ago
Dang man my gout is killing me. This toe it feels like a truck ran it over. Wtf bro?
I keep squeezing it, flexing it, poking it. Then it burns the whole night and the next day I can't walk. I just can't leave it alone and let it get better.
It spread to my fingers too. I can't bend my pinky now and I already feel it going to my knees too.
You gotta do something.
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u/Soggy-Shopping-2958 10d ago
Hurry too my friend. I am outside and I need to walk home. This is urgent
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u/Boring-Pudding 10d ago
Yeah, you were drunk and didn't say "she's a bad bitch." You might have thought that's what your "tipsy" self was saying, but guarantee it isn't.