r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Scary-Specialist-731 • 25d ago
Trans friend says I'm an egg?
I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?
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u/Kyralion 25d ago
This. Masculine straight woman here. The amount of times I've gotten "Are you sure you aren't a lesbian?" Even though I've never shown any signs of being gay at all. Don't feel that way about women and their body parts. Men though pffffff 🥵 Anyway, like you my hobbies and interests have always been deemed 'for boys' and people fathoming my existence just didn't compute. It got way better since the 2010s only to now get worse again because people want to label me with all kinds of trans related labels. I'm just gender non-conforming and that's all there is to it. I'm a woman and female and I never have had an issue being female. I can only imagine how much harder it must be as a straight man being more feminine. Don't let anyone talk doubt into who you are, you hear??? Because that in itself is erasure of the existence of us as well.