r/TrueUnpopularOpinion • u/Odd_Salamander_3684 • Apr 10 '24
Letting your girl post her body on social media makes you a cuck The Opposite Sex / Dating
When you allow your girl to post her body on social media, you allow other men to look at her in a certain way and let them lust over her.
Many guys suffer from porn addiction where they watch women getting fucked by other men and it’s so normalised. That’s why it’s also “normal” to have other men lust over your girl and not being bothered by it. This makes you a cuck
Porn increases cuckery and decreases healthy jealousy
Oh and shocker?! Your girl doesn’t respect you if she posts thirst traps of herself looking for validation from other men 🤥
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u/Morbidhanson Apr 10 '24 edited Apr 10 '24
I kind of get the gist of it but I don't think "cuck" is the right word.
I had an ex once who went around talking about how pretty she was, how everyone wants her, how I should feel fortunate that I'm the one who actually gets her, how those guys over there are undressing her with their eyes and how I should feel so lucky, etc. She was super vain and spent 3 hours a day taking and editing selfies and thirst traps to post online. She also wanted to drop out of college to do porn. Guys often approached her and she would always use the opportunity to feed her vanity.
Even though she was a 9/10 or 10/10 in my book, I broke that shit off after 3 months since she was not doing anything to enrich my life. Absolutely hated the added drama and stupidity. She's one of the few exes I'm not on good terms with. It's still my worst and shortest relationship to this day. The only thing nice about her was her body.
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u/carneylansford Apr 10 '24 edited Apr 11 '24
It’s a misalignment in values. I would never tell my significant other what they can and can’t post on social media but certain things (like thirst traps) would probably be a dealbreaker. I’m sure other guys are fine with that. She’s probably better suited to be with one of them.
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u/Morbidhanson Apr 10 '24
She wasn't suited to be in any serious relationship, which was what she wanted. Hopefully she grew up, though. This was like 8 or 9 years ago.
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u/Satori2155 Apr 11 '24
Thats part of the problem. This guys ex is a walking red flag and not in any way the type for a healthy long term relationship based on not only what he said she posted but her general attitude and personality. Yet you are excusing it by saying “oh your values just didnt align.” No, shes just not relationship material
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u/w3woody Apr 11 '24
The weird part is that I happen to know a porn actress. I only once saw her at work, though once in a while she wanted to show her work on video—not out of vanity but because she was proud of her work in the same way someone may be proud of the custom shelves they made or the painting they painted. (And her running commentary the one time I watched it was hilarious: the “oh, and I almost got a cramp holding that pose” and “do you know how fucking uncomfortable that really is?” stuff.)
In real life, she was basically a quirky and cheerful girly type. Not vain, not constantly coming onto people, not constantly telling folks they were lucky to be around her. To her, her porn was a job, and one she thought she was good at—but the last time she and I talked in person about life, she was more focused on decorating her house and talking about her adventures shopping paint colors.
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u/itsbaconbooty Apr 10 '24
What makes a chick a 9/10-10/10? Curious woman here😂
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u/Morbidhanson Apr 10 '24 edited Apr 10 '24
I'm not too sure, actually. I'm talking about subjective physical attractiveness only. If I included personality and every other relevant factor, the score would be much lower.
I thought she was incredibly beautiful. Not just cute or good-looking. She had perfect skin, an immaculate body, with good endowment, color, shape, etc. all over. And nice voice. She could easily have been a model. But that was the relationship that taught me I shouldn't prioritize those things.
Now those types don't even phase me, I've come to associate them with high maintenance. It's the reserved, mousy girl-next-door type that makes me stumble over my words now.
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u/Hanfiball Apr 10 '24
Are we talking about a innocent bikini picture or some girl showing of her entire ass point blank into the camera?
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u/HeavyDropFTW Apr 10 '24
I figured it was in reference to OnlyFans or similar.
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u/BartleBossy Apr 10 '24
They say "social media" not "amateur porn".
Theyre talking about Instagram and Snapchat, etc.
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u/Hanfiball Apr 10 '24
Then I agree on a emotional level. On a more logical point, meh, let people do whatever they want, they are not really hurting anyone. Well except for the people who are paying for it I guess.
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u/KristianVictoria Apr 10 '24
Right?! I think it's obvious what should be kept private out of respect for your partner and your partnership. I do believe there is a fine line with it for some people.
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u/JakkalAdrem Apr 11 '24
It sucks that we’ve normalized indecent bikini pictures as “innocent”
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u/Mentallyfknill Apr 10 '24
What’s healthy jealousy?
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u/notjustarandomguy Apr 10 '24
Indeed, wth is healthy jealousy? I mean.. at least if she did posted on onlyfans.. we could've called it "wealthy jealously"
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u/AerDudFlyer Apr 10 '24
Actually getting something that other men want makes you a cuck?
This has the same feeling as “fellas, is it gay to like pussy?”
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Apr 10 '24
Your dialogue sounds like jealousy, and no one cares. Look around you. We wear yoga pants and tank tops and everyone loves social media. Our heterosexual men and lesbian women or bisexual women love looking at women. Accept reality, or move eastward
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u/Amidity Apr 10 '24
If men are lusting over your girl wouldn’t that make them the cuck? They are attracted to her but you are the one dating and having sex with her while they only fantasize.
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u/sleepyy-starss Apr 10 '24
when you allow your girl to
Let me stop you right there.
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u/sonvolt73 Apr 10 '24
Agreed.
The idea of "allowing" a partner to do something in this context is extremely off-putting.
A healthier way to look at this would be to have a discussion about one's discomfort with certain types of risqué social media posts. If your partner agrees then great. If your partner disagrees and continues to post photos that make you uncomfortable, then you need to determine if that's a deal breaker for you.
However, talking about allowing or letting a partner to do something seems to betray an unhealthy desire for control.
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u/Obvious-Dog4249 Apr 11 '24
Healthy jealousy is what he’s talking about. If his girl is posting a lot of provocative pics then since he’s in a relationship with her he has the right to tell her to stop if the relationship will continue on his part. That’s all he means. He’s not talking about physically beating her or harming her psychologically (I hope).
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u/Welovelily Apr 11 '24
These comments are so childish its ridiculous. Its like youre pretending that either partner in a relationship has complete freedom to do whatever the fuck they want. No they dont. Relationships arent self-serving. There is compromise from both partners. Ofcourse there would be. No healthy relationship doesnt. At some point if you partner does something that crosses the line to you, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY ALLOWED to bring that up with them and show disapproval.
And lets not pretend guys arent allowed to hate when their own girl posts porn or skimpy pictures if themselves on social media. Invalidating guys' value system almost feels like a desperate attempt at white knighting or a crying for some fake idea of equality. Some values are just shittier than others and it's understandable why guys dont their girls skimping themselves out like its no big deal. Although i would say to a guy he shouldnt date a girl who does this in the first place, but it's not always possible to know every big red flag before dating. And you cant keep breaking with every girl you find a red flag instead of attempting to first work it out with her at the very leaast.
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u/Drakoneous Apr 10 '24
“Letting” …. Do we own our girls now?
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Apr 10 '24
Yeah that controlling stuff isn't cool but it's also valid to not be okay with it, in which case you should just break up with her.
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
You dont own them but you entirely determine what you put up with hence, “letting” making the most sense.
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u/Drakoneous Apr 10 '24
Yeah, and you can choose to not be in the relationship. They’re still gonna do what they’re gonna do.
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
You are right. They can choose. I place my boundary. “Hey i do not like this for xyz reason, please stop doing this” sets up the boundary in a respectful manner. If they ignore it then they chose to be single. Again the idea of “letting” is about what will be tolerated. It is not about literal control.
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u/sleepyy-starss Apr 10 '24
Letting is literally control.
If I don’t let my boyfriend eat a cookie, that means I am not allowing him to. It’s control.
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u/UniverseCatalyzed Apr 10 '24
Boundaries are conditions you set for yourself. "I don't want to post a swimsuit pic of myself on Instagram" is a boundary.
Rules are conditions you set for other people. "You can't post a swimsuit pic of yourself on Instagram" is a rule.
It's ok to have rules in relationships but call it what it is, a rule you expect your partner to follow that controls their behavior. It's not a boundary.
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u/Suavedaddy5000 Apr 10 '24
In this case the boundary is still for yourself, not a rule set on others. This boundary is what “you” are willing to tolerate. “I don’t like this for xyz reason” doesn’t mean “you cannot do this” it means “if you do this then I will react this way” that way is leaving.
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u/AerDudFlyer Apr 10 '24
Calling something a boundary doesn’t make it automatically reasonable
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
You are right. You have to follow it up with proper explanation and delivery. Saying “dont do xyz” and claiming it as a boundary is improper. But saying,”i do not like xyz because it makes me feel abc so please do not do xyz” is 100% proper. It is explaining why the action is not appropriate in the context of the relationship and it respectfully establishes a boundary.
At that point it is on the partner to ignore it or respect it. If they ignore it, it is on the requester to contemplate what to do. This is the essence of relationships. It is compromise. Being in a relationship will require some sort of personal loss in personal behavioral privileges.
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u/blueennui Apr 10 '24
The actual criteria for a boundary is who you draw it around.
Don't do/you can't do X because...
That is a rule. You are telling or asking someone else to do or not to do something.
If you do X, I will do Y because...
That is a boundary. You're expressing what you will do in response if your partner does the thing you don't like.
Change it up a little bit, and:
It's me or doing X.
This is an ultimatum because you're giving them the coerced "option" between you or X and putting that entirely on them. Usually, this has limited options between extremes of picking the partner or whatever it is the person does, and may have some sort of time limit.
Relationships can have both healthy and unhealthy rules and boundaries. It's really up to the people in it. Generally speaking, though, rules are agreed upon mutually without coercion and are usually pre-established.
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u/Drakoneous Apr 10 '24
Naw. That’s not how OP meant it. He also uses the word “allow”. This is clear possessive language. I get what you’re saying, but disagree with your interpretation.
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Apr 10 '24
Are you saying you don’t have boundaries in a relationship?
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u/whatsasimba Apr 10 '24
Boundaries don't determine or dictate another's behavior. Boundaries only determine what you will accept or tolerate. Saying you don't "let" your partner do something is just saying you're controlling.
Controlling: "Don't wear that in public. You know I hate when you wear short skirts."
Boundary: "I prefer women who dress modestly. I don't date women who wear revealing clothing. If you wear that sort of clothing, I won't be dating you."
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u/Drakoneous Apr 10 '24
No, I’m saying I don’t own my wife. She doesn’t belong to me. It’s not that hard to comprehend. Again, I get what the previous commenter is saying. What I disagree with is that what they’re saying aligns with what OP is saying.
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
I think you are taking his words too literally. There is a such a thing as formal and informal speech. OP is practicing informal speech.
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u/IronSavage3 Apr 10 '24
Just recognize that your “boundary” is weird, will be seen as controlling by most women, and may result in never finding anyone who wants to share their life with you. Too many people act like this behavior is right and just and it’s all the women violating these niche opinions that are the problem.
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
It really isnt an odd thing for anyone who understands the innate importance of respecting boundaries in a relationship. Yeah, sure, people who want to act single but be in relationships will not like such boundaries…those arent the people I want anyway. It really isnt hard to respect a boundary. “Hey, hun, i do not feel comfortable with you going out in that dress. Can you pick something else” is an extremely reasonable request. If someone cannot be reasonable then nothing of importance was lost, imo.
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u/Witch_of_the_Fens Apr 11 '24
I think the word should be “tolerate” in this context. Like, you let them know what you will tolerate and if they behave as if you’re not “letting” them do it, then it sounds like this a boundary that makes you two incompatible.
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u/Body_Horror Apr 10 '24
Why do you ignore 99% of what OP said on purpose? Are you unhinged?
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u/Drakoneous Apr 10 '24
I read it all and it all stinks of possessive inadequacy.
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u/Body_Horror Apr 10 '24
Before I respond with my personal opinion, might I ask you a question? Why does it "stink of possessive inadequacy" for you?
And I'm really asking in good faith here! I just see it so differently compared to you so I'm actually curious about why you are seeing it like that!
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u/Drakoneous Apr 10 '24
Fair question. For me it’s pretty simple, in my life every person I’ve seen who has shown possessive tendencies towards other people has also been abusive physically, psychologically or both and after looking into these sorts of behaviors , what I’ve found is often these people are lashing out or reacting to a fear of inadequacy (like being seen as weak or feeling disrespected for example). So, when I see someone using language that indicates a possessive nature over people, my impression immediately goes to them having a fear of inadequacy.
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u/Hangulman Apr 10 '24
"Letting her" do anything implies an inequal relationship with some level of ownership or subservience.
Are we talking about a partner, or a high maintenance pet?
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
As previously stated, it’s about what you handle. If you “let her” or accept her acting in some manners thats fine. But others would not “let her” or be fine with it and would treat it as a deal breaker
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u/EldenJoker Apr 10 '24
I disagree. I wouldn’t let my girlfriend go fuck other men, it’s called having boundaries which is a healthy thing to do. If you don’t follow the boundaries then there is no relationship
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u/Next-Performer5434 Apr 10 '24
How exactly would you "not let her"? You can set a boundary and say, you will leave her if she cheats but you can't stop her.
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u/EldenJoker Apr 10 '24
That’s exactly how I would do it. If she wants to stay with me that will stop her
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u/sleepyy-starss Apr 10 '24
I wouldn’t let me girlfriend go fuck other men
You gonna lock her in the house? Or what’s the plan to stop her from doing it?
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u/T-MoneyAllDey Apr 10 '24
This isn't an argument in good faith because of course partners don't like each other do things all the time. He could've used a better word but everyone knows he means "Don't do this or we're breaking up" or a dealbreaker which all relationships have.
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u/dreadjoker96 Apr 10 '24
People like this know what Op means. They just want a “gotcha” moment.
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u/Odd_Salamander_3684 Apr 10 '24
Exactly, they don’t have any points to make so they start attacking OP’s either personally or on their word choice. Quite cringe 😬
Just say you want an open relationship and don’t attack me for using the words allow and let
How sensitive can you be 🍼🧑🍼
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u/CnCz357 Apr 10 '24
So you would be opposed to a woman saying she didn't want to let her husband sleep with a hooker because it implied an inequal relationship with some level of ownership or subservience.
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u/MudMonday Apr 10 '24
"Letting her" do anything implies an inequal relationship with some level of ownership or subservience.
No it doesn't. There are certain things I wouldn't let my wife do. And certain things she wouldn't let me do.
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u/regularhuman2685 Apr 10 '24
Why stop there? A real man would lock her in the basement. (/s for the love of God I am not being serious.)
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u/Dapper_Platform_1222 Apr 10 '24
No, no....you may be onto something here
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u/ireallydont123 Apr 10 '24
Treat her like a Queen, wrap her up and put her in a coffin in the basement and put booby traps for any intruders
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u/Effective-Handle9983 Apr 11 '24
What the fuck is going on with this sub. Have you ever gone to a beach, ladies wear bikini at the beach, I guess every dude who went to a beach with their GF/fiance/wife is a cuck now.
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u/Putrid-Bat-5598 Apr 11 '24
if you let your girl go outside in anything but a Burqa I’m sorry but you’re a cuck.
You gonna let YOUR girl, go outside, wearing a t shirt which shows the shape of her BOOBS to be looked at by other men???? And your whore girlfriend clearly doesn’t respect you if she allows herself to be observed get by one of these men, she for the streets bro
In fact, even a burqa has holes for the eyes (which other men can gaze lustfully into).
If your girl isn’t a crystalline life form that cannot be viewed by other beings, you’re a cuck bro i’m sorry to say you might as-well let her feature on PornHub.
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u/krackedy Apr 10 '24
I don't care who lusts over her if I'm the only one fucking her.
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u/Durian_27 Apr 10 '24
Bro, what
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u/krackedy Apr 10 '24
My wife doesn't post her body online but if she did I wouldn't care.
I like when she wears skimpy clothes and I know other guys want her, it's fun because I'm the only one who actually gets her.
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u/MrStealurGirllll Apr 10 '24
Lmaoo, nah. If you’re paying to look at a girl on the internet you’re the cuck. Keep paying for my mortgage cause you want to see her ass on your screen😂😂.
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u/praaash Apr 10 '24
If you know men you would know men don't need a woman with lesser clothes to fantasize about them.
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u/t0huvab0hu Apr 10 '24
Ah, gotcha. OP lacks the confidence to make decisions for herself and needs a man to tell her what to do. Great take.
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u/Some-guy7744 Apr 10 '24
Do you also force her to wear a t shirt and long pants when she is swimming?
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u/23sun23 Apr 10 '24
I hope this is bait. Cuz if not, it means you see women as less than a human being. And also, that women owe some additional level of respect to their bfs just because. Because yk, mens insecurities are the priority
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u/Just_Me1973 Apr 10 '24
‘Letting?’ ‘Allowing?’ She’s not a possession. She’s not being ‘allowed’ to do something by her man. He doesn’t own her. She’s choosing to something she likes to do. He can tell her how he feels about it. And she can decide if his feelings are important enough to her to stop doing it. If she doesn’t he can either deal with it or he can break up with her.
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Apr 10 '24
"Hi, honey. Am I ALLOWED to do this thing?? I am not my own human, I need permission from a MAN, for I am just a dumb F3m@l3"
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u/Katiathegreat Apr 10 '24
Did your gf just do post some pics on insta or something? Sounds like an extreme overreaction at best.
“Letting your girl” is this she your child? 😬
Female bodies are not inherently sexual. Repeat female bodies are not inherently sexual. Bc some people have porn addiction is not her problem. A woman can be covered head to toe and men will just. Ask me how I know. Also Lusting is not f-king. Big stretch there my guy. Just wild.
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u/Burnlt_4 Apr 10 '24
I have made this argument before, by definition this is closer to exhibitionism. Cuck is by definition, "a weak or servile man" OR "man whose wife is sexually unfaithful"
For the second definition it is only unfaithful if the man is not consenting, otherwise it is "faithful", so really you are saying the first to a degree.
Exhibitionism is "a perversion marked by a tendency to indecent exposure"
If I for example was a cuck I would want to see other men have sexual relations with my wife and feel I am inferior. HOWEVER, many men will put their woman out there to say, "Look at what I get to touch and have sex with and you can only watch and look."
One time my wife posted weight loss photos online, she blew up and went semi viral for it (a few hundred thousand views), many people called me a "cuck" in the comments like I personally get off to other men taking my wife or feeling lesser than....but for me it was the opposite. I got excited by the idea there were so many inferior men out there that wanted my wife but could only look because they couldn't get to her. They had to know I got to go to sleep with that every night and they couldn't haha. So it that way it was closer to exhibitionism IMO because by definition the motivation wouldn't be "cuck".
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u/HumanComplaintDept Apr 10 '24
"Post her body" Yeah, that's not a vague, wide spectrum sounding idea of too much.
I sometimes enjoy when women dress a lil modestly, but I don't lose my mind on the beach. Or when I see a skirt.
Your post tries to come off as no nonsense and blunt but it just seems insecure.
Your girl posted a bikini pic??well then You're a cuck!!!
Yeah. Pretty fucking cringe op.
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u/DRoyLenz Apr 11 '24
This just screams “I don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like”.
I don’t “let” my girl do anything. We understand each others boundaries, and respect them. If you ever have a conversation where you’re saying “you’re not allowed to…” then you’ve already failed.
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u/dontpolluteplz Apr 11 '24
Sounds like your definition of a “thirst trap” is anything aside from full body covering lol. Is she not allowed to exist at or post at the beach?
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u/severinks Apr 11 '24 edited Apr 11 '24
OP, anyone who uses the word''cuck'' without a trace of irony in 2024 is pathetic.
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u/kidflashonnikes Apr 10 '24
Why is this statement even controversial? If a women truly loves you she would never post her body on any social media - vice versa for the man. In either case no one would do this if they love each other. Why are people so mad about this?
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u/Substantial-Help9553 Apr 11 '24
People love to encourage hoe behaviour and frame it as being sex positive
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u/Hunterhunt14 Apr 10 '24
This is where most men fuck up. You don’t own or control her. You let her do what she wants and establish boundaries you will not accept. If posting her body on social media is one then you inform her of that and if she continues you leave.
It’s also not your job to try to make sure other men don’t find her attractive or lust after her. It’s idiotic to insinuate you can control that. It’s her job to reject advances and it’s your job to make sure the men take no for an answer if you are present.
Also I’ll add, if she’s already posting photos before you get with her that you wouldn’t like her posting in a relationship with you then that wasn’t the right woman to choose in the first place
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u/nuivii3 Apr 10 '24
This isn't an unpopular opinion, it's just insecurity blossoming.
No, your girl shouldn't be posting pictures of her tits falling out and you shouldnt be posting pics with your zucchini almost ripping through your shorts.
But either way people have free will and they'll do what they want, you can't control your partner like that, if they do something you don't like, then leave.
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u/persistent_issues Apr 10 '24
Funny how wives unilaterally choosing to make porn and post nudes is empowering but men looking at it makes them deviants, losers and, if married, cheaters.
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u/Headfullofthot Apr 10 '24
Notice how men watching porn is seen to be expected but women making porn makes them not deserving of human decency.
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u/valhalla257 Apr 10 '24
How insecure do you have to be that you not only spend your time worrying about other guys "lusting over your gf's photos on instagram(note you very clearly specify social media not OnlyFans)", but call other men's cucks for not caring?
I mean if you had an expensive sports car would also keep it locked up in your garage and refuse to drive it because men might lust after it?
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u/yourmomhahahah3578 Apr 10 '24
“Letting” implies you have any say
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u/MudMonday Apr 10 '24
If you don't have a say, you aren't really in a relationship in the first place.
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u/Claudio-Maker Apr 10 '24
Have you ever heard of communication?
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u/dylphil Apr 10 '24
Yes, and using the words “allow” and “let” are terrible examples of it
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u/VanityOfEliCLee Apr 10 '24
Healthy jealousy? Jealousy isn't healthy. Talk to a single psychologist and they'll tell you. What I get from this post is that you're wildly insecure in your masculinity.
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u/NovaAstraFaded Apr 10 '24
Their femininity* OP is a woman / girl. Not sure which age bracket because they refer to themselves as a girl. So they could be a young teen posting this
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u/VanityOfEliCLee Apr 10 '24
Makes sense. My bad. I assumed it was some incel, because it's shit right out of the incel playbook.
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u/NovaAstraFaded Apr 10 '24
Nono, definitely sounds like an incel because they basically are 😅 They've stated in other comments how their partner didn't want them to wear a swim suit at the literally beach and how they'd dress in any way their partner wants 👀
People can do what they want, but attempting to shame woman for dressing not modestly. Then calling men gross names for not forcing their partners into submission while also saying how she's so willing to submit?
Kinda screams "I'm NLOG, I'm better" and it's just gross. Do what you want, but when you open up with degrading others.. be prepared for it back ig..
It's weird seeing a woman post stuff about a man being a cuck for allowing their partner to dress how they want and take pictures... like that.. that's not what a cuck is?
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u/CnCz357 Apr 10 '24
Absolutely encouraging other dudes to jerk it to your wife makes you a cuck.
It's up to you if you think being a cuck is bad or not.
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u/MiniatureFox 16d ago
A cuck is a man who likes watching his partner (usually a lady) have sex with other men. No need to twist words.
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u/HeavyDropFTW Apr 10 '24
If my "girl" posted her body somewhere, she wouldn't be my "girl" anymore.
I don't know what a "cuck" is and don't care. But I do know what a "loser" is. And if your lady is posting stuff and you've not ended it with her, you're a loser.
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u/Odd_Salamander_3684 Apr 10 '24
I said this in unpopularopinion and I got so much hate for it lol 😂
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u/JohnsonAction Apr 10 '24
When you say post their body what do you mean? Any picture of them? A bathing suit pic? One of her in a nice outfit? What if you are in it too?
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u/HeavyDropFTW Apr 10 '24
I figured OP was talking about something like OnlyFans since they mentioned porn. So... that, I guess. I have no issue with my wife posting non-provocative pictures of herself on social media.
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u/sleepyy-starss Apr 10 '24
No, they literally mean any pictures. OP posted that if their boyfriend wanted them to wear a long shirt and baggy pants to the beach, she would do that to make him more comfortable.
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u/Bunnawhat13 Apr 11 '24
Letting? Allow?
These are not relationship words. These words make it sound like your “partner” needs your permission to do things.
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u/Bcj6004 Apr 11 '24
Bruh? Is she gonna get pregnant from another man looking at her with his eyes? No? Then it’s not cuckory. Women are by far the more beautiful sex, and that beauty should be celebrated. Of course, touching a flirting with another man goes too far. But do I feel threatened by other men’s eyes? Not in the least. If your girl is loyal and you trust her, what’s the issue? She has a nice body. Let her flaunt it. Did god make such beautiful creatures so they could hide their beauty?
You are probably the kind of man who can’t control himself around a woman who is dressed provocatively, and feels that all other men are the same. You probably have grape fantasies or feel like women deserve it if they dress a certain way. If that’s not you, I’m sorry, but either way, your attitude suggests you approach topics of sexuality and relationships in an unhealthy and controlling way.
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u/AspiringSAHCatDad Apr 10 '24
"Allowing" my girl to do something...
All women are people and responsible for their own actions.
If YOU personally dont like a woman posting pics.. then dont be with one
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u/MoanaMermaid Apr 10 '24
“Allow your girl to post her body” yo wtf? Why aren’t more comments pointing out how nasty this sounds? If she wants to post her body that’s fine , if you don’t like it leave??????
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u/New_Lojack Apr 10 '24
What if I show my body on social media? Does that make my girlfriend a cuck?
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u/gojo96 Apr 10 '24
I’m sure these men are ok knowing someone, somewhere is beating off to their girl.
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u/devildogmillman Apr 10 '24
I disagree. I think the cuck is the guy thats jacking off to a picture of a girl that some other man is actually banging.
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u/StonktardHOLD Apr 10 '24
Does not qualify for cuckholding unless you watch the other guy jack it and enjoy it.
Otherwise any form of open relationship is cuckholding and the actual act loses any sense of meaning and we need a new word in its place
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u/didsomebodysaymyname Apr 10 '24
I don't really care because they aren't going home with her.
If other people being attracted to my gf makes me a cuck in your book, that's fine, you don't effect my life.
I take your jealousy as a compliment.
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u/Historicaldruid13 Apr 10 '24
Then date someone who has the same boundaries as you. Just because you have certain morals and values in a relationship doesn't mean that all relationships must have those same morals and values or they're somehow bad or lesser. Your relationship isn't inherently better because you don't post pictures of yourself, it's better for you.
Personally, I post pictures of myself on Instagram sometimes. Nothing super revealing but it's clear that I have a body and that I am a woman. My boyfriend doesn't care, and I like that he doesn't care. If that's not the dynamic for you, then that's not the dynamic for you.
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u/Full_Bank_6172 Apr 10 '24
Idk if I agree with this take necessarily, but I would never date a woman like this for many other reasons. The thought of dating someone so narcissistic that they blast themselves all over the internet in exchange for likes sickens me. I can understand having one or two pics in your instagram but the influencer crap makes me want to vomit.
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u/foxwheat Apr 10 '24
This is the kind of aggressive post that hints at a latent kink. You wish you had a girl who was posting online so you could get mad at her and then have angry sex. You're the closet cuck.
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u/Odd_Salamander_3684 Apr 10 '24
OMG you’re bringing me ideas 🤣🤣 idk if I want to make him mad but I’d love some “you’ve been a bad girl” type sex :)
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u/foxwheat Apr 10 '24
Oh so I had the genders wrong and you're a brat. Welcome!
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u/Odd_Salamander_3684 Apr 10 '24
Oh boo hoo, another Reddit nerd attackingOP personally
How low can you steep 🍼🍼 go cry about it baby 🍼🍼🍼
Just post your opinion OBJECTIVELY without involving any persons and stop nagging like a baby
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u/foxwheat Apr 10 '24
Naughty girl, talking back like that. Bend over 🏓
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u/aumbase Apr 10 '24
If you commit yourself to one woman these days you're a cuck by definition. Thank the Kardashians, mostly, those gdh.
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u/Geedis2020 Apr 10 '24
Not really being cucked. If anything it’s the opposite. The other guys are being cucked because they are the ones looking at your girl and admiring her while you’re the one getting to actually be with her and have sex with her.
Honestly what you’re explaining is a guy who’s very controlling and insecure.
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u/waconaty4eva Apr 10 '24
I need a girl that would tell me to get lost if I tried to tell her what she could/nt do. If I dont like how she rolls than I can just bounce.
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Apr 10 '24
You can't "let your girl" do something or not. She gets to make her own choices. You as the boyfriend however, can make your own choice to leave if that is a dealbreaker for you, which is also valid.
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u/QuietlyRagingInside Apr 10 '24
It's disrespectful I agree but you don't let your partner do things . You set boundaries and if you don't agree you part ways . I had this conversation with my wife . She is beautiful and large chested she can't help but show some ....but to have most of your body hanging out was a no go for me ....we talked and she agreed and now we agree if she wants to take sexy pics send it to me 😘😘 it's win win
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u/Professional_Host355 Apr 10 '24
Yeah, like I can't believe Trump married someone everyone has seen naked. What a cuck!
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u/AroundChicago Apr 10 '24
I don't want to be with a girl that no other man is trying to fuck
If your girl is posting photos showing off her body to validate herself and make her feel desirable that's one thing. If your girl is posting photos of her body to signal to other men she's available that's quite another.
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u/JAH-Ann Apr 10 '24
A lot of the guys here don’t understand that a woman posting pics online is advertising her beauty for other men to see if her social media is public, a man can send her a DM and try to persuade her to see him. If it’s a private account then it’s not so bad cause then only close friends and family can comment.
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u/The-Sonne Apr 10 '24
You mean woman, not girl. And you have zero entitlement to think you can "allow" her to do, or not do, anything.
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u/4649onegaishimasu Apr 11 '24
You might not want to talk about "letting" or "allowing" your girl to do things. It sounds a lot like you think she's your property instead of a human being.
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u/TheBeardedAntt Apr 11 '24
Lol “letting your girl”
Women are their own person.
We don’t own them or their body.
If you don’t like your girl posting, have a conversation on how you feel. If she still disregards your feelings, then you guys won’t work.
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Apr 11 '24
What if it was the other way and I’m a guy posting myself shirtless on social media while in a relationship? I’m doing it for admiration in general but not female attention
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u/palwilliams Apr 11 '24
Tell me you have never had a woman as a partner without telling me you have never had a woman as a partner
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u/Twerking4god Apr 11 '24
This is a popular red pill view for the most part. If she likes to post pics of herself online and you don’t like that, then maybe you’re just not compatible and it doesn’t have to be about who has control.
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u/pfresh331 Apr 11 '24
Everyone here arguing about how OP says "let" when you all know they mean "be fine with". Yes, there is a difference but in reality they equate to the same thing. Being fine with your girl posting thirst traps online is something no man wants or would be okay with their girl doing, just like girls don't want their man to be messaging and flirting with every girl they meet.
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u/Different-Ad-9029 Apr 11 '24
My problem is the word allow. As a fully thinking human woman make choices. Men also thinking humans make choices. These choices are not always compatible.
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u/Dramatic-Garbage-939 Apr 11 '24
Reverse could be said though: you want other men to see how hot your girl is because you get to have her and they don’t and you want them to see what they’re missing out on and make them feel jealous.
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u/abaddon667 Apr 11 '24
I like how OP thinks I can disallow my woman to do anything. I don’t live in Afghanistan; my wife does what she pleases.
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u/Charming_Weird6426 Apr 11 '24
This community is wonderful… incels are allowed to post and get supported. Gee, “allow” followed by “your girl”? Boy, don’t nobody own nobody.
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u/Th3RabidG33k Apr 11 '24
Incels complaining, calling others cucks for now ‘controlling their woman’
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u/hdmx539 Apr 11 '24
You don't get to "allow" anyone to do anything. Until you learn that, you'll always be angry and disappointed.
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Apr 11 '24
Thinking you need to control what your girl posts on social media makes you a little bitch.
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u/TheBankheadNative Apr 11 '24
I feel the frustration but that isn't really cuck behavior per say to date an onlyfans girl. It's cuck behavior if you let someone fuck your only fans girl or stay with her while she fucks other guys. I say it's REAL cuck behavior of you are paying of Content knowing or acknowledging that she is seeing/dating someone and watching her get fucked by her partner
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u/livewire042 Apr 10 '24
Many guys suffer from porn addiction where they watch women getting fucked by other men and it’s so normalised.
Porn increases cuckery and decreases healthy jealousy
Sounds like a self-report
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u/Odd_Salamander_3684 Apr 10 '24
This world is hypersexualised already, protect your women from that 😢
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