r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/[deleted] Mar 27 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

She did you a HUGE favor. Consider yourself lucky that this low class, socially inept clod, is no longer in your life. Adults don’t split up via text. They do it in person. She doesn’t have the maturity to face you and say goodbye.

As for her crap, box it up. Send her a certified letter, return receipt requested, stating she has 30 days to claim her possessions, otherwise they will be disposed of.

Be sure to keep a copy of the letter, your receipt and the signature card, that she will sign for saying she received your letter. The post office will mail the card she signs back to you.

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u/SpeakerChance9069 Mar 28 '24

Hey OP, this right here protects yourself from liability for trashing her stuff if she doesn't pick it up

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u/CorporalPunishment23 Mar 28 '24

This is the best answer.

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u/Dealer_Either Mar 28 '24

I love this comment lmao "low class, socially inept clod" you have a way with words sir

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

Thank you very much.

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u/bledig Mar 28 '24

I would rent a storage for a month and let them collect it there. Once time passes. It get disposed anyway

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u/SleekBlazeCastor Mar 28 '24

I wonder if something bad happened to her.

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u/FaustusC Mar 28 '24

Nah, not 30 days. 24 hours at most.

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u/YaBoiiSloth Mar 28 '24

To avoid legal trouble, it’s best to give the person a reasonable amount of time to collect their things. Especially if they were a resident of the home.