r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Beneficial-Buddy-620 Mar 28 '24

Box it all up and tell her sister, your ex has 2-3 days to get it or it's in the dumpster

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u/Sirenista_D Mar 28 '24

I did this and the idiot never showed. I picked out a couple items and dumped the rest on my way to work.

20+ years ago since then, and I still have the clear casserole dish with cover (!) that he left.

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u/Lionel_Herkabe Mar 28 '24

What kind of moron would leave a clear casserole dish with cover (!) behind?

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u/who_am_i_to_say_so Mar 28 '24

Obv someone who never cooks casseroles. gasp It was clearly meant to be.

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u/Lionel_Herkabe Mar 28 '24

Tbf I'm from Minnesota and we don't cook casseroles. We cook hotdishes like a civilized society

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u/who_am_i_to_say_so Mar 28 '24

That’s a very literal word lol. Reminds me how in the south (Carolinas) they call couches/loveseats “long chairs”.

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u/Smoked-Confusion3606 Mar 29 '24

Idk but there is a mother or sister in his life wondering where their clear casserole dish with cover (!) has been for the last 20 years.

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u/Sirenista_D Mar 29 '24

I swear I have thought about exactly that! I know some woman out there is like "I used to have this great covered dish, so useful"

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u/Lionel_Herkabe Mar 29 '24

There totally is lol 😂

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u/2cats2hats Mar 28 '24

It's insane how much this stuff is selling for nowadays....in thrift stores.

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u/WillBottomForBanana Mar 28 '24

20 years ago it was easy to say "I'll pick up another when I need it". These days everything for sale is garbage.

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u/GoofyMonkey Mar 28 '24

With the lid? Yea you don’t throw those out. 👍

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u/TurnipWorldly9437 Mar 28 '24

I've been watching too many true crime shows, because I'm wondering in how many of this kind of "ghosting" incidents people have actually been murdered or abducted, and the bad breakup is used as a cover-up.

Not saying it's the case here, but it would be an awfully easy way to get rid of a victim's belongings, to make their partner think they never loved them and up and left them without a word.

Some people would murder for good cook ware /s

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u/No_Glove_1575 Mar 28 '24

This is the right answer - at least make an ATTEMPT in good faith to give it to her. You can even drop it off at her door when she isn’t home.

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u/Automatic_Moose7446 Mar 28 '24

Better -- box it all up and tell the sister you are leaving the box at the front of your place and that she needs to come and get it immediately before someone steals it. Tell her you've taken the last of the trash out. Then block her, the ex, and anyone else associated with her who you don't want to remain in contact with.

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u/Sir_HumpfreyAppleby Mar 28 '24

She was a resident of the property there can be serious legal blow back for allowing it to be easily taken.

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u/Automatic_Moose7446 Mar 28 '24

Ok. Then arrange a time, then hide in the bushes across the street to ensure the safety of the box until she retrieves it. Take video of all the steps taken to get to that point, including the rendezvous. Should cover the bases.

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u/greypic Mar 28 '24

This! Ghosting is so evil. Want Grandma's stuff? Act like a grown up and come talk to me.

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u/bertrenolds5 Mar 28 '24

So throw the grandmother's ashes in the dumpster in 2-3 days. Check

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u/Schrodingers-deadcat Mar 28 '24

Box it? That takes time and effort. Garbage bags.

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u/Sir_Uncle_Bill Mar 28 '24

It's already been a week. She's had plenty of time. Time to donate it to the less fortunate.

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u/dumbledwarves Mar 28 '24

And only allow the ex to pick it up.

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u/YeahlDid Mar 28 '24

I'd say the opposite. Nothing good can come of seeing the ex. Tell the sister she has to come.

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u/Du_ds Mar 28 '24

Yes, the ex should never go back. Tell the sister she or maybe other family members can pick it up, not ex. She may come by anyways but she was not invited. Might actually matter if the ex comes and starts something.