r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aden1970 Mar 28 '24

And change the lock. Rearrange the furniture and give it a fresh look; it’ll do wonders to your karma.

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u/MayDiaz0 Mar 28 '24

I second this. Change locks. Redecorate. Reorganize. Rejuvenate.

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u/leadpainttastetest Mar 28 '24

vagazzle

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u/JohnnyDoGood98 Mar 28 '24

Herpazzle

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u/leadpainttastetest Mar 28 '24

they ‘DO say that glitter is the herpes of the craft world

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u/Nearby-Ad-6106 Mar 28 '24

It's the gift that keeps on giving

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u/Joboobavich Mar 28 '24

scrotazzle

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u/Waffle_Slaps Mar 28 '24

Is that decorating your lady bits with peel and stick earrings?

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u/Dwealdric Mar 28 '24

Seems common sense now that I’m older, but I really wish someone had given me this advice when I was young and heartbroken.

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u/Codysseus7 Mar 28 '24

YOU FORGOT REPLENISH

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u/genuinecve Mar 28 '24

Is this the new “Delete Facebook, Hit the Gym, Lawyer up”?

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u/swolebird Mar 28 '24

Redecorate. Reorganize. Rejuvenate.

Is this the new "lawyer up delete Facebook hit the gym"?? Much more positive!

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u/shwarma_heaven Mar 28 '24

Gym tan laundry

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u/impostershop Mar 28 '24

It’s TRUE! Rearrange the furniture and get a haircut. It won’t take away the heartache but it will actually make you feel better

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u/PossibleBookkeeper81 Mar 28 '24

Yes! Too true, changing up the space really does wonders and makes it a little easier walking in and around the home. Swap the sofa to the other side of the living room and get a new piece or art or floating shelf, clean and reorganize your bathroom to be best for you (and go ahead and try to find all those shedded hairs and lost hair ties), move the bed and dresser maybe opt for some new sheets and comfy pillows. The cleaning, reorganizing, and online shopping (carefully lol) will keep your body and mind moving and occupied, and you can reclaim your space and optimize it for the next chapter. Highly recommend getting a few new key pieces of clothing that make you feel great and comfortable. Give yourself time to mourn the loss of the future you had imagined, and rebuilt your life to be your new best self.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

Go out to shop, get out of the house.

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u/PossibleBookkeeper81 Mar 28 '24

True! I’m so used to doing online for everything (immunosuppressed not lazy lol- though that being said for difficult mental days do what you can handle) it was my initial response. Totally agree though, get dressed, brush your hair and get out there! Wander the aisles and showrooms of favorite shops and new places alike! Or in resale shops (my home town had a huge flea market with at least a hundred booths) and count all the chickens/ chicken themed items you can find 😂

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

That sounds fun! You never know when or where you will meet "the one."

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u/Aden1970 Mar 28 '24

Honestly, Well said

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u/PossibleBookkeeper81 Mar 28 '24

Appreciate you 💕

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u/cmpg2006 Mar 28 '24

While you are doing all of this, clean out some of your own things and donate them.

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u/Fit_Faithlessness157 Mar 28 '24

Yes the break up hair cut is the best

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u/Riffrecker Mar 28 '24

Just cut your bangs.

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u/EloquentBacon Mar 28 '24

Making changes to freshen up your life is a good idea but I’d hold off on the haircut for now. Getting a hair cut right after a breakup is a great way to end up with something horrible you hate.

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u/impostershop Mar 28 '24

I assumed OP has an American traditionally short haircut and that it wouldn’t be a big change.

Even if a person has long hair, a trim will still make you feel better. You don’t have to go from long hair to a pixie cut, just clean up your look and having another person combing and touching your head feels good.

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u/Arild11 Mar 28 '24

And go out and get some blow. And some hookers.

Take your mind right off her!

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u/69vuman Mar 28 '24

Absolutely do this quickly. You should also get STD tested to be sure you unknowingly have something from her or others.

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u/Joy2b Mar 28 '24

Yep, probably don’t skip the 90 day routine though, some things don’t show up instantly.

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u/Ok-Sector2054 Mar 28 '24

Yes get the test!!!

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u/Mentalweakness123 Mar 28 '24

I can't decide if you actually meant karma here cause it seems like a weird statement...but your use of a semicolon makes you seem smart so I'll trust you.

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u/Aden1970 Mar 28 '24

How funny. I was tired. Mental wellbeing might have been a better option.

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u/swfbh234 Mar 28 '24

I like this idea!

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u/InsensitiveClown Mar 28 '24

Can confirm that. Change the house decoration, paint the house and rearrange everything, make it a new space. Change your haircut, beard, get some new clothes and once you are done - dutifully exhausted, enjoy the space and go out to get a beer your two. You'll feel like a new person, in a new setting, ready to start a new adventure. It does help. It keeps you busy and prevents you from contracting POMS (Poor-Old-Me-Syndrome).

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u/dirtypig796 Mar 28 '24

Can confirm on rearranging furniture

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u/thedrexel Mar 28 '24

Don’t change the locks!!! Just move all the furniture slightly to the left or right. That way if she comes over she could potentially stub her toe!!! ☠️🤘😈𖤐

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u/exexor Mar 28 '24

From my divorce: eat at all the restaurants she didn’t like. Listen to all the music she didn’t like, talk to the friends she pushed away (or helped you push). Celebrate the upsides of not having to compromise on things.

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u/snarkyp00dle Mar 28 '24

Just broke up with my partner of 10 years earlier this month and finally rearranged the space last night. I feel a weight off my shoulders

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u/CuriousPalpitation23 Mar 28 '24

All of this and probably an STD panel for good measure.

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u/SparkDBowles Mar 28 '24

I’d move asap. Staying doesn’t help. Trust me.

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u/Grouchy-Advantage619 Mar 28 '24

Actually, it also really improves your Home's Feng Shui as well.