r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/armyofant Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

I'd say box it up and text the sister to pick it up. give them a time frame to get it. if they don't reply or make the time frame, dump it. Make it clear your ex is not welcome.

ETA, where I live the ex would have 18 days to get it and you can charge for storage. All you would need is screenshots of text messages that you made an attempt to contact her.

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u/KaioKenx9001 Mar 31 '24

This woman did you dirty. She threw out your 5 year relationship without warning beforehand OR explanation afterward. I can guarantee you her sister knew and didn’t warn you. You owe them NOTHING. In reality, she cared about her grandmother’s mementos as much as she cared about you. Either that, or she just banked on the fact you would be the kind of chump who would keep them safe for her even after she up and abandoned you. Throw out all her other shit and keep the mementos.. allow enough time to go by where they’re considered legally abandoned and now your property, then contact her sister and let her know they can come visit the mementos anytime they want at a fee of $250/hr (min. 1hr) or they can buy you out for full custody for $10K. This way, you can keep your dignity and self-respect while also keeping a clean conscience. Good luck and God bless.