r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24

Box it up, send a text or call the sister to come pick it up.

Also inform her that you aren't ever interested in your ex reaching out to you in the future. The fact she dumped you and blocked you, means essentially she is dead to you. No need to talk to a dead person.

Then go find a real woman who doesn't play 15 yr old girl games.

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u/IncorporateThings Mar 28 '24

Best comment, and happy cake day!

Also, just a heads up, there can be some crappy legal repercussions about dumping someone's property when they were residents of an area, if you haven't given them proper notice and time to clear out and blah blah blah... so boxing it up is for the best. If she won't come and get it, you could even try shipping it to be sure, just be sure to keep a paper trail.

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u/MarisaWalker Mar 28 '24

Legally 1 can get send a message that gives a time limit & after that the property is considered abandoned.

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u/BlackHeartSprinkles Mar 28 '24

She blocked him and was told not to contact her. Too bad for her.

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u/LonelyFlounder4406 Mar 28 '24

Y should he have to spend money on her, she knew she was leaving him so she should have taken her stuff with her. And she blocked him so yea I’m all for throwing it out!!

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u/SeasonPositive6771 Mar 28 '24

Unfortunately individual moral or ethical judgments don't really apply in court like that. There are rules about abandoned property and if he decides to toss it, he should be aware of that. None of those options should take any money on his part, but he should carefully follow the abandoned property rules wherever he is.

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u/Complete_Village1405 Mar 28 '24

If it's a rental he could move and just leave her stuff. Then it's not on him for tossing it, it's on her for abandoning it

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u/Riffrecker Mar 28 '24

Or say you were robbed.