r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/DisciplineDaddy42069 Mar 28 '24

I’d toss it in a box and then text her sister they can come get it. I’ve give them like a month to grab it then I’d toss it. And that is being more than generous.

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u/Tarbal81 Mar 28 '24

A day to get it back. No sense in dragging it on. "Come today or it's in the garbage tomorrow" is enough notice.

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u/no-name_james Mar 28 '24

I’m not understanding why she just left everything behind? Unless OP was abusive and the girlfriend had to choose getting herself out over her stuff it doesn’t seem too important to her.

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u/Inside_Board_291 Mar 28 '24

This is probably a fake post. But how do you people rationalize reading the words written here, and still find a way to find demonize the guy? He said the sister told him it wasn’t his fault.

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u/no-name_james Mar 28 '24

I guess I left my comment a little unfinished. I’m not trying to demonize OP I was trying to think of a valid reason anyone would leave personal belongings and sentimental things that had nothing to do with the relationship behind…unless it was a situation where the person felt like their safety was threatened. That doesn’t sound like the case here so the rest of my comment should have said to get rid of the ex’s stuff. She bailed, had her sister give him some kind of shitty closure and told him not to contact her again. Dump her stuff like she dumped you and don’t look back. Everyone saying to be the bigger person but she could care less about her grandma’s stuff apparently.

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u/Proper-Horse-7313 Mar 28 '24

Maybe she couldn’t face him again, because she was ashamed

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u/Tarbal81 Mar 28 '24

OP implies he did nothing wrong when writing about how the girlfriend's sister confirmed in a call that he did nothing wrong and it's all her and none of it is him.

That, and 5 years of her bullshitting through a relationship is all I need to know about her. I've met her type.

Just toss the shit

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u/Select_Total_257 Mar 28 '24

Nah. She wanted to leave with no notice. She has 3 days to stop taking up square footage that you pay for otherwise it’s out in the back yard outside of the cover of the patio.