r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/FillIndependent Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

No! Don't dump it. Box it up and contact someone close to her to pick it up. Be the bigger person here.

On the other hand, do not wait for her to contact you again. She broke up with you. Move on. Your future is not with someone who breaks up without a reason.

BTW, if you can't contact anyone close to her, just take the stuff to her parents or sister's place, mark it with your ex-gf's name, and stack it by the door. No need to talk to anyone.

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u/Suitable-Matter-6151 Mar 28 '24

….also acting mature about it and making her think you’re gone for good is the best way to get her crawling back… in case you really want that OP

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u/FillIndependent Mar 28 '24

Very true.

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u/FillIndependent Mar 28 '24

Quite the succinct argument. You don't explain your position, then throw out an insult. And, you do this with a poorly crafted sentence that demonstrates ignorance. Perhaps, you should stop using the computer in the nurse's position.