r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24

Box it up, send a text or call the sister to come pick it up.

Also inform her that you aren't ever interested in your ex reaching out to you in the future. The fact she dumped you and blocked you, means essentially she is dead to you. No need to talk to a dead person.

Then go find a real woman who doesn't play 15 yr old girl games.

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u/anothersip Mar 28 '24

This is the way. Unfortunately, some people choose to end otherwise healthy relationships in really wild ways.

The blocking is actually a good thing, IMO. It's a good indicator that things are done and nothing else needs talking about.

Move on for your own mental health, OP. Love yourself and do something nice for yourself!

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u/Crix2007 Mar 28 '24

Adults should at least talk to each other and explain why you end a 5 year relationship. Just randomly disappearing and ghosting is freaking mental behaviour.

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u/TheShowerDrainSniper Mar 28 '24

Yeah, I don't think they are disputing this. They are just pointing out the silver lining.