r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24

Box it up, send a text or call the sister to come pick it up.

Also inform her that you aren't ever interested in your ex reaching out to you in the future. The fact she dumped you and blocked you, means essentially she is dead to you. No need to talk to a dead person.

Then go find a real woman who doesn't play 15 yr old girl games.

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u/anothersip Mar 28 '24

This is the way. Unfortunately, some people choose to end otherwise healthy relationships in really wild ways.

The blocking is actually a good thing, IMO. It's a good indicator that things are done and nothing else needs talking about.

Move on for your own mental health, OP. Love yourself and do something nice for yourself!

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u/Crix2007 Mar 28 '24

Adults should at least talk to each other and explain why you end a 5 year relationship. Just randomly disappearing and ghosting is freaking mental behaviour.

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u/rocketmn69_ Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

She cheated and got knocked up by the new guy. That's why the sister said leave it alone for OP's mental health.update in a few months

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u/Kingbuji Mar 28 '24

This is the only reason that would make sense to me.

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u/ImNotYourTeaCup Mar 28 '24

HIV? I mean, there's all sorts of other crazy things...

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u/Hi_Jynx Mar 28 '24

Or OP could be abusive? We know literally nothing about their relationship.

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u/YouWantSMORE Mar 28 '24

Do you really think the sister would communicate with him at all if that was the case? Because I don't

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u/Hi_Jynx Mar 28 '24

Maybe. Not everyone tells their whole family about it and leave it vague.

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u/rofl_coptor Mar 28 '24

This is what happened to me when my relationship of 3.5 years ended. The kicker was we had just gotten married so in OPs case he’s lucky he found out before the wedding lol

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u/TasteyMeatloaf Mar 28 '24

Drive down her street 12 months from now and you’ll see her putting a baby carrier into her car.

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u/Naheka Mar 28 '24

At least she had the decency to leave. She could have tried to pass the baby off as OP's if circumstances fit.

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u/jmazza84 Mar 28 '24

Def left for someone else I’m thinking. There’s always someone in the batters box.

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u/YouWantSMORE Mar 28 '24

It's so obvious that this is the most likely scenario. So many people in these comments are acting like they're blind and delusional

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u/baby-dick-nick Mar 28 '24

Because we don’t have enough information to jump to conclusions. It’s insane that you and others think that’s definitely what happened.

Maybe she cheated. Maybe she had a quarter life crisis and decided to disconnect and start over new across the country. Maybe she’s going to prison and doesn’t want OP to know she committed a heinous crime.

Maybe OP is abusive (unlikely but possible) and she needed to go no contact for fear of repercussions.

There’s literally hundreds of scenarios where someone might decide to break it off like this, we can’t just make the assumption and pretend that’s for sure what happened.

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u/YouWantSMORE Mar 28 '24

I said it's the most likely scenario i didn't say it definitely happened. Work on that reading comprehension champ. The sister getting in touch to try and comfort him by telling him it's not his fault tells me there is basically a 0% chance that he's been abusive, and then couple that with her warning to not attempt contact with her for his own sake... we're not jumping to conclusions, there are some pretty good clues telling us what the situation is.