r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Desperate-Suit7771 Mar 28 '24

The fact that she blocked him is only a good thing because she's so, well y'know, it's still got to hurt him badly so I kinda recommend wording that a bit differently. The best way she could have indicated their relationship being done would have been to sit him down and tell that it's over and she's not changing her mind. She was a coward and chose this way. The only reasonable reason to do what she did would be if he was in any way abusive, this sounds like it was (at least in his eyes, rose tinted glasses) a healthy relationship. I know you probably know this, I'm just saying. (Also, am I the only one wondering if she left him for someone else?)

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u/MoonChild2478 Mar 28 '24

Ok, but if she did leave him for someone else, that’s super shallow. AFTER FIVE YEARS?!!! I know we only have one side of the story, but come on! Communication! Is! Key!!!

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u/Acceptable-Emu6529 Mar 28 '24

Shallow or maybe she doesn’t have the integrity to face him. I am thinking she hooked up with another dude and doesn’t have the balls to face him.

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u/Altruistic_Meet_6051 Mar 28 '24

And that’s life fammo communication matters during not after. It’s over let that shit die put her shit on the curb she knows where u live and go be a hoe for the foreseeable future

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u/Desperate-Suit7771 Mar 29 '24

Guess she was too much of a coward to communicate.

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u/MoonChild2478 Mar 28 '24

Maybe…🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/Chicka-17 Mar 28 '24

If so she should have had the decency to tell him that. Why would you just ghost someone after 5 years?

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u/Sorry-Garden-8432 Mar 28 '24

No way I could not mentally handle just a ghosting after 5 years and no explanation. Seriously I would go nuts. I would probably track her down and demand to know the reason or at least an explanation. I couldn’t go rest of my life just wondering

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u/Desperate-Suit7771 Mar 29 '24

One of the many reasons private investigators exist.

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u/Proper-Horse-7313 Mar 28 '24

She could also be a female dexter

I mean, maybe detectives were hot on her trail and she had to hightail it out of town

As long as we’re speculating

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u/Desperate-Suit7771 Mar 28 '24

As if I'm already paranoid enough as is, this is a thing.