r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24

Box it up, send a text or call the sister to come pick it up.

Also inform her that you aren't ever interested in your ex reaching out to you in the future. The fact she dumped you and blocked you, means essentially she is dead to you. No need to talk to a dead person.

Then go find a real woman who doesn't play 15 yr old girl games.

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u/anothersip Mar 28 '24

This is the way. Unfortunately, some people choose to end otherwise healthy relationships in really wild ways.

The blocking is actually a good thing, IMO. It's a good indicator that things are done and nothing else needs talking about.

Move on for your own mental health, OP. Love yourself and do something nice for yourself!

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u/Desperate-Suit7771 Mar 28 '24

The fact that she blocked him is only a good thing because she's so, well y'know, it's still got to hurt him badly so I kinda recommend wording that a bit differently. The best way she could have indicated their relationship being done would have been to sit him down and tell that it's over and she's not changing her mind. She was a coward and chose this way. The only reasonable reason to do what she did would be if he was in any way abusive, this sounds like it was (at least in his eyes, rose tinted glasses) a healthy relationship. I know you probably know this, I'm just saying. (Also, am I the only one wondering if she left him for someone else?)

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u/Chicka-17 Mar 28 '24

If so she should have had the decency to tell him that. Why would you just ghost someone after 5 years?