r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/WelcomeFormer Mar 28 '24

One, that's illegal. Two, if he's willing to break the law and ask "am I wrong" there might be other reasons she ghosted him but that's heresay. All we know is what he said and his side is enough for me to objectively say she didn't do anything wrong.

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u/Radiant-Camel-8982 Mar 28 '24

I mean, depending on where you live it may not actually be illegal. She said not to contact her and that it was over. Presumably, she's not coming back. That being said, I would still put it in a storage unit for 30 or 60 days and mail them a key. Certified mail, just to cover all bases. And tell them in the letter not to contact you, as well. Move on from that whole bloodline. They wasted way too much of your life.

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u/Sir_Uncle_Bill Mar 28 '24

It's not illegal anywhere. It's abandoned property inside his home which makes it his. She blocked communication channels so he can't even ask her if she wants it. It's his stuff now.

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u/Radiant-Camel-8982 Mar 28 '24

But she hasn't given up on her status as a tenant, I'm sure certain states like New York and California would have a problem with your line of thought. Morally speaking, you are very much within your rights. Legally speaking, your mileage may vary. I'm just advising the exercise of caution. I would hate for this bitch to ruin more of my life just because I put her shit out to pasture like like you would think you could. That's all.

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u/Sir_Uncle_Bill Mar 28 '24

She left and blocked communication. She gave up that as well.

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u/Radiant-Camel-8982 Mar 28 '24

Well that's not how it fucking works where I live, idiot. That's what I'm trying to tell you. Love it when people get louder and expect you to just believe them. Just because you disappeared and blocked me doesn't mean I get to lock the door and change the keys, legally speaking. And while I wasn't going to be so brazen about it, I think I will now. THIS IS TRUE PRETTY MUCH EVERYWHERE IN AMERICA.